How much do you love your SO? A Valentine Poll:

In My Humble Opinion
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Inspired by a thread in MPSIMS where a poster is about to be a father, I thought about love and the condition it has on me. The poster who wrote about his impending child ended his post by expressing his concern over the risk the birth will put on his wifes life. He stated:

I went on to tell him how much I could feel his pain, as my wife is at the top of my emotional food chain. Now working at home, she and I communicate much more in the course of a day…I love this. She has been my driving force for nearly ten years. We met in grad school and the rest is our own personal fairy tale.

Never has the idea of leaving or being without my wife entertained itself in my mind. This is clearly evidenced by our mutual desire to be next to one another as much as possible. I care about the projects she takes on at a professional level as well as at an emotional level. Last year she wanted to construct a fense around out garden (which is a large garden) I told her I’d get my tools and we’d be off. She quickly responded that SHE would get OUR tools and SHE would do the project on her own.

No problem, she knew where I was if she needed any help. Point is I love every part of who my wife is and it leaves me no doubt I will be sitting on a porch one day watching our great grand children run around our yard and when I look to my side I know she will be there. I’m excited for the future and I hold my mantra close to my heart as I walk through this life. “Life is too short to not do and participate in the things that make you happy” - Honestly, if I were living in a bark hut in some far off land I’d not have a care in the world as long as she were there.

So folks: how much do you love your SO? Big plans for Valentines Day?

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****This is the correct Post! Mods can you erase the other one…it is missing the final few paragraphs this one has :slight_smile: ****

Thank you carry on.

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Dude, you are so mushy! That is so cute! I picture you serenading her in the treehouse or something really corny like that.

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yeah…I’m in a mushy mood… oh well…it’ll last till at least supper time :slight_smile: Then when she’s yelling at me to get off the computer it will have sufficiently wore off…*

*I’ve been spending waaaay too much time on the computer as of late…but what the heck I need to grade papers some times right??

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I have a lot of love for the people around me. My idol is the Blessed Virgin Mary. I would love to have her job, standing on top of the world with my hands open, pouring compassion, mercy and utterly unconditional love over every living thing.

But my soon-to-be wife,Upside_Down_Amber, is my life. She’s my best friend. I couldn’t imagine anyone I’d rather take a walk with, read to, cook for. I love that we don’t play stupid games with each other - if we have a problem, we talk about it, we work it out. We waste as little time as possible being mad at each other. Being in love with her is like being on Safari; the territory is unfamiliar, but we both know we are safe and it will be well in the end.
I trust her with everything I am and everything I have. We’re a team.

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I love my boyfriend very much. He is the only guy I have ever loved. I just wish we’d started dateing sooner, so wed have had more time together before out relationship went long distance. But issues I had, and issues he had meant I refused to date him for quite a while.

As for Valentines Day- no big plans. I’ll just be happy to see him! Damn long distance relationships.

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Valentine’s Day - That’s this weekend isn’t it? I honestly forgot it was coming until I looked at the calendar and realized Saturday was the 14th.

We don’t really have any special plans for celebrating beyond taking the kids and some cookies to the animal shelter for their February bake sale. We try to celebrate our love for each other more often than the designated Hallmark holidays anyway and in slightly less traditional ways than candy and flowers. My hips don’t need the calories and the cats just eat the flowers and vomit up the stems.

One year we got each other new video cards so we could play some newer games together. We sometimes discuss the ads on the radio when on long car rides. I say things like "Ack - $800 for a piece of jewelery? I could have a new computer for that. And he says things like “A woman after my own heart.”

For the sake of the kids, we have discussed what life would be like alone. While this is not a thought I like to dwell on we did have some decisions to make. What scares me more than being left alone to raise the kids is having neither of us around to raise them. I’m also pretty sure the boy’s arrival scared Parallax just a little bit. It certainly scared me - I spent a few hours alone at the hospital wondering if I would die bringing my son into the world.

Valentine’s Day will be pretty much a normal day but that’s still really special to me.

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I am madly in love with my boyfriend, known in my posts as Ardred.

He makes me laugh a thousand times a day.

We rarely fight (we bicker, but usually over things like scientific designations for oceanic events or whether or not quicksand is real) and never go to bed angry.

I love him dearly and he loves me right back.

We celebrate our anniversary (two years) on Groundhog Day, so we don’t get too riled up about Valentine’s Day. Tonight we’re on a quest for good chocolates. VDay will involve a bottle or two of sparkling wine and feeding each other chocolates with the lights down low. (with D&D for 12 hours on Sunday) :smiley:

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I won’t go into the mushy specifics, except to say that I married Prince Fucking Charming and I think I’ll keep him, thankyewverymuch. And I do believe he’ll be keeping me around as well. :cool:

We prefer to celebrate personal milestones instead of stuff like Valentine’s Day, Sweetest Day, etc. There might be a card and some snuggling, though . . . not much different from any other day (except for the card).

