My husband wears his all the time. He does home improvement/remodeling, but then again he’s the type of guy that the minute he buys a new power tool, he disables any guards/safetys. :rolleyes:
His is just a plain band, and he says it doesn’t get in his way in the least. Originally, we had matching poison rings but before we actually used them in the wedding ceremony, we got all traditional and got regular rings. If we hadn’t, he wouldn’t be ABLE to wear his wedding ring - those poison rings were BIG!
For the first 10 years of our marriage, Himself did not wear his ring, which matches mine, because he is an electrician. I wore mine all the time, in spite of the fact that I was not used to wearing a ring at all, because I worked with machinery of a type that could have either damaged the ring, or potentially even the finger.
But for the last 3 years, he has been wearing his any time he leaves the house, since he is in more of a supervisory role now (he supervises crews of inmates at the prison while they do the electrical work.:D) And I still wear mine every day, all day, though now I no longer work with machinery more dangerous than a keyboard and mouse.
I didn’t know my dad (who is/was a mechanic/welder) even had a wedding band until my parents divorced and my mom gave me both their rings.
I never take mine off, even when I’m working with dangerous machinery. I don’t really understand why that’s so dangerous, anyway. I can understand the electrical-short angle, but I can’t see how my ring makes me more vulnerable to injuries with a tablesaw or drillpress. If my hand is that close to the blade or bit, I’m in trouble anyway. If anything, the ring might offer some protective effect there. Mind you, my ring has a fairly low profile. It’s a simple, unadorned band.
I almost always keep my weding ring on, but there are times when it needs to come off for some reason. (Can’t think of anything recently) As long as that reason doesn’t involve a singles bar, mrsgnu is fine with it.
I also wear a Titanium ring on my right hand, and that comes off much more frequently, for things like fencing, playing bass, and other things where it gets in the way or hurts.
Most married men do seem to wear wedding rings these days. My father (b. 1924) never did, and I don’t know if that’s because men didn’t back then, or because he is a doctor and ring might have interfered with the use of his hands.
My husband wears his all the time, except for the maybe once a year when he gets poison ivy on his hands. It inevitably settles between his fingers, and he has to take off his ring. I don’t think it would bother me much if he stopped wearing it.
I wear my rings all the time, and I think it would bother him if I stopped, because we’ve invested a good bit of money in these babies, and time picking out just the ones I wanted.
I have a wedding ring. I haven’t taken it off since my wife put it on me at our wedding two and a half years ago.
I have, however, seen a number of rings I’d like better, and my wife encourages me to get one someday. I’m reluctant, though, because it wouldn’t be quite the same as far as “specialness.”
My dad hasn’t had a wedding ring as long as I’ve known him.
NajaHusband didn’t wear one for a long time. We bought a cheapie silver ring from a Tibet/Nepal import store just for the ceremony because I knew that he didn’t plan to wear it. After the wedding it stayed in my jewelry box for almost a year. I was a little blue about it at first, but he had never worn a ring before and couldn’t get over the discomfort of having a metal widget on his hand. I had/have zero concern about it being an issue of “I don’t want to wear a ring because I don’t want people to know I’m married”.
Anyway, one day I was looking through my few odd pieces of jewelry and he picked up the ring, stuck it on his ring finger “just to see how it felt,” and six months later he’s still wearing it. He mentioned one day that it feels a little rough at the weld, at which time I pointed out that’s because it’s a $10 silver imported ring and that if he was planning to wear it for the next fifty years or so, we might want to consider investing in a good quality band, at least.
My dad is in the trades, and he and my mom just celebrated their 30th anniversary. He has always worn his wedding ring and hasn’t had problems with it getting caught on things. Of course, after all these years, the wavy textured pattern on the ring has long since worn away, and the knuckles of his fingers are now so large that removing the ring is practically impossible. He has a nice groove and tanlines on his left ring finger.
I have long skinny fingers with large knobby knuckles. Any ring that will fit over my knuckle is hopelessly loose on my finger. They tend to slide just to my knuckle, and bind when I try to close my hand. I think that the last time I wore a ring was when I was about 7 years old.
