well you broke the first rule…what did you expect?
I’d never hire a lawyer who spoke like this.
I can only hope Jordan nursed DP back to health after Brett messed him up.
I think you’re probably right, and in more than just the obvious way. We’ve known each other for around half of a year and hung out a few dozen times. Most of the time when we hang out, we’re around mutual friends, but not always. I acted in a way that each of us would act with act with our mutual friends, but I totally misjudged him and whatever relationship we have.
No, I hit a guy that I thought was my friend in a way that friends hit each when they’ve been drinking and are messing around. He responded in manner that was really disproportionate and not friendly at all…
No, I didn’t fall over. It hurt, but didn’t do any damage other than a little blood inside of my gums.
No, the chances of me hitting him again are almost zero. There’s way too much downside and it probably isn’t justified.
No, I think we will based on what our mutual friend said - that this kind of stuff happens with him quite a bit. If not, it doesn’t really matter.
I have to ask how old are you? You make a crack about a poster’s mother in response to criticism and adults don’t really go around punching each other.
I think he has his permit.
I’m in my 30s. Lots of people have criticized me in this thread (and it’s starting to seem more and more justified the more sober I become), and I’ve tried to respond to all of them reasonably. One person annoyed me and I didn’t feel that he needed to taken seriously, so I blew him off with a stupid mom joke.
eta: I disagree in part with your statement that adults don’t go around punching each other. When it’s friendly and light, it’s reasonably common in some circles.
Yeah, no. This might be a sign that it’s time to start growing up.
That’s fair, but it doesn’t mean I have to like it.
eta: I’m not kidding. I recognize that I still act like I’m in my twenties in my social life. I guess I’d like to keep it like that in some ways, but I suppose it isn’t really realistic.
Let’s just say you stopped your punch a quarter inch from his stomach, and you didn’t hit him at all. What you’re doing, whether you realize it or not, is bull shit alpha male posturing.
Some guys don’t take kindly to that shit and will punch you for it. You’d be wise to just write this up as a learning experience and move on.
Yup, pretty much there at this point. This thread has actually been pretty good in that regard. Was able to vent and get feedback. It actually makes it quite a bit easier.
Small nitpick - I’ve hugged this guy dozens of times. The rest of your post is well received.
So this whole situation was a lovers quarrel type thing?
Yep, some people are assholes when they drink.
Is that your excuse too?
If you don’t like the guy, you’re entitled to not hang out with him. Personally, I try to keep in mind that really wanting to hit a guy is not a good reason for doing so.
Was it the first or second rule of Fight Club that wasn’t made clear?
This. You constantly try to justify hitting someone.
A few thoughts, first it’s not ok to hit someone in the stomach - period. Even if you really did only hit him with 1/10 power that’s way to much for the stomach. The shoulder maybe. But you admit you were drinking so maybe you weren’t as in control of you power as you thought you were.
This nonsense you keep spouting about how big and tough you are is irrelevant even if true. You are obviously scared of the guy or you would have taken it up with him at the time. And Ill guarantee you one thing, he damn sure isn’t afraid of you.
Do as suggested in this thread: grow up and stop hitting people. If you stopped judging your self-worth by what a “badass” you are, that might go along way towards reaching that goal.
I didn’t intend to claim to be any sort of badass. That kind of thing has no impact on my life 99.99% of the time. I haven’t been in a fight in probably 15 years.
Personally, I don’t like being hit in the face. I mean, I REALLY don’t like being hit in the face. I don’t care how “playful” your slap is – it will really piss me off and ruin my whole day.
Maybe this guy feels the same way about sucker punches to the gut. That’s how Houdini died, you know.
I’m personally enjoying the metaphorical beat-down the OP is getting.