I’ve actually been quite busy this past week with work that I didn’t really think about planning on how to woo her. Not until today
Don’t worry, I’m not losing sleep on this. If anything, it’s just a distraction.
Ok, next time I will do or say something to at least see if I have a chance and not act like some school boy.
Ioioio, I thought about that afterwards…maybe I’ll ask!!! It’s on!
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Feminist exp…the fuck are you even talking about?
Skim that poster’s history, you’ll see it’s well within character and they surely are too ugly to date (at least from the ugliness of what’s in their mind).
You are way overthinking it, dude, and making up a lot of excuses. The more you wait the worse it’s going to get. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, don’t agonize over the perfect thing to say, just nut up and go. Less talking about it and more doing. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t. Don’t creep out on her if it doesn’t. Yeah it’ll suck but you’ll be over it in no time. Maybe it works and you’ll be kicking yourself in the ass for screwing around so long.
Words of wisdom. Can we make it a sticky?
But, look, hippie:
Do the thing or get off the pot, OK? Would you please just have a conversation with this girl? Seriously, don’t let this thread end without you doing something. You have a captive audience here. Otherwise, it’ll be like the thread I started once about shaving my eyebrows, only to change my mind. I almost got booed off the board.
You don’t have to ask her out straight off the bat. In fact, my advice is still: For heaven’s sake, don’t. But here’s what you do: Ask her how she’s doing. Just that. Say: “Hi. How are you doing?”
Could you that? Can we make that the homework assignment for next week?
This is excruciating.
Offer your hand when you introduce yourself. Make sure that palm is sweaty. They love that.
I know what this means. It means she likes to wear rings, but she DELIBERATELY is not wearing a ring that would indicate she’s married. At least, that’s what I used to do when I was single. I love rings and would wear several, but always made sure my left hand ring finger was ring free.
To be fair, there was/is a feminist here, who compares a man offering a handshake, to rape/sexual assault, so it’s not that far off.
Yep. You can get a damn good idea whether you have a chance just with smalltalk. And if you think you’re getting green lights ask her out in a casual enough way that there’s no lost face if you read the situation wrong. Probably all this is happening over more than 1 visit.
What you must not do is reveal all your feelings prior to even knowing the first thing about someone. Works in movies, not IRL.
Well, shit. Here;s what I’d do, since the OP seems to be fishing for this.
I’d look for some particular characteristic that is actually nice looking (not tits), and very casually remark on it: Nice outfit, or cool glasses, or that haircut suits you, or is that an Indian bracelet?. Take your smile and thank you and let it go. Then, next trip, I’d seek out her aisle, and just see if she looks like she recognizes and remembers me. If she doesn’t, forget it – no chance. If she does, then start planning for my third encounter.
“Nice outfit” actually gets quite a lot of smiles, but make sure she is actually wearing something that she made some effort to look stylish, otherwise it could come off as unwelcome sarcasm. Don’t linger and ogle, just say “Nice outfit” and smile and pass on. Women love to be made to feel that they’re doing something right and somebody has noticed approvingly.
Break the ice. Always break the ice. Just make that first crack, and let it spread according to its own molecular structure.
Not in this thread, there isn’t/wasn’t.
She’s not a feminist, she’s batshit. Good grief. :rolleyes:
dirty hippie, don’t do something because people on the internet are getting impatient. Take your time.
Yes, they are simple, empty-headed creatures who need only the occasional crumb of approbation from men to be happy.
OK, then linger and ogle. After all, they are simple, empty . . . . .
Personally I think he should drop the damp-palmed stammering and leave the poor bloody woman in peace.
And die alone?
I don’t think he should profess his love to a stranger. But absolutely he can test the water with some small talk. If that’s off-limits then he may as well end it now as life’s clearly hopeless.
Small talk is fine, but if he were going to speak to the woman he would have already, so now she’s left with some bloke hanging around her workplace twitching and gulping and straining to catch a glimpse of the rings on her fingers and the nametag on her breast so he can build up some desperate narrative and SHE WORE PINK LIPSTICK TODAY DOES THIS MEAN SHE’S AVAILABLE?
@Penfeather: reading the OP back again there is something of a creepy vibe so your point is taken.
@dirty_hippie: as implied by my above sentence, already the situation is somewhat suboptimal. You don’t really want to be focusing / fantasizing about someone you haven’t talked to. Especially not a pretty girl in a service job, who probably gets asked out a lot and is likely sick of it.
Step 1 of my “dating advice to shy guys” schtick is: talk to more people. More people in general, and including attractive women. Eventually it will not be a big deal to talk to an attractive woman, and also you’ll find you become interested in women at a more appropriate time – around the time you’re sensing they are interested in you.
Can you play guitar? Sing her a song!
Oh checkout lady
I’ve been checking you out.
Ran you through my scanner
and now I have no doubt.
You see, for quite a while now
I’ve been self-service only.
Now my wrappings worn off
and I’m just so lonely.
With your silky black hair,
you’re my ring-it-through beauty.
But don’t be afraid,
I won’t shop-lift that booty.
Your sking is so smooth,
I can’t wait to price-tag it.
And when we’re making love,
I’ll alway double-bag it.
Oh check-out girl,
you so excite me.
We need a clean up,
on aisle three.