We’ve got a thread about you and your spouse, how about your parents with each other? And did that affect how you are with your spouse?
As for myself, I never saw my parents kiss, hug or even hold hands. I never saw my father put his arm around my mother (or us kids) or any other expression of physical affection. I never even saw them dance together. Throughout their 59-year marriage, they were more like brother and sister. There was a type of love between them, but it wasn’t overtly expressed.
As I said in the other thread, my husband and I can’t keep our hands off each other. Perhaps this is something that skips a generation.
My parents were born circa 1930. I never saw them exhibit great passion for each other (thankfully), but they did frequently touch and hug and kiss in front of me.
My Dad passed away when I was 18 months old, so I can’t answer this directly. My Mother never dated another man and would be almost always be moved to tears when ever she spoke of him. I never doubted their love.
I remember them doing it a few times. Usually after they’d consumed some alcohol, although it would have been no more than a glass of wine because anyone who drinks more than that is an irresponsible alcoholic which is what will happen to me if I don’t straighten up and start taking school seriously.
I don’t remember them kissing or hugging much. I just think I wasn’t paying attention, though. I mean, my parents? Ew. I do know they had an active sex life. Don’t ask how I know.
My dad was born in '33, my mom in '40; they married in 1963 (and are still married today). I’d say that public displays of affection between them, when I was a kid, were uncommon, but not unheard of – occasional kisses or hugs in my presence. I don’t remember ever seeing them hold hands while walking together, or anything like that.
We had the parents’ bedroom, the girls’ bedroom and the boys’ bedroom which was down the hall. Talking to my sister, apparently the girls could hear activities at night. Thankfully, we were too far away.
My parents had six children and are obviously very much in love after 56 years of marriage. But the only time I have seen them touch each other (even holding hands) has been on the dance floor.
Oh and when my father has been seriously ill and incapacitated. My mother would help him get up out of bed or a chair safely.
My parents were married in 1960. I remember seeing them kiss at least once a day. My dad always kissed my mom when he left for work. He kissed us kids when he left for work too. We’d still be in bed and he’d come in and kiss us goodbye. That’s a great memory I have of my dad.
My mom was born in 1921, dad in 1919, married in 1944. Four children. I never saw them kiss or hold hands. I often wonder how they had kids??? Even my father admitted my mother was a cold fish. My sister and I don’t remember our mother ever telling us she loved us.
I don’t recall ever seeing them kiss each other, but they hugged each other almost every day, or every work day at least. That was how they greeted each other upon dad returning from work each day. And they are still married after 40-something years, getting close to 50.
By the time I was old enough to take note, I believe I had driven them to the point of “we definitely do not want to deal with any more of that so we just better knock it off with this shit right now.” I might have noticed some affection, but it was quite perfunctory.