Okay I GET that lots and lots of people think it’s just the cat’s meow, but why? Is it because sex is boring to them? I’m pretty damned old, and sex in and of itself has always remained so wonderful and amazing, that I don’t understand why people would need to have something else aside from it. (PS, I’m talking about porn movies, not nude photos, because those I can understand the appeal of, many of them nicely showcase the beauty of the human body and I can see how they’d be a turn-on, particularly to men, who are typically visually stimulated).
It kind of makes me feel bad for people who do need it. I get a mental picture of folks who’ve lost that magic, and are sort of “chasing the ghost” sexually speaking. Not being a porn consumer, I know my vision is probably way off the mark, but can porn people explain why?
Yes, I’ve seen it, it’s awful stuff, so fake-y and embarrassing really, people doing things in a way that people in real life would NEVER do them (at least I hope not :D). I’m not talking about the acts themselves, I get that there might be some acts that a person’s partner doesn’t like, and that they might then want to somehow indulge in, by way of at least viewing it. But the things that they say, and the embarrassing way they act (or bad acting maybe???). It’s like how can this be a turn-on? It’s a bad Jim Carrey comedy.
Many people (most, perhaps) don’t have exactly as much sex as they like. A man or woman, whether married or not, may have a libido in which he/she would like to have sex 2-3 times per day, or more. But few people are blessed with a partner that has the exact same sex drive, so there is bound to be at least some discrepancy. So in those circumstances, people generally masturbate (or bottle it up until it explodes). And many people find masturbation more enjoyable (or easier) when aided by pornography. Most recognize that it is not a good portrayal of most real-world sex, but most porn consumers are able to suspend their disbelief for a short period of time.
99.9% of porn is unspeakably evil garbage made by, and presumably for, some bizarre species of alien gremlin (hell, if it’s intended for human consumption, I no longer want to be human).
But then there is that 0.1% which is quite wonderfully nice indeed. If you can find it.
When you do come across some, it’s like having dragged yourself through a hundred miles of sewage, and then emerging into the sunshine, suddenly finding yourself in a meadow of flowers, surrounded by a heard of grazing unicorns.
But be careful and don’t walk too far, or you’ll fall right back into the sewer again.
It’s two completely different beasts entirely, really. They shouldn’t even have the same name.
When I used to watch porn, I’d Google porn with a storyline, usually in vain. I, as a straight woman, would also put Asian in the search and inevitably come up with bunch of Asian women porn. Bla. I totally get what you’re saying OP, though, about porn being pretty awful and if you wanted to watch someone just have sex, mightaswell just go peeking in your neighbors’ windows or something lol.
Well, photos are generally (at least the ones in playboy and playgirl) artistic and attractive. From what I’ve seen of porn, any attractiveness of the players is almost unnoticeable because of the stupidity of the acting and unrealistic behaviour. IMHO. As I said in the OP, for me, the phoniness of it is a huge turnoff, and laughable. All I can think when I see them is “PLEASE, no one does that/says that in real life when they’re having sex”.
And I had completely forgotten about folks who are not in relationships. I was thinking of this more in line with the other thread “Do you watch porn with your partner”, that’s what sparked my curiosity. And there must be something wrong with me because when I’m single I don’t really think all that much about sex. Romance sure, I miss romance, but sex? It’s sort of as if it goes into dormant mode, my sex drive I mean. But when I’m in a relationship, my mindset is “but I’m getting awesome sex, why would I want/need porn when I have the real thing”? If I’m in a relationship where the sex is bad (which usually won’t last much past me realizing “hey the sex is bad!”), I guess I go into the same sort of “sex drive dormant” mode as if I’m single (and then I get rid of him :D).
Nothing wrong with you at all, but nothing wrong with those who enjoy anything n moderation either. I’m in a committed, long term relationship and I’d rather my partner not stray, so I don’t mind at all if he gets bored and wanders off (mentally) to examine other naked women, so long as he remains faithful to me. And I occasionally want to see other things that I can’t see at home as well. It’s a perfectly acceptable way to explore other options without actually giving away the love, affection, and attention I want from my husband. And it’s kind of curious and exciting to see what he’s seeking out, which deviates a bit from what he seeks from the woman he loves and respects.
I’m okay with it, kind of intrigued by it, and I feel it helps keep us both faithful to our marriage.
As far as the histrionics and ridiculous sideshow offerings, PM me for a couple free website ideas if you are truly curious. You can search for categories you are interested in, including “amateur” which will include home video of couples in love sans plot and storyline. Unless you want plot, storyline, and romance, and even them you can use certain keywords to watch loving couples share in mutual pleasure that isn’t embarrassing, cheesy, or awkward. I don’t want to plug anyone’s site, so I won’t post here, but there are a couple of producers of hardcore porn who are terribly concerned with women’s satisfaction and offer some very graphic and gratifying couple porn.
Was the last porno you saw made in 1960? Because like half the porn on the Internet now is regular folks uploading their sex tapes. Or guys uploading sex tapes of their exes, whatever.
In the name of all that is holy, loving, and respectful: I sincerely hope those are fake “exes”. The idea of revenge porn is disheartening. No, sickening.
