Of all the guys I’ve been with, the most any one of us spent was when my then-bf bought tickets to see “Die Walküre” at the Met, for my birthday. Does that make me a gold digger?
If you are going to places and doing things that you don’t really want to go to and do over and over again, then maybe you should not be with her in the first place. If you are doing this and not telling her that you don’t really want to do those things, then you are lying to her over and over again.
How about my ex husband who couldn’t seem to get a job, but was happy for me to work to support him in his expensive hobbies? Oh and of course feed and clothe and educate our four kids?
I burned thousands. Hundreds of thousands probably. And after his death 20 years ago, it’s only in the last five years that I’ve seen credit rather than debits in my bank account.
Burned on a girlfriend? What’s the limit? Ten bucks a fuck?
Burning is the wrong concept. It’s investment. You invest some money in order to get to know someone and for each of you to find out if you want to spend your lives together. If it doesn’t work out, you at least went to some places and shared some good times together. The money wasn’t wasted. And if it works out, then it’s worth every cent that you spent on her plus all the ones who came before her.
So he would not have gone to shows and dinners? Huh?
I’ve had girlfriends, and my entertainment budget never changed much. It just got spent on stuff with my girlfriend, as opposed to stuff with my buddies or by myself.
Did this guy do this stuff at gunpoint? Wasn’t he enjoying himself? I don’t think the concept of an entertainment budget is being comprehended here.
That’s just the jewelry industry’s marketing. I am female and did not want an expensive ring or a ring with diamonds at all. If you don’t want to spend a ton of money on a woman, you can say no. Some women might have a problem with it, but there are plenty of us out there who are not materialistic and don’t expect men to spend money on us.
You people who are answering the OP’s question seriously (even with dollar amounts!), I hope you realize that you’re admitting that those women had no value, that your time with them meant nothing, and that every minute and dollar you spent was wasted.
The OP made that very clear. Don’t forget, the question is:
How much money have you burned on a girlfriend?
So my answer is zero dollars. I (and my gf’s) spent a lot of money, but it was all worth it. Most of my exes are still close friends (handy, because one married my best friend). And the experiences we had together were great! I mean, I got to dance to Bill Monroe playing under a bridge, saw Days of Heaven in a huge theater, listened to Dvorak under the stars, and tried a hoity-toity ‘small plates’ bistro. All “good investments”.
Dating is a ‘rich man’s game’. I put food on the table (and cook it too). Concerts? What’s that…?
Seconded.
I had a number of girlfriends before I met my wife. Sure, I spent money doing things with them, and they were spending money doing things with me, and we were both spending money doing things we liked to do with each other. We had a lot of good times, and I have a lot of good memories, even of the ones I’m perfectly happy never to see again. Of every romantic relationship I was in, I think I got at least as much out of it as I put into it.
The OP’s question makes no sense in my world.
It only makes sense in a very transactional view of relationships, where a man is supposed to win a woman’s heart (or at least her hand) by spending money on her, and if she lets him spend that money and doesn’t ultimately marry him, she’s cheated him out of the money.
That’s a sick and sexist way of looking at relationships, and one that I’d have thought went out the window half a century ago.
I think “investment” is just as ridiculous as “burned”… like you only do it for a future pay off.
You spend money because you like to do something with someone (even if it is just spending time in someone’s company doing something you don’t particularly like).
In that sense it is (or should be?) more comparable to buying a movie ticket or a pizza, than buying shares or bonds.
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None of the money I ever spent during dating was ever burned. I got to have some great dining experiences, went on adventures, and saw entertainment that I greatly enjoyed, and with very pleasant company. I probably spent slightly more money than my girlfriends did, but it was never a factor.
Like others on this thread, I reject the OP’s premise as misguided and antiquated. He’s going about it all wrong.
If you extend the same question to lesbians it parses very differently. One may spend money on one’s girlfriends but there’s no implication that the relationship itself is founded on money flowing from one person to the other. Meanwhile cornflakes2 hasn’t asked how much money your girlfriend has burned on her partners.
None. It’s stupid, and I mostly blame men and not the women who use them.
OK, this perspective is even more F-ed up than I realized from the OP. Wives are not an investment, and no one should be “renting” women, and if “you” never see any returns you are definitely doing it wrong regardless.
I dated a model/exotic dancer, and she expected champagne treatment, but she would pay for some things, she really didnt care about money. So, I’d take her to say Disneyland, and pay for both of us, then she’d see a expensive shirt or something there and buy it for me. I would take her to a expensive dinner, she’d order and pay for a pricey bottle of wine and leave a big tip.
Mostly, I have earned more that the women I went out with, but most have been happy to help out- I’d buy the movie, she’d buy the popcorn, etc. I’d buy the dinner, she’d leave the tip, etc.
A man with money to burn soon meets his match.
I don’t know who wrote that but I think it’s kewl.
I couldn’t get past this without laughing till I pissed my pants!
You need to learn the concept of sunk costs. Actions should be based upon money forward and not the sunk costs. It shouldn’t matter how much you’ve spent so far, that money is gone.
Of my 4 serious relationships, two of my BFs spent less on me than me on him, 1 was about equal, and 1 (my future husband) spent considerably more on me because he could afford it.
After we broke up, I never gave it another thought or thought of it as wasted money. CODB.
CODB?