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I’ve actually known my SO since high school but we never dated then. He was a friend of my brother but they drifted apart. I saw him over at my house a grand total of one time and I hadn’t paid the slightest bit of attention to his presence… sigh.

What the heck was wrong with me back then?! :rolleyes:

During high school I dated an older guy (4 years older) and thought he hung the moon but little did I know that there was someone out there even better for me than he was. I also knew my SO’s little sister through a mutual friend. The universe wasn’t yelling at me at this point but the hint missed me. OK, still dating the older guy throughout high school and a few years after. I am 22 years old and just broke up with older guy, and start dating the Jerk (not Steve Martin). It ends badly after a year and I go on to Jerk#2 or Satan in disguise. During the time I was under Satan’s spell, I saw my now SO at a rock club where my brother’s band was performing. My mother and I went to cheer my brother on (he’s a great musician… alas, he lives in a bad state for getting noticed but I digress). My now SO was there as well, cheering on his pal, my brother, and he sat with us. We talked in between songs and shouts, and I thought he was a very nice guy (kiss of death anyone?) and he thought I was a goddess (his words years later when we finally found each other). His heart sank when he found out I was “taken” and he never pursued the matter.

When I was going through some rough spots with Satan, I called my now SO up and we went out a few times as friends (friends with a twinkle in our eyes) and then we got close. CLOSE. In my never-ending stupidity, Satan broke through my meager emotional defenses and I went back to him. Yup… I went back. Stupid, stupid, stupid and broke my now SO’s heart even more. He never came straight out and told me he loved me, he just hinted that I was someone he was very fond of and I had the impression of a “but” in these conversations. I went back to the evil and my now SO let me go, being the nice guy that he was. I stopped talking to him due to Satanic control and fell off the earth for a bit.

Well, paradise in Hell didn’t last (sarcasm, people) and I left Satan to hopefully die in flames. I spent a few months alone with my kiddo and went to school. I called up my now SO and shared the tale of the breakup and he met my angel. We started hanging out again and voila (can’t do the special text on this comp, sorry), we are now together. It’s going on four years of amazing, wonderful, and HEALTHY love. We chose a date for our anniversary to reflect the day we both knew we were meant to be together… Feb. 11th. This week we’ll be spending it a day early due to a school field trip but the message and the bond doesn’t change. I’m not sure what we’ll do tomorrow but I’m going to be with my amazing, wonderful, lusty, loving, funny, intelligent, charming, witty SO and that is all that matters to me.

Valentine’s day may seem a tradional day for such things but to me it’s artificial. Google the real story behind it and you’ll see how the card companies and jewelers make bank by almost guilt tripping people into buying things. Every day we spend time together is special to us, We don’t need Hallmark telling my SO when to show his love or the jewelers telling me what I am supposed to want from my SO. He once got me a sterling silver ring with a garnet for under ten bucks. I chose my ring at his urging that he wanted to buy me something I loved and I did. He even took me to a fine jewelry store but I made him leave. Not every girl loves diamonds and gold.

Valentine’s day isn’t all bad, though. I would just hope you loving couples out there show your love every day, not wait until Hallmark says it’s ok.

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I love my honey more than I ever thought possible.

We’ve been together almost a year, and while we have big plans for our anniversary and our birthdays (all within 9 days of each other) in March, we also have fun plans for Valentine’s Day.

He is the man who has finally made me believe that I’m lovable, that I’m smart, that I’m fun, that I’m sexy … and that it’s okay to trust, and relax, and be vulnerable, and be honest, and be … ME.

He is amazing - fun, smart, patient, kind, loyal, honest, trustworthy, sexy, sweet, affectionate, ambitious …

He is everything to me and I cannot believe how incredibly lucky I am to have him in my life.

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No big plans for Valentine’s Day–‘our’ romantic restaurant that featured all candle-light all Valentine’s Day has closed. But…
Seeing the rates so much cheaper, we decided to do our romantic get-away Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday rather than the Fri, Sat, Sun in Las Vegas. We can have a nicer room, nicer dinners and all that if we go earlier. Valentine’s Day is just another opportunity to get all lovey on each other. I bought Drachillix the perfect Valentine but gave it to him 2 weeks ago because I wanted him to start enjoying it NOW–the 4th season of Babylon 5 on DVD, to add to the previous 3 seasons I bought him for various special events. We make a huge deal out of birthdays, Christmas and our anniversary.
I couldn’t have the life I love without him. I was good as a single woman, but I’m so much more married to him. He boosts me and calms me and keeps me anchored in reality. We have so much fun just living our lives, getting up and going to work and buying groceries. Being in love can consume all my time; I don’t want to be without him if I don’t have to, but he stresses I shouldn’t not seek new friendships or let old ones die.
I don’t know anyone who can say they love their lives, every aspect of their lives, as much as I love mine.

