What planet do you live on that romantic love is logical in any way? 
I met my future husband at the beginning of September, and when we were introduced, my actual thoughts going through my head were “I wouldn’t like to meet him on a dark night”. (Monobrow, monosyllabic and so muscular he was square… Turns out he is very shy and has the sweetest personality. No trace of thuggery in reality!)
I liked him soon enough, fancied him desperately by the end of the next May. Finally got a date out of him (he was shy, remember!) in October. First date, right after our first kiss he asks “Do you want to get married?” Not exactly a proposal but checking whether I was serious or looking for a fling.
Never looked back - I loved him deeply and irrevocably after our first date. That was 12 years ago. And the biggest surprise of all - he loves me!!
I totally agree.
Although, be careful. An intense attraction/interest can develop immediately.
Sometimes that person who we have so much attraction to initially, doesn’t look so great after a month or two.
Sometimes, that person still looks great after a month or two. And sometimes we go on to marry that person and live happily ever after. Then, people say “it was love at first sight” when really, that common feeling just happened to ALSO be there when you met your love.
I don’t think that this means you fell in love with them instantly, though.
I, on the other hand, met my wife and was attracted to her. But, I was in a dry spell, and really was just looking for some sex. She had a boyfriend in another state, and that made her kind of kooky for the first month, and I didn’t really know where it was going. Didn’t really know if I liked her for something long term.
After things settled down, and we weren’t having sex 3 times a day anymore, and we got to know each other. . .then we both started to realize it.
After a few months, I flew home to Maine for whatever reason, and when I got back to Baltimore she was waiting for me at the airport. I hadn’t totally missed her, but when I saw her at the airport, my heart just flipped and I knew it then.
Anyway, very happily married for 5.5 years. Together for about 8.
Love defies logic. Love is irrational.
I fell in love with my husband without knowing him. We have been married for 23 years. I love him still.
In some ways, because I fell in love with him without knowing much about him other than his name and the fact that I was thunder-struck in love with him, our marriage has lasted.
I didn’t fall in love with him because of who he was, or who I thought he was going to be, or what he did. I just loved him. And still do.
I agree about the teenagers comment. But I think what tends to happen with more mature people (who know what love is and isn’t) is that there can be a connection immediately, and if you know some fundamental things about the person’s character and background (which can be learned in a very short time), then you can make assumptions about things which you don’t know. So, you can wind up, in a very short amount of time, falling in love with someone, or perhaps more accurately, falling in love with the idea of who you think that person is. If your assumptions bear true over time, then it’s easy to look back and say that you loved the person from the outset. And I don’t think it’d be wrong to say so.
Ah…mine was in the span of two meetings.
The first at a Thanksgiving dinner up here in Bonny Skalland, the second at a pub (which stretched into a drinking session at someone else’s flat).
We made eyes over an Argos catalogue.
We don’t know how it will work out yet.
I tend to fall in love without warning. In retrospect it’s obvious that the relationship has been developing over the span of months but I never see it coming.
Of course, it’s only happened twice, so this could just be a statistical anomaly.