In terms of romantic relationships it’s extremely important to me.
In terms of every other sort of relationship? Not very much, I don’t think. In general I’m distracted and unobservant, and I don’t think about other people very much. I know I have enjoyed the company of many people who are fat, unusually fat, facially ugly, deformed, obviously brain damaged, or present themselves in a way that isn’t considered socially acceptable. And I kind of like it when someone is so weird that can’t conform to the usual social norms of hair/clothes/grooming, or if they just don’t give a fuck what other people think they look like.
That’s not to say I don’t appreciate physical beauty, perfect abs, good dress sense, and cute shoes. But I don’t feel like I look down at people who don’t have these things, or don’t strive for them, at all.
The thing that I am very serious about is offensive body odor. If I’m forced to be in contact with someone who smells bad I feel like they are torturing me and I start to resent them, and eventually hate them.
If someone goes around saying ‘I have found that black people tend to be criminals’ would you think they were a bigot?
I think you’re very much a bigot, because a majority of people I know are fat, and I haven’t reached the same conclusions you have about them. Therefore I think you are projecting negative stereotypes upon them.