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My SO and I have been together for over 40 years and it does get better over time.

In answer to the question, she asked me “How much do you love me?” shortly after we married. I suddenly came up with an answer that has served me for all these years. I held my thumb and forefinger apart about an inch and a half and said “This much.” She started pouting and then I added "More than you love me."

She will be working on Valentine’s Day, which means she’ll be in Ft. Lauderdale. FL, but we’ll make up for that. :wink:

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How much do I love my husband? Can I even count the ways?

We are always talking to each other. I call him on several times a day, while he’s at work. When I have to stay over here, we will get on Yahoo Messenger and I will watch him through the webcam while I do homework.

When I’m at home before he gets there, I hear him kicking the snow from his boots when he gets home and I rush down the stairs to tackle him and kiss him. We play raquetball twice a week and have an absolute blast. We are never very far from each other.

We watch football together and go to hockey games and yell at the goalie that he sucks! We go out walking and discuss politics and science and religion. We cook together, and roast marshmallows in our fireplace together, and tease each other.

I can’t even explain how fun all of this is. It makes me smile just thinking about some of the things we have done together.

He’s my best friend, my confidant, my companion, my playmate, my lover, my audience and my partner-in-crime. He means everything to me. He’s like a part of myself – whenever he’s not around I will constantly hear and see things that I can’t wait to tell him about.

Last Tuesday the university was covered in ice. There were pools of it in every grassy area. I couldn’t resist, and started slipping and sliding on the ice, trying to “skate” in tennis shoes. He joined me, and we laughed like hyenas. We are both in our upper twenties.

I was sitting with him on the couch yesterday, talking about mulled wine and John Kerry – and I said, “I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you. It’s going to be so much FUN!” And I’m selfish enough to wish I had met him earlier so that I could have even more time with him.

I have no idea what we are going to do for Valentine’s Day, and I don’t really care. I think spending it with him will be enough.

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I have no SO and I don’t do anniversaries but I say this: love is transcendental therefore it has no degrees (“I love you this much”) - it is like being dead, either you are or you aren’t.

There is a tendency for mushy people to add things to “I love you” in order to amplify their SO’s understanding but this is somewhat tautological or oxymoronic. “I love you more than words can say.” “I love you so-o-o much.” Oy.

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I love being in love!

I love my boyfriend. He pretty much fits my ideal standards of the perfect guy for me. He’s sweet, cute, argumentative and charming, and makes me laugh so much that I wonder if maybe I’m laughing TOO much. We can just sit and talk for hours, and its hard to get us apart. I talk to him every day, and if I can’t see him for some reason during the day then we’re on the phone or talking on AIM. It’s hard to describe how much you love a person to someone else! We rarely fight - our last argument was over the fact that a sand dollar is an actual living animal and not a rock (as he thought!), and we have an ongoing debate as to whether x-ray specs that would let you see through clothes would be considered cheating! I’ve never had so much fun with a person in my life. I regret having known him for three years and dating someone who was wrong with me for two of those years. Yes, we’re young, but age ain’t nothing but a number. Who knows where this might take us.

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How much do I love my husband? So much that even though he drives me completely batty there’s no one else in the world I’d rather be with. So much that even though he leaves for months at a time, I am always here when he gets back, and I always will be. He is my complete opposite and my exact match, and I love him without reason or logic.

Now I’m going to have a good cry because I haven’t seen him in a month, and he won’t be back for two more. :frowning:

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Lunasea is he in the navy or something…is that why he won’t be around?

I met my wife in grad school and we had that feeling when we first met…that feeling that this is too good to be true, and being young, keen, witty, birkenstock wearing grad students we did not admit that to each other right off the bat…until one valentines day we drove to Sedona and had the most amazing experience on Cathedral Rock . All witty remarks splashed away and still sweating from the hike up it…we saw something in each other that made us know that each was the one…the life partner to each other.
5 months later (having known her a year and a half) I proposed on that very site :slight_smile:

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Has in the Navy, a submariner, now he works for a contractor fixing them. Right now he’s in Hawaii. At least I can talk to him every day this way.

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I have had girlfriends in the past with whom I got along very well. No major fights, disagreements, annoyances, whatever. I thought I loved them and told them so.

Yet whenever they’d ask me that question: “We’re gonna be together forever, right?”, the best I could come up with was “Probably. I can’t see any reason why not, but I can’t tell you what’ll happen in the next 5 years…”

Now my wife: The very first time she asked me that question, I immediately replied “Damn straight.” And meant it.

I think I proposed maybe about a month later.

That’s how much I love my S.O. And I still mean it.