Yeah, it has to come from within. I’m not a fan of AA personally (too much religion and too much of the “alcoholic for life, relapse is inevitable, esp. if you don’t attend meetings for the rest of your life and even if you DO, you are BOUND to fail, eventually” mind-set).
I’m sorry, but the whole “one day at a time” philosophy seems like a perfect set-up for/jusitification OF failure to me. What other huge commitment does one approach this way? Marriage? Parenthood? A mortgage? No. It’s not any of this one day at a time shit, it’s a long-term COMMITMENT you take on with an attitude of “forever” (or in the case of a mortage, damn close to it :rolleyes:)
But at the same time, whatever works for the individual. Some I’ve known thrive with AA and counting the days (even to the ridiculous, imo, point of being clean for years then taking a sip of beer and going back to day one) whatever. If it works for you, I am all for it.
There IS a physical addiction involved that is beyond “force of will”, ime. But beyond that is usually a psychological issue(s) that is far deeper.
BTW, the often heard scare stories about “stopping cold turkey” or “quitting on your own” keeps a lot of people using because they are terrified of what might happen IF they stop outside of a medical setting. Yes, alcohol withdrawal CAN kill you, unlike most other drug withdrawals, but the odds are very small. More info should be made available about how to safely get off it on your own for those with acute physical dependency (gradual decrease of consumption, etc…)
The so-called Rational Recovery method is one that approaches the issue from a “force of will” perspective. It pretty much says cut the BS, make a decision, take control, and DO IT. It works for some. But like AA, not for everyone.
Ultimately, until someone is willing to make that decision and stick with it in whatever way works for them, nothing anyone else can do.