How happy are you, right now in your life?

7- moderately content, occasionally ecstatically happy, and sometimes going nuts. I have a less than 2 week old baby and a diabetic toddler. It’s a little crazy and sleepless. If I were getting more sleep, it’d be more like 8. I have two beautiful children and a wonderful husband, and very good friends.

On the con side I have the stress of trying to juggle our older kid’s medical condition and not having much money.

I voted 8. Everything is great except my apartment. We are trying to get out of the lease because it has become an unliveable environment but the landlord is hemming and hawing about whether or not he will let us out of the lease despite the fact that the ceiling came crashing down on my head 2 days ago. Other than that I have a wonderful fiance that I am marrying in 4 months, a great job, and kitties who sleep in the bed with me. That would make me a 10 except for that whole apartment thing.

I voted “8” and I am pretty content and happy right now.

Pros:

Great job - I get to work from home, travel for work about 1-2 times a month, and I make (IMHO) a pretty darn good salary. I’m valued and respected by my peers and senior/exec management. My manager is very hands-off with me and trusts that I’m doing my job every day and does not micro-manage me. I honestly love what I do right now.

Home - I own a house that I love and am getting many of the large projects/improvements completed.

Friends - I have a great core group of friends, some I’ve known for 25+ years.

Finances - I’ve not been in the paycheck-to-paycheck grind for quite awhile and my current income affords me the extra income to indulge my Want Monkey. Being single with no kids helps too! Haha

Relationship - Dating a great woman for about a year now. She is affectionate, loving, funny, and brilliant. It helps that she is also tall, blonde, and has great ta-ta’s. :smiley:

Cons (or the things that worry me):

Home - My place was built in 1890 and boy can it be a money pit. Additionally, due to the house market getting crushed and already owning in a neighborhood that was building momentum and gentrifying but has lost a lot of the gentrification momentum and property values have tanked, I’m now underwater and owe more than the house is worth. Although I had no plans to sell anytime soon, I know I won’t live here forever. It worries me that should an opportunity arise, I’m kind of stuck with this house unless I want to take a substantial (to me) loss.

Finances - I just don’t know how to save and invest for retirement properly. I’m woefully unprepared for retirement. I’ve recently significantly bumped up my 401K contribution amount but that is probably too little/too late. I know I need to significantly curb the discretionary spending and redirect that income into retirement/investment funds. I’m the literally “grasshopper” in the childs story! Hahasobhaha!

Self-Image - This is the single biggest thing that causes me to be unhappy right now. Definitely not my single biggest issue (see finances above) but the one that hits me in the face every day. I’ve put on to much weight the last year or so and I’m very unhappy with my weight. (5’9", 215lbs) I was just looking at pics from St. Patrick’s Day and I was really embarrassed to see how big I’ve really become. I guess my image in my head of myself was that perhaps I’m carrying a few extra pounds but I’m still a pretty fit guy… Crash-Boom-Pow collision with reality right there!

Relationship: I’m 40 and no kids. My girlfriend is fantastic and I can see this has the potential for long term, i.e. marriage. The biggest problem is she does not want kids - ever. Now, I can’t exactly say I can see myself as a father right now. I enjoy my life as it is and the freedom I have to do all the things I do. On the other hand, I am feeling a bit of that “Oh crap dude… you are 40!” and I have had moments of envy when seeing some of my friends start a family. I guess how I feel right now is… although I’m not pushing to have a kid right now, I can’t honestly say I’m ready to take it off the table. This gives me pause about my current relationship. :frowning:

So… A few changes here and there, some minor and some fairly significant, and I’d probably peg myself as a 10.

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I voted 8

Pros

Beautiful healthy baby girl who has started to sleep through the night!
Great husband
Cute little puppy (well at 6 years old not really a puppy, but she will always be my puppy)
Fantastic friends
My boss gave me an extension on my Mat leave so my husband and I can go to Peru while baby stays with her grandparents
I love my job and the shows we will be doing next year should be great, and very challenging
I have a secondary career as a set designer and my last design got rave reviews
Its spring and the return of the sun always helps :slight_smile:
Cons

I have been super busy so the house is a disaster and looking at the mess without having time to deal with it is a bit stressful
The show I am designing now is a gong show and I have had to step in to do more than I had anticipated so the show will be done in time.
There has been issues with booking the Peru trip, so I can only hope we will get the tour we want.
Even though I have lost the weight I gained from pregnancy I need to lose more, and that has been slow going.
But I might just have rose coloured glasses on from my full nights sleep :slight_smile:

I voted “2”; I’m jobless, broke, can’t get an interview, fear that I won’t get an unemployment insurance extension, fear that I’ll lose my apartment in June if I can’t, my roommate’s leaving so there goes that money, I’m taking increasingly poor care of myself, I’m a rotten father, can’t afford to date or get involved, and my energy is dropping. But I’m not homeless yet, and I felt pretty good at the moment, so I put “2.”

