Hi guys! I haven’t begun a lot of threads, my last big one being a “will he ever marry me” thread. I’m happy to report, as a follow up, that I dropped the topic, let him marinate, and was rewarded with an impromptu, “maybe it IS about time to get married” talk while holding hands in the park. Thanks to everyone who counselled me correctly!
So, after reading this BS article in the Atlantic about how marriage is an outdated institution (but, and I’m sure you’ll agree, the author isn’t exactly someone I’d want to be married to myself), I began thinking about roles.
Specifically, I’ve been noodling on “best friend” vs. “boyfriend” vs. “husband”, and the different behaviors and assumptions that come with those labels. My boyfriend is clearly my best friend, currently, but in the past, my boyfriends and best friends have always been separate. I’m not sure if this is because I’m living in a new city with none of my long-time girlfriends close by, or whether your social compass points more to family than friends as you get older.
So my question is, SDMB, do you think of your romantic partner as your best friend? Has this always been the case? I’m wondering if this breaks down by age and gender lines. My wild-ass assumption is going to be that older men are more likely to classify their female partners as their best friends, whereas most women are more likely to put a close girlfriend into that status.