No, actually “people” won’t think that. At least, a lot of people won’t think that. Women committing over the top violence against men is also unacceptable. I don’t “cheer” anyone getting get shit kicked out of him (or her). I certainly do not approve of dick-removal.
Women committing violence in excess of that needed for self-defense in a given situation should be subjected to legal penalty just as men are.
I had strong feelings for my gf. We were talking about moving in together. I blamed myself for making her angry. It was a toxic relationship and I’m just thankful I broke it off. I would have eventually fought back and thats not something I’d ever want to live with.
Just to clear up the confusion, they’re not a couple. Jay Z is married to Beyonce Knowles. Solange Knowles is Beyonce’s sister.
Cites, please?
Because I wouldn’t be living with a woman with a gun. And if she used a knife, she’d have to totally attack me by surprise, because I could put distance and furniture in between me and her. Ultimately, I could simply get out of our shared house/apartment/whatever, and be safe.
But since you’ve brought up lethal weapons, I’m sure there are stats on homicides by men against women, and vice versa. I haven’t peeked, but I don’t need to, to know which one predominates, whether they’re able to break domestic violence out as a category or not.
So you weren’t concerned that she’d track you down and kill you?
I ask this because this is why so many abused women stay with their abusers - they’re afraid it will get far worse if they try to leave.
I agree that there’s a disparity in how violence is treated when it’s woman on man. My brother had a girlfriend with a temper and was arrested twice when neighbors called to report fighting in their apartment. Both times, he was released once it was learned she was hitting him, and both times they refused to press charges against her (no one would file a report). He ended the relationship after the 2nd incident. The cavalier attitude towards such violence means there’s no incentive for women to curb such impulses. And yeah, I can imagine the outrage if the police or media asked a woman who’d been hit by a man “well, what’d you do to set him off?”
As for what you can do: as has been pointed out, there’s a power imbalance and, in my experience, when emotions are running high a woman can forget that. A passive demonstration typically cools things quickly, or at least causes a change in strategy from physical assault to verbal.
This is a British study. I’d guess America has typical averages.
Boys/Men still commit more violent crimes. But the Girls/Women are working hard to catch up.
This also happens in the grade school level where many times its the little girls who start something then turn on the tears and act like the sweet victim when caught.
That was very common even in the 1950’s.
Also in my house, I one older & 4 younger sisters. One brother that survived & one that died very early in his life.
I was always bigger than all my siblings from an early age so I was really impressed with the fact that I was a protector and must never hit. It would have been way to easy for me to do some real damage without knowing I was.
Looking back on it years later, I could see that my parents were very alert to who actually started what. It took a long time to get over that. The ARMY took the last of it.
Now I am so over it that I have swung way over towards the “Some people just need killin.” side of things that I have to be careful the other way. 
The joys of seeing feminist double standards. The always amusing Jezebel reported on it with this:
Because if this was the other way round of course they’d be asking these questions. And of course they would have lead with “maybe she cheated on him” or “she offended him”. Because obviously the reason why it happened is what is important, not the fact that she actually did it.
There was some gobsmackingly choice comments as well until some sane heads came in and pointed out the double standards.
http://jezebel.com/solange-knowles-attacks-jay-z-after-the-met-ball-as-be-1575136934
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Just a little example:
It was not physically provoked from what I read. He outright abused her. I brought it up as an example of people minimizing physical abuse of women by men.
The fact that she did it is obvious in the reporting; there’s video and everything. The “why” is maybe interesting (at least to gossip-mongers) because it’s not a standard domestic violence issue - Solange and JayZ are not a couple. She doesn’t have a known history of violence, so it’s unique and thus spurring some discussion, though I certainly find the victim-blaming disgusting. I’d be wondering whether she took some drugs, whether she’s an alcoholic, maybe JayZ called her out earlier on horrendous behavior from those and she took the relative “privacy” of the elevator to retaliate.
Personally, it looks like a straight-up assault to me, but since it’s not between a couple and no one is running to the cops, I doubt anything can be done.
Even if the why is interesting, the double standard is in the instantly jumping to “he cheated on her”.
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In fact, you need to get to the third offered reason until they manage to say something that criticises Solange: “Is she just an angry drunk?”. They then follow that up with “Are they all used to this bickering?”, because you know, this is just “bickering”, not violent assault.
Where are they saying “is this because Solange is a violent person that physically assaulted someone with no provocation?” That’s right, they didn’t. Because, like so many feminist blogs, Jezebel is overflowing with double standards.
Before then continuing on to “Is she just a mean drunk?” It’s not like that article didn’t have unsupported hypotheticals towards both people.
Seriously? Mean?
My first wife became alcholic late in life. The last 5 years of marriage she was extremely violent. I wouldn’t hit her but when I restrained her I would use enough force to cause some pain. Like when I held her arms I would tighten my grip to make sure she felt it. If I was removing a weapon I made sure she got twisted around enough to get the point without really causing any damage. I found divorce to be the best defense.
Solange, welcome to the Dope. You’ll find that most people around here are pretty welcoming.
Jezebel is a “feminist blog” the same way that its companion site, Gawker, is a hard-hitting news source. Both are aimed at page-clicks and controversy. There’s some merit to them but you have to shovel out a lot of bullshit, idiocy, and outright trolling to find that.
And yes, trolling Jezebel either as a he-man-woman-hater character or a men-are-always-scum character is extremely popular.
Unfortunately a lot of my friends seem to like linking to them on Facebook. I get a lot of it, yet somehow none of them have commented when I shared that article. Funny, really.
I guess he must of made a comment and she didn’t like it?
I agree with if a man hits a woman he’s hated but if a woman does I we just wonder why
I know someone people won’t agree with me but I’ve always said if a woman can give she can take it. Never hit any one but seen it where a woman has pushed a man and he snapped which is understandable in my eyes.