How embarrassed should I be about my hobby?

Warning: Far too many words on cartoon pony fans:

Unfortunately, I have to partially agree with Asymptotically fat. I was a Brony at some point when I just took it to mean “person who likes the show”. I’m sure I was a little annoying about it because there definitely were people who attacked anyone who liked the show merely because it was breaking gender roles, but otherwise the first two seasons were decent cartoons. That’s not too surprising since we’re in pretty much a golden age of animation at the moment, FLM is above mediocre, but not the best around right now.

I had to distance myself from Brony pretty hard when it started becoming clear the kind of community it was cementing itself as. There are a lot of perfectly decent people who are really into the show, people who do charity work and are kind, and enjoy the friendship message of the show. I’ve met them, and they exist male or female. I still think the first two seasons are entertaining if not particularly complex television, and some of the music is good, even some fan remixes and art.

Unfortunately, the fandom is almost characterized on the internet at large at this point by the… uh… deviants. If someone actually identifies as a Brony I have to seriously question them, because to me Bronyism goes well beyond simply kind of liking a silly cartoon pony show and into a weird culture that often flat out devolves into the worst excesses of any community that ultimately stems from 4chan.

That doesn’t mean that if you identify as a Brony, you’re necessarily bad, but it is enough that I have to stop and wonder. The community at large has become so toxic in a broad sense that it carries a sort of unfortunate guilt by association at this point. It’s a sort of identity that just goes beyond “Whovian” or Harry Potter nerds.

In some ways, it really does mirror the whole reason furries became anathema. There wasn’t anything wrong in a general sense with people who were really into shows with anthropomorphic animals for whatever reason, but a shift happened where an incredibly notable, visible section of the community became so bad and creepy (read the link) that it begins to become questionable when people don’t make efforts to distance themselves from the whole thing.

Unfortunately, I have to come down on the side of condemning BPC’s hobby. It’s always difficult to shut down peoples interests or say something they like is wrong. In fact, in an absolute moral sense I don’t think BPC is doing anything wrong unless he’s trying to get Tara Strong to read his fanfics or something. However, I do think that contributing to this sort of thing is also directly contributing to the incredibly bizarre, insular, strange community that Bronies have become.

I was happy at one point that the following of MLP showed an advance in “shows for girls” being taken as seriously from a design, marketing, and acceptance standpoint as shows for boys have been for over a decade now. That MLP could have just a serious peripheral following as Transformers or Adventure Time (or course, Adventure Time is a post-hoc example since it’s a newer show) or whatever else. But all the weird sexualization and memetic bullshit warps it to the point that I think the community is actively harming the cause of gender equality in viewership. There are shows that are relatively gender neutral, and shows that are action focused – both get some amount of respect and girls and boys can watch both (but not too equal :rolleyes:), but once it comes to a show that is actively girly it gets shoved into this little corner with a GIRLS ONLY sign. All this weirdness around the show that started breaking those barriers projects an image that this is what happens when you dare to make a show aimed at girls that boys and adults can like too.

That may be a tad melodramatic, but time and time again I see Bronies reinforcing every bad or weird stereotype about the community, and othering themselves. Othering themselves makes for a great clubhouse, but reinforces that liking shows for girls is somehow “weird” in a society where we’re struggling to break those prejudices. Not only that, it directly goes against the inclusive message of the show. The community in many ways feels like a case study on how the Five Geek Social Fallacies make being overly permissive into something decidedly uninclusive.

I’m not going to condemn BPC as a pedophile or a misogynist or any other mean nasty word, but I think the hobby in and of itself contributes to A Problem™, and I really don’t think being open about it is doing him any favors.

You might be a brony if:

  1. You are on a first name basis with all the clerks at the toy store.
  2. You have several made up little sisters and nieces to use as an excuse to explain why you are buying so much MLP merchandise.
  3. You have an opinion on who is best pony.
  4. You use the terms “anypony”, “somepony”, and “nopony”.
  5. You think that this thread is THE. WORST. POSSIBLE. THING!
  6. You’re a guy and are willing to wear a dress in public - but only if it is 20% cooler.
  7. Eeyup
  8. You know that parasprites are basically the same thing as tribbles.
  9. You know not to feed parasprites.
  10. You truly believe that friendship is magic.
  11. You have your own theory on the fate of Starswirl the Bearded
  12. You actually read all of these items.
  13. You understood all of these items.

It’s not so much that thoughts are harmless, it’s that there’s no way to police them – you can’t read people’s minds.

I don’t subscribe to the idea that ideas are harmless either, and I’m not such an ideological idiot that I would let someone who writes erotic child rape fiction and is obsessed with the idea watch my kid.

I just don’t believe doing that alone makes them a child rapist, and I am against criminalizing it or giving the government permission to throw them in a cage for it.

If I knew a family member or friend who confided in me they wrote child rape erotica, or were obsessed with the idea I would strongly advise them to get help before a child is devastated for life or they end up with a life sentence.

That’s because you are genuinely a good person.

The full extent of your right to judge someone else’s sexual preferences ends at the point where you decide they aren’t for you. Actions go further, but as long as those involved are all consenting adults and not breaking the law, you don’t have a right to care about those either.

