To the men listed in the subject line:
It’s nice to know that there are a few men who aren’t narcissistic, dick-driven morons.
To MarkSerlin, Sake Samurai, and Mr. Sensitivity: Fuck you. I hope you find your perfect Barbie Doll twits. You’ll delude yourselves into thinking that “she’s the most beautiful woman in the world” and won’t you be disappointed when she gets comfortable in the relationship, or delivers a baby or two and is suddenly not so svelte anymore!! Be sure to come back and bitch about it…I’d love to have a little laugh at your expense—kinda like you do at mine, and others like me.
Just in case you missed it the first time: Fuck you.
“Excrement. That is what I think of J. Evans Pritchard, PhD.” --Robin Williams, Dead Poets Society
I never realized that thread was going to bring so many bigots out. I’m so shocked! But I was also very pleasantly surprised by the other posters who had the guts to share their own struggles and those who were supportive. I echo ChrisCTP: You guys ROCK!
To the others… what can I say that I haven’t already said? Nothing. You carry a hate in you that is unbelievable and very dark. Karma will kick your silly butts.
Well, cool. now I know how the Professor and Mary Ann felt all those episodes that they were dissed. “And the rest”, indeed.
I’ve dated and known women from all across the weight spectrum. I had a wonderful 3 year relationship with a BBW (I have no idea what her weight was;I never asked). There are simply more important things to worry about than how much a person weighs.
Now sure, there are extremes that I don’t find attractive, on both sides. But I’d never judge a persons’ worth on something silly like physical characteristics.
Silly me, I think things like a good self image, a sense of humor, intellegence, and a sense of honor are more important.
Very mature rebuttle - you show your true colors here ChrisCTP. Unlike you, nothing I said was said out of anger. Although I’m having a change of heart.
Thanks for your vodoo curse - but my current mate is still svelte and intelligent and more talented than ever. We travel beyond the spheres together. She has brought me far more than you will ever bring to a relationship (since we’re being nasty and immature). Looks like the laughter will remain one-way.
Lets see, if you agree with me, I like you and you’re nice and intelligent. If you disagree you’re an asshole and a moron. Thats fair, gotta love the pit.
I suggest that anyone interested prints out the thread and highlights the hostility. Its all coming from the ladies. I understand defensiveness, but it sure makes your arguement fruitless.
I guess emotions are too big an obstacle to actually read the words, and not make implications about what was implied, or “what they’re really thinking”. Thats a shame.
Actually, even the briefest survey of art history will demonstrate that the desire for thin women is relatively new. Clay fertility goddesses from Neolithic times, for example, or those fat chicks in paintings by artists like Reubens and so on.
Sorry to flaunt my education Konrad, but the preference you refer to is cultural, not biological.
Not that there’s anything wrong with a little cultural preference.
It takes 42 muscles to frown, but only 4 to slap someone upside the head.
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Haven’t read the thread that led up to this. Just wanted to say that being attracted to a certain body type doesn’t necessarily mean one is a narcissistic, dick-driven, moron. Me, if I fall for somebody, I don’t much care what they look like, and I can find all kinds of body types attractive. But all things being equal, I like my partner to be fit, and I stay fit myself, too. At the very least, people should have the same “high standards” for themselves as they have for the other guy.
Sorry, Chris, I don’t want to detract from the seriousness of the thread, but coming form the Sweetheart of the SDMB, I found the above to be hilarious.
Continue.
And the problem with small furry animals
in corners is that, just occasionally,
one of them’s a mongoose.
Terry Pratchett, Witches Abroad
So just because some people are attracted to fat women, and you’re not, that makes you a bigot? Why? Because you should only judge people on personality or something?
There are men who like to sodomize other men! There are guys that I might find smart, funny and cool BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN I WANT TO EJACULATE IN THEIR ASS!
The next time you see bumper stickers that say “Save a Whale, Harpoon Konrad,” I hope you remember this thread.
I realize that not all men are going to be attracted to me. I have a nice face with an Anna Nicole Smith type of body, and I’m nearly six feet tall. Men don’t have to find me attractive. I know several men who WOULD date me, except I’m not their physical type. And that’s understandable. It takes a pretty special man to deal with a woman who could probably snap him like a twig.
But you know what? I’d be pretty pissed off if a perfect stranger told me I needed to lose weight. Hasn’t happened yet, although back in high school people used to call me a cow all the time. Mind you, I was 5’9" or 5’10" and 135 pounds, but all I ever heard was that I was fat. Apparently, I was damn-near anorexic looking, and all I can remember is wishing I could just lose ten pounds.
Although I don’t think I necessarily look better now that I’m a bit more zaftig, I definitely don’t look any worse. There’s a (admittedly not full-body, but there are few of those in existence anyway) picture of me at http://www.geocities.com/CollegePark/Plaza/5243 if any of you care to pass judgment on how fat I am. But although I probably top 200 pounds, I still look good. And there’s nothing anyone can say that will make me feel uncomfortable about who I am. But the point is, nobody should feel the need to say anything, unless I ask for your opinion. I wouldn’t tell you you have a crappy haircut, or that your shoes don’t match your pants, or that you really should consider rhinoplasty for that big honkin’ schnozz, so why should anyone feel it appropriate to comment on someone’s weight?
Bigot – One intolerant of or prejudiced against those of differing religious beliefs, political opinions, etc.
Again and for the last time: I never said you had to find anyone attractive for any reason. My main point is one of tolerance. You do not have to even like someone but to ridicule or hate them for their weight is outright bigotry. To hate someone for their sexual orientation is the same.
YOU may not have any homosexual feelings. Great! Fine! But you have no right to pass judgement on others for having these feelings. You have a right to your feelings and your opinions but you do not have the right to expect everyone to conform to your view of the world.
I do NOT expect everyone to agree with me or live like I do. What I do expect is a certain amount of tolerance and courtesy from others.
BTW I never specifically called you a bigot.
Again I commend those who made their points in that thread with tolerance and care. You were able to share how you felt without belittling or condemning anyone else. That is the mark of someone who is not a bigot. They know that others do not feel the same and they respect that.
