To all the females in this thread… Every single one of your male ‘best friends’ is hopelessly and insanely in love with you.
Remember that one nite when you guys got REALLY drunk and he said/did those things that were all taken back the next day and forgiven/forgotten. That was the truth shining through.
For most of my life all my closest friends were male. It took me a very long time to find women who I fit with.
Now I would say I have 3 very close friends and of those two are female.
Most of my best friends are/have been same sex - IE guys. Being married may be part of the reason but its more my interests. Not a lot of ladies out there as into hunting, fishing and explosions as I am.
Hahahahaha. No he isn’t. He’s hopelessly and insanely in love with his husband. 
Another one is hopelessly and insanely in love with his wife, both of whom refer to me as “2nd wife”. 
FTR, I’m like the poster above: most of my closest friends have been male and I usually have one close female friend at any given time. Given my druthers, I generally choose to hang out with the boys before I’ll call that one girlfriend. I find women give really shitty advice with regard to men, so I like to go straight to the source and ask actual men about men.
My best friend is a guy that I would trust my life to, and have in the past. Vice versa.
He and I will go for years without seeing each other. Then we will get together and get caught up and it’s like we never missed a day. The only grudge he holds against me is that I introduced him to his wife. 
Male, 58 years of age, here.
I have had three or four people in my life that would rate a “best friend” rating, all guys, but they never quite got that far because I have had one true “best friend”.
We have known each other since 5th grade, so this coming September, that will have been 49 years ago. Neither of us ended up getting married, so we have pretty much been each others best friend all that time.
I’m not talking " a friend will help you move" kind of friend - I’m talking about “a friend will help you move a body” kind of friend.
For a really good poem about a “best friend”, Google for Rudyard Kiplings “The Thousandth Man”.
My official best friend is someone I went to high school with. We’ve been friends for 27 years. We don’t spend a lot of time together because of lifestyle differences and distance, but we have always been there for each other when it come down to it.
I have many Best Type friends. Male and female. I love them all very much too.,… sappy but true
Male, age 21, have two people I would consider best friends, one of each gender.
Guy is my Brother-in-Law, about the best kind of guy I would have asked to marry my sister. He and I share a lot of interests. Whenever he and I need ‘guy time’, we’re normally eachother’s first choice.
Other friend is a girl I’ve known since middle school. Out of my circle of friends in school, she’s the only one I keep in contact. No romantic feelings whatsoever on either side. But whenever I’ve been an idiot(not often, but more often than I’d like), I call her and vent about how stupid I am. And she agrees. And tells me to buck the fu** up. I get to do that same when she’s an idiot, though she’d NEVER admit that she was one in the first place.
I don’t get this thread. Isn’t the norm for most people to have the same sex BF?
shouldn’t the thread be Opposite sex BF?
Well ok, I am wrong and forgot to include our friends of opposite sexuality. I definitely believe a gay man or lesbian can be best friends with someone of the opposite sex and it not be an issue.
However, all you straight girls out there that have a straight guy as your ‘best friend’ who has spotty luck in girls. Yes, he is in love with you and usually too scared to say anything and has the mindset of ‘Better something than nothing’ And I can definitely relate due to personal experience back in the day.
There are several people I feel close to, but the only person who’d qualify as my “best friend” would be my partner. And yes, he is same-sex.
I don’t think I’ve ever definitively had a best friend, at least not in the full sense of “he’s my favourite friend, and I’m his.”
I have a handful of very close friends, mostly same sex and probably one or two opposite sex. I have three people, other than tdc, who I call “best friends” who are all also women.
Meh, you are generalizing from your experience, but it isn’t universally true. I’m a guy who has had a woman as my best friend for something like 26 years, and we are both married to others … certainly I “love” her, as she does me, but not in the same way we “love” or SOs - certainly not in a helplessly yearning romantic manner. We have each other’s back, is all. Always have.
My best friend is a guy. And so are most of my close friends, although I have quite a few female friends.
When I was single, I could have only few female best friends, because more often than not, it turned into a romance.
Now that I’m re-married to my wife, that’s not a problem, but it sure was then.
I’ve been described as narcisisstic (sorry, can’t spell it right) and I am sure that’s true, except I wouldn’t hurt anyone purposely for the world. I’d rather protect.
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I’m a woman and my best friends are a guy* I’ve known since I was 15 and a girl I’ve known since I was 20. We’re 33-35 now.
For the first time since childhood I have a best friend. Someone I am not involved with. Someone I can say anything to. We talk almost everyday (at least text). Surprisingly she is not a guy like me. She is someone I dated in high school (in an innocent way I don’t think happens much now) and have come to know again after many years. We are way too different for it to ever blossom into anything else. Ok so we slept together once, but neither of us were involved with anyone at the time. I love her as a friend but she would drive me batshit crazy if we dated.