Mods, if this is in the wrong forum please move it-it struck me as a poll, so I put it here.
Og I’m such a dork, but here goes…
Background: There exists a girl with severe facial features and an impeccable pony-tail (hereafter The Girl) to whom I’m attracted. She’s a cashier in a large retail store (college job) and we met when I worked there also (very briefly-I am not cut out for ‘serving’ the public). Anyway I think there was a bit of chemistry between us but am not for certain; I was in a different department so we rarely had the chance for anything other than ‘hello’s’, the exceptions being the rare times our breaks overlapped and we might have a few minutes for a conversation in the break room. We seem to have hit it off–as well as two introverts can, anyway–and I think this could have led to something eventually, but, for the sake of my own sanity, I changed jobs only a couple of weeks after we had gotten comfortable speaking to one another. Since then (read-two months) I only see her when I need something from her store; if she’s working I’ll go through her line and we’ll have the little ‘how’s the new job?/how’s the old job?’ conversations, but, since the store is usually crowded, there isn’t really a chance to expand on these.
Now I am not a flirty indivual, nor, it seems, is she (not just with me–her general disposition) so our conversational snippets are hard for me to read. I think there is a good chance she would agree if I asked her out, but there really isn’t an opportunity to do so. If I had a chance for a couple of minutes of warm up conversation, I wouldn’t be worried, but even on my best day I would be unnerved by asking someone for a date/number out of the blue. Add to this the fact that we would be in a public place, probably with 2-3 other denizens in the queue behind me, and, quiet simply, I haven’t the nerve. If I had my ruthers, I wouldn’t ask her out at work to begin with, even if it the store was stone dead, but, since this is the only place I see her, I really don’t have a choice.
The Proposition: I work nearby, so I can see her car on my way to and fro, and have struck upon the idea of waiting for her on one of the nights that she closes*, meeting her in the parking lot-how romantic. :rolleyes: Obviously this situation also screams ‘stalker’, which, I’m guessing, is bad. But I’ve thought of everything and it seems to me that this is the only way I could make a proposal without being in earshot of half a dozen other human beings. I’ve run the idea by a female friend who said she wouldn’t mind being approached in this fashion and thinks that my doing so would be ‘sweet’. However, said friend is, shall we say, slightly vacuous and very open–not that this is bad, just that I don’t think she’s very similar to The Girl at all, and therefore her opinion is somewhat less than useful.
I suppose that I should say that feeling a genuine attraction toward a female is pretty rare for me. Physical beauty might grab my attention for a couple of seconds, but one coquettish titter makes me want to turn on my heel. The Girl is pretty, to be sure, but she also has a spark of intelligence in her eyes which, IMO, is exceedingly rare**, and will definitely hold my attention. In short, I don’t want to screw up any chance I may have by coming across as a stalker from the outset.
Questions for consideration:
- Ladies, if a clean cut, decidely non-threatening, somewhat attractive acquaintance waited for you (and asked for a date) outside of your work, how creeped out would you be?
A) Mace first, ask questions later.
B) Somewhat creeped out at first, but able to consider the proposition.
C) Not creeped out at all.
- Should I…?
A) Implement above approach.
B) ‘Fix my courage to the sticking point’ and ask her at the register, denizens and ego be damned.
C) Other (Please expound).
Also, please state your level of intro/extroversion.
*Store closes at 9pm.
**In either sex.