Warning This post could be construed as whining/complaining or just general patheticness but I’m looking for good, honest advice.
Just a little bit of background. I’m a 28 year old professional, working as a consultant. The job market being what it was, consulting work is all I’ve been able to find to keep myself fed.
I will try to spare too many pointless details, but I do think some of that might count.
At 16, I met the man that I would later marry at the age of 19. At 26, we divorced, three kids later. When he left, I was jobless, carless, nearly homeless, and penniless. For that reason I gave custody of my children to him (despite his many, many flaws, he is a phenomenal father).
I was able to find a consulting gig shortly before the divorce went final. I moved into an efficiency apartment that took half of my weekly pay. All but 50 dollars of the other half went to child support. I managed to save enough to get a beater of a car (on financing, sadly enough) and move into a house-sharing situation. I got a better gig, made a little more money, and all was looking up. Child support was going out on time, all was well.
Then that gig ended, and since things had JUST begun to shore up financially for me, there hadn’t been enough time to prepare for the unexpected end. I had to move out of the house I was in, and into with a friend (my angel) while I sought work. For 3 months, I was unemployed, which, granted, is not long compared to the time that some people are out of work, but when you have no one else providing any income, or any sort of financial support, three kids to help support, and no sign of improvement, 3 months starts to feel like a lifetime.
Finally, I found my current gig, which is a very good one, pays even better (though not by much) than the previous one, and I have been there about 2.5 months - long enough to secure a new, permanent living arrangement. However, now I’m 6 months behind on child support. I am 6 months behind on my car payments, which, incidentally, needs a new exhaust system. I cannot seem to catch a break. If I could hit mysterious reset button, and start off fresh from today, I’d be all set. Obviously, it doesn’t work that way.
So, what DO I do? The ex has been exceedingly patient, but his patience is running (rightly so) very thin now. I just don’t know how I can even catch up, much less prepare myself for the inevitable end of THIS contract (although, that should be at least 4 months away). Of course, it is probably obvious that my credit is basically beyond repair (I don’t even get accepted for the 23.5% credit cards!! Which is good), so a loan is out of the question. Luckily, due to my several moves, the financing company has yet to track me down to retake possession of my car, but I don’t hold my breath that THAT luck will hold out for long. I have to believe there is light at the end of this rather long tunnel…
Anyone out there rebound from a situation like this? Have any thoughts on how I can start fixing things? Or at least stop them from getting worse?
I’m honestly asking for advice here - I have no idea where to go from this point.