Dopers, I need your take on this situation.
My now ex-boyfriend and I both have December birthdays. So last December, for his birthday, I got him tickets to a hockey game (which was in January - a month away from the time I gave him the tickets). They were $300 for 2 tickets.
For my birthday, he got me tickets to a concert* that was in July - 7 months away. He got scalped tickets and paid $400 for the pair. (The face value was like $140 per ticket). Note, however, that at this time he did not actually physically give me the tickets. He had not printed them out yet, and never gave them to me.
- This was a concert for one of my favorite artists that I really really wanted to go to, that I had always been planning on attending, all along.
So in January, we went to the hockey game. Then in late February, we broke up.
A little while goes by and I started wondering about the tickets. Was he going to give them to me? Should I just buy my own separately? I was NOT going to miss this concert.
So I asked him about the tickets and he said he was going to sell them. Which kind of struck me as douchey because they were a gift to me. Wasn’t that “Indian giving?” Well, I thought, I am going to have to buy a ticket anyway, and I kind of felt bad about breaking up with him, and wanted to retain the friendship, so I offered to buy from him one of the tickets and said I would try to sell the other for him.
So I gave him $200 and he gave me both tickets. About a month later, I mailed him a check for $100.
In the meantime, I went to the concert with someone. And today the ex-boyfriend asked me for the final $100. I thought about it and realized that my ex-boyfriend was giving me an unfair deal. He essentially retroactively took away a gift he gave to me. What about the gift I gave to him, the $300 hockey tickets? If he was going to take away the concert tickets he gave me, should the value of the hockey tickets I have him offset the value of his gift? Could I retroactively take away my gift to him and call it even?
I nicely brought this up to him and he got very aggressive and insisted that he was in the right to demand the full $400 for the tickets, even though I had given him the gift of $300 hockey tickets. I look at it in terms of basic math: $400 - $300 = $100, which I have already paid to him. Personally, I would not have asked for a gift back, but he did. I am not sure what his motivation was, I think a little bit of bitterness, combined with his need for the money.
What say you Dopers, do I owe him the last $100?
Sorry for the length and complexity of this post!