Now that I’ve read your 8-9-10 – I would like to make that a 0.5, and I hate you all very much.

I was going to say 9, but modified it to 8. I have a new granddaughter and it’s spring.

Downgraded it because there are a number of things that are in my life that are chronic difficulties (mostly health issues for family members and me), and it would be nicer if all those were magically fixed.

You know, as I’ve read some of these responses I want to add something…

To those of you who have voted lower numbers, I feel empathy for your situations. I’ve been down there in the 1 to 3 range a few times in my life. Sometimes for years. I don’t want to sound patronizing or cliched but persevere, push on, and keep going.

MeanJoe

I’m at about an 8 (bordering on 7).

I love my job… and it might be changing into a dream job very soon (we shall see).

I love my family, and we’re all healthy for the most part.

I see my friends often, and we have a good time when I do.

I get to have and do plenty of things I love.

I only wish I had more free time and could vacation more. Other than that… what else is there?

No doubt. If this poll would’ve happened when I first became a member (2001), I would’ve voted a 1 or 2.

I went with moderately content. It’s a beautiful day outside, and a four day weekend, and I’m generally feeling pretty good, but…

I have a ton of homework which will force me to stay indoors quite a bit. I have a ton of housekeeping to do, since I’ve been so ridiculously overwhelmed with school lately. My husband has been away on business for 3 weeks, won’t be back for another week, and even then, it will just be for a couple of days before another 2 week trip (although I’ll be joining him for part of that one - yay!) My best friend is moving to the UK and I’m really happy for her and yet already missing her, even though she’s not gone yet. My cat has been sick, and I keep worrying about her.

So many little things like that dragging me down, but over all, as I said, I’m feeling pretty good. Life has been a lot worse, and as much as I can hate school sometimes, I do not regret for one instant my decision to return.

And did I mention it’s a nice day out? Well into the 20s (that would be Celsius) and sunny for the next couple of days!

I went with 9 because I really can’t think of too much in my life that I would change. The health of a couple of people I know, and that’s it.

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I voted 8 because I always think things could/should be better, but I’m pretty happy, and have been riding this wave for quite a few years now.

Pros

  • Wonderful, supportive, and devoted wife
  • 20 year marriage anniversary coming up this year
  • Well paid for what I do
  • Nice home in NJ
  • Small beach/vacation house in FL
  • All the requisite mid-life crisis toys
  • Good health and fitness
  • Zero debt (except for my mortgage)

Cons

  • The quickening cessation of follicular activity and increasing chroming of my dome :slight_smile:
  • I’m too content as an employee to make the jump into full control of my destiny as an employer
  • It’s alarmingly more difficult, and not much fun, to maintain my level of fitness than it was just 5 years ago
  • The realization that my parents have reached a point where assisted living decisions will probably be necessary within the next year or so

I voted a 2 for this very reason. My wife has no emotional control, and it negatively impacts my marriage, my children and my sex life. And my job is boring.

I would have gone with “10” but I’m concerned about my inability to correctly set my priorities. :wink:

Life is sweet! :smiley:

I put down a 9. Both kids are out of the house and doing great. Financially we’re in great shape (knock on wood) and just sent in our last tuition payment. Married life cruising along at a great level. Work is fine. Health is good.

Only reason I didn’t put down a 10 is that I’m not retired yet, and so can’t spend all the time I want to on home fun stuff, not that the stuff I do at work isn’t fun.

I put 8. Husband’s fine, everyone in my life is healthy and reasonably happy, I’ve kept off the weight I lost this fall (though I haven’t lost any more, but baby steps), I’ve started going to the gym, I love our house, I am starting a new, better job in a month, and financially things are looking good.
I only have two complaints right now, one of which is that my husband and I don’t seem to have as much free time lately, and another is that he doesn’t seem very happy in the suburbs, though he loves the house itself. The big one is that my husband started a new job recently and was specifically told that there would be “no to minimal travel” during the interview, or he wouldn’t have taken it. In the seven weeks he’s worked there, he’s been out of town for three weeks in a row, and he’ll be gone for two weeks more, at least. This has been surprisingly stressful, not so much the travel itself (though that is annoying), but that he left a secure, decent job for this one. Plus, if they’ll lie about something as crucial to a job decision as travel, what other surprises do they have in store? He’s been really depressed about it, which has been a downer for both of us.

8 or 9. Wonderful wife, great friends, exciting, interesting, and fulfilling job.