How frequently do you fight with your spouse/SO?

[Dazzling_White_Diamonds]

When we were first together and for the first 5 or so years that we were first married, we fought once a week or once every two weeks. Sometimes it was over money, as we were very broke, but usually it was over something not really worth fighting about.

As time passed, the fighting lightened considerably. Once a month, maybe. And generally it was about how he thought I was too strict with the kids and I thought he was too lax. This caused some larger problems that took us a bit to sort out, let me tell you.

We’ve been married nearly 21 years now, and rarely fight. As a matter of fact, I really can’t tell you the last time we argued, and that’s a great feeling. We worked together to fix the issues in our relationship - I can’t begin to tell you how lovely and wonderful it is.

Doesn’t mean we don’t disagree about things - on the contrary. Instead of getting riled up like we used to, we simply sit down and sort it out in a calm and reasonable manner.

[Mahna_Mahna]

@Ferret Herder

My husband and I have been married 10 years, and the worst we do on a semi-common basis is we’ll get grouchy at each other and kind of sulk, then we’ll feel bad about that, and kiss and make up. Otherwise over important issues, the person who’s in the wrong pretty much knows it, and the other will do some gentle explanation/a mild lecture/a more serious lecture.

Yup, this is us too.

It’s really The Boy’s doing - he doesn’t have a single button for me to push, and given that I inherited some of my mother’s legendary Iberian temper, I certainly do try to pick a fight rather than talk it out. I suppose it means we’re in a good place relationship-wise, though I have to admit that I do occasionally find myself missing angry make-up sex.