That’s the lesson we were supposed to learn from resolving our homophobia, not just to push that onto more acceptable targets. If it’s consensual and it isn’t harming anyone, let it be.

I do think it’s funny Dopers of all people are saying “think of the children!!!” We’re the ones who told Bricker it probably wouldn’t bother his kid to accidentally find hardcore porn. But the faintest whiff of pedophilia, even when completely unwarranted, shuts that completely down.

I’ve not actually sought out MLP porn, but I’m going to guess it’s behind a NSFW filter on Deviant Art, just like any other pornographic drawings, and thus is properly marked for Google. You’re not finding it unless you are looking for it.

And, checking Google, the worst you will find are drawings of that one time they turned human or something–completely clothed, which is more than you can say for their pony forms.

Actually, anyone who has actually been treated with OCD will tell you that indeed all thoughts are okay, because that’s exactly what we have to learn. And, lately, with stuff like mindfulness, the same idea is being applied to depression as well.

It’s actually this reason that it’s such a hot topic for me when I see people saying there are wrong thoughts. I just think, you’re encouraging someone to have OCD. That’s what we do. We police our own thoughts.

I’ll also point out that, from a psychological standpoint, pedophilia is no longer a mental disorder. Because the definition of a mental disorder is a way of thinking that causes you distress or harms others. There is a pedophilic disorder, but it is now separate from pedophilia. Pedophilia by itself is just a paraphilia. I’ll also note that foot fetishism is also a paraphilia.

The only bad thoughts are thoughts that directly lead to bad actions. And I mean directly–you have to realize that any thought up to that direct thought that causes you to do it can still be ignored.

Depressed people have to ignore their desire to kill themselves while they try to get better. Sure, they replace their thoughts, but they also have to accept that there’s nothing wrong with them for having them, or else the thoughts will not go away.

That tends to happen when you have a hatred for one thing, and someone points out the similarities between that and another thing that you know you’re not supposed to hate.

Like gay people, what you happen to like (sexually or not) is not a choice. Like gay people, people look down on them as outsiders for enjoying something society says they shouldn’t. Like gay people, they are blasted for putting it “in people’s faces” and being enthusiastic about it. Like gay people, it’s something they often feel they need to keep secret.

Even if you were right, you’d have only found one way in which they are not alike. And a trivial one at that, as bisexual people do have a choice–should they only date the opposite gender? Heck, gay people have a choice–they can choose to be celibate. We as a society just don’t think they should be required to do so.

I don’t think the hobby constitutes a problem and although there are certainly areas of it (such as clopfics and porn art) that may be, I don’t see the fandom disappearing into that hole.

I keep an eye on stuff that appears on Equestria Daily, to see stuff my daughter might like - be it new art, cartoons, music videos, whatever. It’s the main portal into MLP fandom for us, and it does not post clopfics, and does not post unsafe pics.

It is a lame defense and a false equivalence. Like someone claiming furries are as persecuted as Palestinians.

People are not born Brony. You can’t claim to equate a person’s sexual orientation with their hobbies, and I find you are insulting many LGBT groups by doing so. Got a cite that people can’t help liking a show for little girls, and that they are born liking it BigT? Because I’d love to see it.

5, 8 and 11 are golden. :smiley:

@Jragon: that’s a really sensible, well-thought-out opinion, and I respect the hell out of that.

FYI, Starswirl’s fate was the subject of one of the official comics. I hope they animate that.

I’m a big fan of the “Hard Reset” trilogy version. And that story in general - it’s some damn good fiction.

Gotta get me those comics somewhere. Stupid extended universe canon. Although honestly, it could be worse - at least not that many people care about whether you’re violating the canon established in the CCG.

No, not really. Read this very well written, incisive, and touching Craked article written by a woman with OCD. She has thoughts about murdering her loved ones. All the time. Oppressively. She knows damn well those thoughts are “bad”, but she has to deal with them. And she does.

That’s my point. (As an aside, Guin, nobody in this entire thread is advocating “policing” thoughts. That’s a straw man.) All I ever meant in this discussion is that it is not good to think that all thoughts are O.K. It’s not good to have fantasies about killing your parents. That’s why the woman in the article I linked to got help. That’s my position in a nutshell. If someone is having thoughts or fantasies about harming themselves or someone else, get them some freaking help, because the “thoughts don’t matter” position is jaw-dropingly callous and self-servingly jaded.

Did I say such thoughts were okay? No, I did not. (Dude, I HAVE OCD. So I know exactly what that woman is talking about – they’re called “intrusive thoughts”. They’re not fantasies.)

so, there are sort of three threads here, maybe 4

  1. should the OP be ashamed of his hobby? Whether or not he should be ashamed, he certainly shouldn’t be sharing it on Facebook, or otherwise being public about it. I think that’s been answered pretty clearly.

  2. is all porn (that doesn’t involve hurting actual people by making it) okay? That’s the great debate question, and I’m going to skip over it.

  3. Is MLP porn a type of child porn? I really don’t think so. They are cartoon ponies with an apparent maturity at least of teenagers. They aren’t represented as children. I doubt people who are actually pedophiles fantasize about MLP.

2a) Does MLP porn contribute to something wrong in the Brony culture? Jragon says it does, but isn’t at all specific about what he thinks went sour in the Brony culture. I’m curious about this one.