I’m in a bit of an etiquette quandry. Some very old friends (a married couple; I’ve known her since they started dating over 10 years ago, and known him since high school, i.e. 15+ years ago) told me they had two tickets left for this Tuesday’s Peter Gabriel concert, and asked if I would take them off their hands, as most of their other friends had already bought tickets and they were unexpectedly left with extras. I said yes, knowing that concert tickets for something like this are never cheap, but figuring for something special I could lay out $40-some bucks, since Gabriel is a big favorite of mine and he doesn’t tour very often. I then offered the second ticket to a guy who I have been alternately Dating and then Not Dating for the past 3 months (looooong story, about which I’ve already written a couple of threads; basically, I really like him, he likes me, we’re attracted to each other, have tons in common, and get along wonderfully, but he’s really not yet over his ex, so things have been a little awkward here and there, which only complicates the issue I am about to present). He accepted and is very psyched about the whole thing, as am I.
Well, I called the wife yesterday to arrange to meet up before the concert and/or pick up the tickets from them, and asked how much I owed her. She replied, “Well, I’m sure we can arrange something; I wasn’t planning on charging you the full cost of what we paid for them. I bought them without price in mind, really, and it’s no big deal; they’d just go unused otherwise.” I pressed her on how much they were, and apparently they aren’t the cheap seats that I’d assumed (not that those would even have been that cheap), but cost $80-some each. Well, that’s quite a chunk of change, and if it were just my ticket I’d probably make her take the whole amount, but $160 when I was expecting $40-some is quite a chunk out of the budget…plus I know my Semi-Non-Dude wasn’t expecting it, either, and we’re not at the stage where I want to go around in circles about finances if it’s more than a couple of bucks for a drink or a movie ticket.
So I’m trying to come up with an arrangement which will be fair to all concerned, but which won’t cost anyone $160, although my friend a) can easily afford the tickets, and b) insists that I can just take them out to dinner sometime and we can call it even…I was thinking of maybe trading a night of babysitting, since they have 2 little kids and don’t get out much, but can anyone else think of a creative solution or two?