My husband trupa wears his wedding ring except when he is going to get his hands wet or dirty, or if there are any safety issues related to wearing the ring. When he forgets to put it back on (as does happen from time to time) it doesn’t worry or bother me at all. I know that he values both our marriage and the ring.
He likes to say we are doubly married because in our wedding ceremony we gave each other the rings and (Orthodox rite) we “crowned” each other with gold chains with a cross on them. I rarely wear the chain (but wear the ring pretty much continously) but he wears both the chain hidden under his shirt and the ring openly on his finger.
I wear mine. It’s traditional for the bride’s family to buy the rings, although my wife is ethnic Chinese, and so I think that may be a Chinese thing rather than a Thai. But I do wear it. A thick gold band. Cost them a couple hundred dollars, so the least I can do is wear it.
There is the concept of “minor wife” here. It’s basically a second wife but of lower status than the main wife. The practice is illegal, has been for almost a century now, but many successful Thai men have them (including my father-in-law when he was alive). When I’m out in Bangkok’s naughty nightlife (just drinking mind you, not partaking of the other wares on offer), I’m constantly asked by the girls who see my ring whether I have a minor wife yet and would I like one.
I wonder if the woman in the OP would change her mind if my BIL waved his ring-fingerless left hand in her face? Or showed her his mutilated wedding ring, which stripped all the flesh and half the bone from that finger, leaving nothing to save or reattach?
It’s a real danger, and I hope she comes to realize that fact before her “hurt feelings” lead to tragedy.
My husband rarely wears his ring to work. Since he’s a mechanical engineer for an automation company that’s probably the smart thing to do. However, if we’re going out socially (especially if he’s going out alone) it’s really important to me that he wear it. We’ve only been married for about five months, so I suppose it could be insecurity on my part. I don’t worry about infedelity or flirting at all, but when he wears his ring to a party or something it says that he’s proud to be married, and married to me.
Otherwise we both take them off for sleeping and around any caustic chemicals.
Sofaspud meet Chanteuse. Chanteuse take Sofaspud to meet your BIL.
Also Sofa, I did some checking, and titanium is not an insulator. It does conduct electricity, about the as well as stainless steel does. When compared to copper it is a lousy conductor, but it is a conductor.
If you work around machinery or electricity you might want to rethink your position.
For me my commitment is my heart, not on my finger.
My husband rarely wears his because all jewelry is prohibited at his workplace. We try to remember to put it on for family functions. Since we got married, he’s lost a bit of weight & the ring is prone to falling off, leading to:
Funny anecdote- He lost his ring while bagging leaves. We found it by scanning all 17 bags with a metal detector. Yes, it was in the last bag.
I keep my rings on all the time, which is a bad thing. I’ve had to have the tops of the prongs repaired 3 times in 4 years. I’m thinking about having my late dad’s plain gold band sized for my finger. I’d much rather wear that every day than the fancy diamond ring. Less wear and tear and it won’t get dirty as often… I just had to pick out the engagement ring toughest to clean at home. I hate it when the stones look cloudy.
Since Giant freakin marine was in the trades, and wants to keep all 10 of his fingers, he doesn’t have a ring. I didn’t want him to wear one, since Bobotheoptimist and I have the same uncles. I supposed I could ask him to get one now, but him wearing a ring is not at all important to me.
I take mine off when working with machinery or doing dishes. It doesn’t seem to bother him, assuming he even notices.
Look for a jewelry store that offers free cleaning and inspection. There’s one in our mall, and sometimes when I’m at the mall for other stuff, I’ll drop off my rings (and my tanzanite pendant that I frequently wear), and then pick them up when I’m done shopping.
I’m an engineer and I wear mine all the time except while at martial arts practice or when working with machinery or rough tools that are likely to put significant scratches in it (military anodized stuff for example).
I go nowhere without my ring. The only exception to this may be something like skiing, where my fingers shrink due to the cold, and I worry about losing it when taking gloves on/off. I don’t work a job where it would be a danger, and I really like both the ring, and the reason for wearing it.
I had my ring custom made, so that I got exactly what I wanted for the last ring I’ll ever buy.
Mrs. Butler not only wears her engagement ring, wedding ring (passed down via maternal line), but another ring that was a replacement for her Memere’s ring (she’s since passed, and the original is on Mrs. Butler’s finger as well). She gets very upset if any of them are being serviced, or had taken them off to clean something, and forgets to put them back on.
My mother wears hers all the time, but I’ve never even seen my father’s. He worked around high voltage, high current electricity (enough to push a train), so it was a safety issue.
Do what works best for you, and don’t worry about what other think. A ring won’t stop cheating, and not wearing one won’t lead to any by itself either.
