How to handle daughter dating older guy (Long)

It’s reliably amusing to watch him act out the board’s—and possibly the world’s— least convincing version ever of Travis Bickle’s “you talking to me?” speech.

I’m not tough.

Sweet. Once you’re in jail, that means that she’ll need some…

consoling

It’s the Dio show! My favorite program!

Does anyone else get the image of Dio watching Clint Eastwood movies and practicing the lines?

Dio, your daughter is hypothetically dating a guy you don’t like - it’s over the top to say you’re going to arrest her and kill him. Maybe try sitting her down and talking to her.

I would do that too, but I would tell the guy to fuck off and stay off before anything else.

You sound like a jealous boyfriend. Maybe there are some other issues at work here?

Nope. I’m just a responsible father.

You do realize some men will only see that as challenge.

DIBS!!!

I look forward to seeing Dio’s daughter at the bar 6 months later drowning her issues with alcohol on $2 shooter night before she runs off into the night with an older guy like me to work out the massive ball of “daddy issues” he’s loaded her with.

…if she’s hot. :smiley:

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That’s awesome, and will definitely improve their lives.

Am I right in hearing you say that you think you’d behave ethically by murdering your daughter’s older “boyfriend” (in quotes because I don’t want to discuss whether the term applies) if he doesn’t back off?

Because one possible response to this situation is for the guy to contact her surreptitiously, let her know what happened, and suggest waiting for her 18th birthday. At which point she’ll be much less likely to tell you what’s going on in her life, for good or ill, removing your ability to protect her.

That does, however, protect your self-image, which may be the priority in this situation.

Seriously. I could tell you about daddy issues. (Thankfully I seem to have worked most of them out now.)

Agreed. I know what it’s like to feel preyed upon by a pedophile. I also know what it’s like to be hit on by adults as an older teen (16, 17). The two situations are incomparable.

Say, Dio? The age of consent in Minnesota is 16, so if you were to fuck up your 17 year old daughter’s (hypothetical) older lover, you would be the criminal - not him (or her). Just thought you should know that.

That actually made me laugh out loud

The issue is not so much your daughter’s attraction to him, but why a 25 year old would be eschewing women in his own age group and gravitate toward a 17 year old. Sure there’s the sex aspect, but it sounds like he wants a relationship with her. He’s an adult and she’s a high school student. When I was 25 the notion of dating a 17 year old would have been ridiculous. It does not speak all that well for his level of maturity or sophistication, and if you have someone who is still that way by age 25 he’s not going to change all that appreciably as he ages.

Immature men generally do not make great long term bets, and there’s usually HUGE drama when you try to disengage.

Turning, it sounds like you’re handling it very well, and your daughter is lucky to have you. Kudos.

He thinks that whatever it is he has on the mods here will also work in real life?

IME, any 25-year-old who is dating a 17-year-old is immature in some way. If he weren’t, he’d be dating women his own age, or at least in his same life-stage. That doesn’t mean that this relationship will be harmful to her; simply that while she’s probably flattered now, eventually she’s going to figure out that the reason he was dating her wasn’t that she was mature as much as it was that he was immature.

Ladies and gentlemen, this thread has been interrupted by yet another rerun of The Dio Show.

We do not anticipate returning to the regular thread that was in progress.

We were, actually - take a look above you.