It’s my awesome handmade teapot with feet and a little fishy tail. I had it made three years ago, and it was a birthday present from my parents. I love it. I’ll look into epoxy, and ask my Dad and Lazy Husband (Art student with construction and woodworking experience) and Dishwashing Husband (carpenter) about it.
QD’s going to be so pleased to find out that so many people are interested in the state of her underwear. That sounds all kinds of bad :D.
rosie, she throws fits about any decision. She’s decision-impaired. Marriage is a big decision, and she’s been throwing fits about it on and off for eight years. No, must be nine, because they dated for the first time when she was sixteen. It’s been a long time. Seriously, she has three-hour fits about buying a $15 sweater. It took her a year to buy a really nice pair of shoes.
The things she’s worried about are- he’s messy, and he isn’t career-driven. He also has a tendency to procrastinate. Oh, and she likes travelling far more than he does. His solution to the travelling thing- go travelling with friends, I don’t care. Have a lot of fun.
Now that I think about it, Other Quasi-Daughter is decision-impaired, too. Drove me crazy last Christmas before her wedding.
Anyway, messiness isn’t a big problem, although both Mr. Lissar and I have told her to think carefully about whether having a spotless house is really important to her. If it is, although this seems silly, don’t marry him. If it’s seriously going to drive you nuts, don’t do it. For most people, it’s not a big thing- you just reach some kind of compromise, and both grit your teeth a little.
Career-oriented. I personally think she and a really career-focused guy would kill each other. She really likes that he is generally willing to drop everything to help her, and take her places, and let her use his computer, and drive her around. Conversely, he likes taking care of her.
He’s a hard worker, always employed, and very giving and thoughtful. She’s worried that he’ll be wasting his intelligence and education working not very terrific jobs. This bothers her. I think the question is, what will he be happiest doing? I don’t think it would be going to med school. He doesn’t mind having a job that’s just a job, and having his real life be his family, friends, church, and martial arts. Anyway, it’s a concern that she’s got to think about, but I think she’s going about it the wrong way, and is worried about what she pictures him being hapy doing, which isn’t the same thing as what he wants.
Procrastination- that’s something that’s likely not going to change fast, although he might grow out of it over many years. Or tone it down, whatever. It also requires careful thought. Can she stand it? Will she be able to be happy with a man sometimes puts off decisions? Is that enormous hypocrisy on her part, to be worried about it? :rolleyes: 
They’re very happy together. They’ve been very happy together, on and off, for nine years. They’ve acted married for at least three.
She’s got to think about everything, but she really will avoid coming to any conclusions unless something unavoidable happens. Like a proposal. Because whatever she decides may be the wrong thing, and it’s bad enough when she makes the wrong decision about breakfast for crying out loud.
I, obviously, think they should get married, and that they’ll have no more difficulties than most happy marriages, working everything out together. But we’re all waiting, with baited breath, for the atomic explosion when she has to make the decision.
Time to put the bread in.