Through our recent marital turmoils, one of the issues that came up was our wedding rings. I pointed out to him that I have a pain in the ass ring (marquis cut, catches on everything) that I never take off and that he LIKES that I wear my ring. I pointed out he never wears his, and how that made me feel. Like it was important for me to be “marked” but not so much for him and for him to bask in the enjoyment of me being militant about wearing my ring, but not showing me the same consideration…well?
He has started wearing his ring.
FTR, he had no compelling reason NOT to wear it and wears a ring on his other finger.
It just made me sad to see his ring sitting around, when mine is so important to me. Important enough that when I was pregnant and my ring no longer fit, I got a cheapy ring to wear. I’m also amazed at how many people notice it. I work with a lot of male patrons and virtually every day someone comments on the fact I must be married because I am wearing a ring. That being said, I’ve also been accused of NOT being married and wearing a ring to fend off folks, which wouldn’t be a bad idea, but I’d have picked one I could read comfortably with.
So I guess my question would be, how many guys are militant about their wives wearing their rings, but don’t themselves?
When I played clarinet, I had to take my ring off. The weight of it seemed to slow my fingers down. err…finger , I guess. wearing a ring while sax playing made no difference. To me.
The tops of the rings where the stone is swings up and there’s a little compartment underneath. Its a medieval kinda thing - we saw them in a catalog that came in our junk mail and thought, “cool”.
Neither of us ever wear rings and haven’t for years. I probably stopped around ten years ago; him around twelve. (Our thirteenth anniversary is this month.)
We both wear ours most of the time but take them off for cooking (I can’t stand the idea of getting raw chicken under my ring and having it be caught there for however long… ick.), working out, showering, sleeping, etc. We’ve both occasionally forgotten to put them back on when going out, but it’s not a big deal.
We do both like wearing the rings though because we got ours custom made to match my engagement ring which is a family heirloom. They look really nice and it’s special both in the symbolism of our commitment to each other and in the connection to family through the engagement ring.
Ah, well, the rest of the world can’t see your heart now, can it? My point was, the ring is a symbol of your commitment. In my opinion, displaying that commitment is the correct thing to do. If your opinion differs, more power to you, but the OP asked and I answered.
As for the conductivity: I won’t argue - if you looked it up, that’s more than I’ve done. I have tested it though, and it’s got quite a bit of resistance for a conductor – my meter showed it as non-conductive, so I’m pretty sure I don’t have to worry about that with the electronics I work on, which generally is low-power. Possibly with the TVs, I suppose – the tube, especially, stores quite the kick – but I digress.
Titanium, though, doesn’t do the icky nasty things that silver, gold (the two most common metals for jewelry), and copper do. They all tend to heat up quickly. Titanium has an obscenely high melting point, doesn’t cause arcs as easily, and certainly doesn’t have as distressing a tendency to melt and stick to the skin, which I have seen happen with gold and silver, I might add; not a pretty sight. I imagine if you’ve got yourself in a bad enough spot that the titanium ring is starting to melt, you’ve already cooked yourself anyway and couldn’t care less.
I’m not arguing that there are times and places one should not wear a ring. My position was that you should try to find a ring that minimizes the times you have to take it off, because it should be worn pretty much all the time – again, in my opinion.
SpouseO always wears his. I’d told him about the tungsten rings I’d read about here and that I though they were cool and would he want one, but he’s more taken with his plain gold band. He says that he’s looking forward to sixty years from now, when it has more bangs, scratches, and nicks in it. He wants that character. And it gives me the warm fuzzies that he thinks so.
I wear the rings he gave me all the time - I only take them off when putting on lotion or mixing meatloaf. When we’re on vacation, I also substitute my great-grandmother’s plain gold wedding band for my rings - I don’t want to lose them. But that’s it.
My father’s a doctor, and he’s never worn a wedding band. I think they bought him one, but he was afraid he’d leave it in the wash up room when washing his hands for surgery - apparently he’s seen more than one forgotten wedding ring sitting in there. It’s never bothered my mother.
Norine- I do occasionally take my ring back to the shop to have them cleaned while it’s being repaired. I can usually get it mostly clean at home, so I don’t make a special trip for that.
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Spectre of Pithecanthropus**- My husband works in a manufacturing plant with big industrial machinery. Any kind of ring, bracelet, watch, or necklace could get caught while he’s making repairs & rip a hunk of skin off. Come to think of it, the employees have to wear short sleeve shirts tucked in, too. There are too many hazards, so they have rules. Which is ok by me- I kinda like him all in one piece.
My point was, the ring is a symbol of your commitment. In my opinion, displaying that commitment is the correct thing to do. If your opinion differs, more power to you, but the OP asked and I answered.