My boyfriend just surprised me with tickets to the symphony here in Houston this weekend.
I don’t even know why I brought it up to him the other night that I wished we could go, but I thought I made it pretty clear when I did that the tickets were too expensive, and that later on in our lives, when we had more disposable income, we could afford to go out and do nice things like that.
But he saw how much I wanted to go, and he surprised me by buying the tickets AND brought them home today from work during his lunch break to give them to me. He’s awesome and super and the best and I totally don’t deserve him.
On the one hand, it’s his money and he can do with it whatever he wants. He and I both work, and we have our separate incomes and expenses, so there’s really nothing I can do. But a big part of me feels like I fucked up, bringing up the symphony and how I wanted to go, then telling him that we need to save money and not go.
I guess I should be more careful in the future about wishing aloud around him. Is there anything I can say or do to help convince him not to spend money on these sorts of splurges, and to deal with the financial stuff he has to deal with? He’s always talking about how stressed out he is with paying off his credit cards and loans, and then goes and spends his money on things like this.
Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.