I’d be willing to have “married man” tatooed on my finger before I’d wear a ring.
Thanks, point taken. I have very little to do the engineering side of things aside from adding oil to the engine prior to flight. But the risk is still present, and I do have a handy little neck strap thing with a weak link (for safety again) that I could keep my ring on. I might start doing that.
We don’t have our rings yet, but we’ve picked them. He chose the width and style, and we’re both really into the idea of wearing them, and not taking them off. They are both 9mm tungsten carbide bands-- very big, very shiny, matching. They can’t bend or tarnish, and whatever would shatter the ring would shatter the finger anyway. I’m glad we found rings that we both like and intend to wear them all the time. Maybe it’s corny of me, but I’m OK with that. I’m also OK with him needing to take it off for work, but he doesn’t think he’ll need to.
There’s not just the risk of injury with a ring, but the risk of job loss. At my workplace, you can’t wear a ring in “the loop.” It’s a violation of our safety rules. Do it a couple of times and you get fired.
My husband wears his all the time, except last year he kept having surgery on his left hand so he didn’t wear it for nearly a year. If he decided to stop wearing it, I might be a little sad that he no longer liked it, but not upset in any other way.
I wear mine most of the time when I’m awake, but nowhere near 24/7.
I don’t wear it to sleep. I don’t wear it when I’m exercising or doing mechanical work. I don’t wear it in the shower. It usually comes on and off at the same time as my watch. If I’m away from home and their normal storage spot, I’ll often fasten the band of my watch through my ring when I take them off, to avoid losing the ring.
Male checking in. I wear mine all the time, and I (at the time) worked in one of those jobs where a ring is potentially dangerous. The solution?
My wife and I went shopping for a specific type that minimizes (hell, pretty much eliminates) the risk. I am the proud wearer of a titanium band that has no protrusions. It’s stylish, it looks good, it’s got rounded edges so it doesn’t catch on things, and it’s non-conductive, so I don’t fry myself while working on electronics. It will shatter before it will bend, so there’s no potential for it to get crimped onto my finger (which can happen with softer metals).
I’m not saying titanium is the answer for everyone. The point is, you wear a ring to indicate your commitment – which a marriage is, even in an open relationship. Its okay to take the ring off if needed while working or whatever, but you should be willing to wear it at all other times.
I don’t wear a watch or any other jewelry, but I always have my wedding ring on (since I don’t do/handle anything that might create a hazard for myself, it’s never a source of concern).
When I was married, I wore mine all of the time. At one point, my work banned all rings while in the cleanroom (not for safety but to keep the rings from breaking the gloves and contaminating the product.) I was challenged because I was smocking up with my ring on and I told them to fire me if it was that big of a deal. The rules were changed within a week. I have also worn it while building a workshop, working in that shop, rebuilding engines and whatever else.
Even after we separated, I had it on my keychain for a few months (the divorce still isn’t final.) I guess that it was a “word is my bond” sort of thing, even if there wasn’t much else to it after a while.
Mr. Stuff wears his when he is at work (sales) and when we go out in the evening, or go to church. He does not wear it when he works on the farm around machinery. He currently wears a $10 band because of a sizing issue with the original band. It was going to be a temporary solution, and you know there’s nothing so permanent … his original is sitting in the safe. Oh, well. It does not upset me if he forgets to wear his wedding band, but it does upset him. He likes to wear it and likes the symbolism.
My brother does not wear his except for special occasions. Family weddings, anniversary dinners with his wife, things like that. He doesn’t wear his because he is unable to refrain from playing with it. He throws it up in the air and catches it. He spins it on the table. He twirls it around on his finger. It drives his wife (and me, if I’m there) insane. So he tries very hard to be a grownup on special occasions and not play with it, and he doesn’t wear it the rest of the time. He’s a funny boy, but his ringwearing or lack thereof doesn’t have anything to do with his commitment.
Neither my husband nor my brother have ever said that they get more attention from women when they are ringed vs. when they are not. I find it interesting that other men do say that. When I was single, I always checked for wedding bands, but if I saw one, I looked elsewhere.
