Your experience of living is based on modern living. If I may dare to suggest with the utmost desire to avoid any offence that you are in this case being narrow minded, I refer you to the final point in my previous post…
"ETA: If I think logically about this. Porn is a fairly recent phenomenon. The availability thereof even more recent. That considered I can quite believe in the possibility to ‘abstain’ from sexual gratification for very long periods of time. Heck - the more you don’t do it, the easier it gets to not do it… I’d imagine. "
You know for all the people dogging the OP, it is the inability to achieve sexual gratification–by oneself or with others–absent the aid of pornography that is medically considered pathological, not the other way around.
I am having trouble understanding your point. If you are saying it is abnormal to be unable to acheive sexual gratification with real sex or pornography then my default position is that I agree with you. In other words, it is odd for a person to releive themselves without some form of desire for their desired sex going on in their heads.
My guess would be that the particular images in all of the porn the OP has found so far don’t really do it for him. Or maybe he’s not a very visual person, and it’s too distracting for him to concentrate on processing an image with his brain while he’s just trying to get off. Or he’s like me and feels that porn is too distant, that it’s very hard to feel involved in viewing a film clip.
I don’t actually think it’s that strange. I guess I’m just naturally curious about sexuality, so I get into this conversation on occasion, and I have some friends who occasionally view porn, some who view it often, and some who view it very little if at all.
Erotic/sexual/pornographic imagery is as old as time.
There have been paintings and sculpture of a prurient nature for thousands of years; photographs and publications for well over a hundred years. Shortly after primitive cave artists painted images of hunting and such came drawings of people fucking.
I find most porn to be unappealing because there’s no sexuality or romance to it. Seduction occurs in the mind and I don’t see the erotic aspect of what appears to be a gynecological exam gone awry.
I am saying if you require porn as a supplement to your sexual interactions with a partner or for masturbation, then there is a problem. This is not to say that enjoying porn is per se problematic, but rather when porn becomes a sine qua non for sexual gratification. This includes the scenario where one routinely cannot “successfully” masturbate without the aid of pornography. By pornography, I do not include one’s own internal mental fantasies.
Yeah. I like to just make up stuff in my head that involves me or sometimes people I know. I also don’t get the “Maybe he’s asexual” comments because he’s clearly masturbating, just not to porn.
There is nothing unusual about it. I don’t watch pornography and I know plenty of other men who don’t either. As to whether a majority of men do, I’ve seen conflicting polls. For women, despite various claims by defenders, very few women use pornography.
Pornography is a bad, immoral industry. Many women (and probably some men) have been hurt, abused, and exploited by pornographers. They’re bad in other ways as well: fraudulent billing of customers, for instance. You are definitely much better off without not using it.
This is interesting. I have been married twice, and as far as I know, neither of my husbands watched or looked at porn. If they did, it’s news to me. Are men really that into porn? I didn’t realize it was a widespread thing like it seems to be to the posters here. Sure, I’ve looked at porn when it’s available to me, but I have no interest in seeking in out, and after a minute I think it’s pretty boring. I know men appreciate it more than (most) women do, but still–is it really something most men are interested in, and if so, why?
THIS. I’m sorry but most visual porn seems to be targeted towards the Yah Dude demographic. Meaning it’s fake and crude. There’s nothign wrong with movies of lovemaking/sex…but much of porn really seems to have an agrogant (sp?) attitude about it…like it’s very “hetro dude self centered”
This seems especially true with certain “fetish” porn, specifically spanking/bondage/BDSM stuff. If you think it’s bad watching a chick pretending to get off in “vanilla” porn, imagine watching a chick who isn’t honestly into “kink” pretending to get spanked, screaming bloody murder while some completely over-the-top man or woman (it’s usually the female fake spankers who are over-the-top, for some reason) administers light pats to her ass that don’t so much as raise a blush on her cheeks. The “Yah Dudes” probably watch it and snicker at it, thinking they’re watching some edgy stuff, while the true fetishists see it and go “WTF is this crap?”
When I was a teenager the only porn I had access to was the occasional Hustler my friend sneaked out of his dad’s stash. So I made my own. I started writing erotic spanking/bdsm fiction when I was about 14 (of course, I wrote some pretty ridiculous stuff, which is only natural since I didn’t even lose my virginity until I was 20 and never had a spanking partner until I was 23, so I didn’t know what the hell I was talking about when I was 14 ) and used that to get off.
Yes, most heterosexual men are quite intrigued by naked women and their antics. If you don’t have a specific type of fantasy that turns you on expressed in porn then it’s possible that you are tuned a bit differently than most men, your fetish or turn on might be way outside the mainstream, or you might simply have a low sex drive.
If you are in a relationship and are having satisfying sex regularly the male interest in, or need for porn usually (not always) diminishes very considerably.
It’s not, the imagination or even a text “story” will suffice quite nicely in the absence of external visual stimulus. Given a choice, however, seeing a woman of the type you desire, in the context you find stimulating, getting it or giving it in living color and sound is visually fascinating.
I don’t really have out-of-the-ordinary fantasies. My idea of great sex is perfectly executed sex in the missionary or reverse-missionary position. Unbelievably pleasurable, but not kinky in any real way.
I may have below-average sex drive for a guy, but I do masturbate about five times per week and have for a long time. I do so because of the buildup of sexual energy. I enjoy it but wouldn’t do it very often if I didn’t feel psychological pressure to do so.
) and used that to get off.