Sorry to hear that.
Many people are discharged from formal cancer follow-up at 5 or 10 years disease free.
Bony mets and brain mets can develop over months, or over years. It’s hard to know. To diagnose them you need xrays, bone scans, CT or MRI scans, ultrasound scans, lots of other tests.
IF she had these tests at the time and they showed no cancer, it is possible there was no cancer to see at that time. If she didn’t have the tests at the time, it needs to be determined whether she should have had them and didn’t, or was offered them and refused, or something else.
Hindsight is 20-20, and unfortunately you can’t give everyone who complains of “just not feeling right” a full body scan, so perhaps AT THE TIME her doctors were justified in not carrying out more detailed tests…hard one to call without all the facts. Could be negligence, could be a judgement call that just didn’t work out.
Sometimes we know there is probably cancer, and we just don’t go looking for it- say an 85 year old with anaemia and an irregular bowel habit comes to me. Now, I know the most likely cause is a colonic tumour. But perhaps the patient isn’t very fit (lets say a couple of strokes, a heart attack and lung disease), and I know the surgeons would never operate and the chemo and radiotherapy wouldn’t work very well or for very long and might kill her.
Meanwhile, all she complains of is a little constipation and diarrhoea…
Now, do we opt for colonoscopy and go down the road of treating an elderly person aggressively, or do we sit down, say “your symptoms don’t seem too bad, but there could be a major problem like cancer- would you like to have the tests, bearing in mind you might not be well enough for the treatment to give you a benefit, or would you just like to wait and see how things go”.
A lot of sick, elderly people would rather just wait it out, and many of them will die of their heart disease or dementia or emphysema long before the cancer kills them.