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It’s certainly possible they’ve changed the age. IL child neglect laws are a strange thing. On the one hand, they read as rather draconian. I’d hazard a guess that most 13 year olds would be just fine for a short period of time. Heck, many 13 year olds are babysitting other kids! (Although you bring up a great point re: roommate’s kids and other siblings. Sometimes two or more perfectly reasonable and intelligent kids just get stupid when they’re alone together. I think the aggregate IQ drops in some inverse proportion to the number of bodies when kids hang out together.)
On the other hand, Illinois has made it so there’s a whole lot of rigidly defined areas of doubt and uncertainty. In addition to the undefined “unreasonable”, they have 15 “factors” (or more - it says “not limited to”) that caseworkers and judges consider to determine if neglect is present. So there’s a whole lot of individual discretion - good for some parents, bad for others.
Here’s the relevant part of the statute. The whole thing can be found here.
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All of that seems reasonable to me, with the exception of the 14-years-old thing. It’s just silly to apply an age to it (within reason, of course…my roommate left her 8 year old in charge of the 5 year old – I’d never have done that). I was watching other people’s children when I was 12, fercrissakes. On the other hand, my son is 30 and I still question his decision making skills at times.
We’ve always used 10 as the cutoff for staying alone, 12 for watching younger sibs. With developmental/behavioral issues I’d seek the advice of a doctor.
I’m not sure of when the IL laws were enacted, but a few years back (10? 15?) there was a pretty high profile case were a couple (named Schoo?) left 2 or 3 quite young kids (under 10?) home alone while they went on a trip abroad (Mexico?).
It is possible the IL law was enacted/modifed as a result of that.
Daughter, at age 5, would take the bus from daycare to kindergarten - she was ok and the bus driver watched for her every morning. She was way responsible for her age.
Son, at age 11, on his way home from swimming class (he had a bus ticket) lost the ticket, decided to walk home (~ 2 miles) took a shortcut over a cinder block wall, got his knee stuck, someone heard him calling “Help!” and phoned the police, who took his for an x-ray and then brought him home. His sister, aged 14, was at home watching the last episode of MASH and
didn’t respond to the scene (she thought the police call was an information thing, not a ‘get down here!’ thing). I got home just as the police car delivered the kid back.
At age 13, my son didn’t know his address, either - he knew where he lived but couldn’t tell you the names of the cross streets. At age 2.5, daughter was regaling complete strangers about her sun sign and what it meant. You gotta know your kid.
My youngest was less than 3 months shy of 12 when the next older went off to college and he came home alone. A year later he went off to HS (7th to 11th grade) that required taking a city bus and changing to another. The HS his brother and sister went to had in the meantime become all French and, while he was certainly fluent, he chose to go to a somewhat distant English language school.
Leaving them home alone at night was a different matter. I don’t think we were really comfortable with that till they were about 14.
I agree, it depends on the child and the laws in your state. But I think age 10 is just too young to be home alone all day, every day, for 10 weeks of summer vacation. At 10, maybe I’d let him come home on the bus and let himself in, and be alone doing homework for an hour or two until I got home; but 8 hours every day…? That just seems to be begging for trouble, unless your friend can come home at lunchtime to “fix lunch” and check on him.
If I recall correctly, my older son (who has ADHD) was allowed to be home alone for short periods (maybe an hour or two, while I went to the grocery store) starting when he was about 11 or 12. With the ADHD, I was worried about things like, would he try to cook something on the stove and then get distracted and forget to turn it off, etc. Leaving a 10-year-old with attention deficit (which, in my son, included poor impulse control) for extended periods of time, for weeks on end, is just too much - that can lead to boredom, and for a young kid, no good ever comes of that
It’s such a facile answer, but it really does depend on the kid. I was left alone plenty when I was 7 or 8; then again, I was an independent only child. I babysat a family where the kids were, say, 14 and 10, either of which would have been fine alone but together there was the potential for trouble.
I think I started spending periods of time (sick days, after-school gaps, etc.) home alone around 12, but wouldn’t be doing it regularly until middle school.
I think a kid that age would end up bored to death staying home alone every day during the summer. Even the most independent adults would feel pretty antsy confined to the house with minimal human interaction, no real purpose, and no ability to go out for a walk around the block or to the store when it got too boring. There is only so much daytime TV you can watch. The poor kid would end up just counting the hours until mom got home, and after work she’d probably be too tired to pay a day’s worth of pent-up attention to him.
Most people mistakenly believe there are laws regulating at what age kids can be left home alone. This is almost never true. In almost all states there is no legal limit AT ALL. A few have ‘guidelines’ but I think there is only 1 or 2 with actual laws. I’ll try to find the info.
Normally I’ll leave my 9 and 7 year olds alone for up to half an hour, maybe a little more. But today their 11 year old brother was with them while I was gone for 2 hours, and there were no problems. And if the oldest is there (he’s 13) I can leave them for much more extended periods.
Zombies or not, I’m surprised to hear the difference from when I was a child in the 60s. I was the 4th of 5 children, and us “older kids” were born a year apart. I think my mother was ready to flee the house as soon as she could. We would walk downtown by ourselves when I was 6 or 7, and my parents would leave us alone when my older sister (No. 2, and the responsible one) was 9 or 10 and my younger brother was 3.
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