Haven’t done any MMORPG lately? Fill up a thermos (making sure to replace the coffee you took), reconnect with your guild & steer clear the rough weather. If you get hungry, ask what restaurant she’d like you to go out & get Take Out for her from.
If she stares at you coldly while reaching for a chef’s knife & says, “I’m. Cooking. Dinner.” have they keys in your hand & tell her you’re going out to get gasoline.
Being just 3 steps closer to the car & having the keys in your hand could just save your life…
I don’t get really bad PMS more than a few times a year, so it’s not usually a big issue. Also, PMS doesn’t generally make me a frothing psycho. All it does is make me a lot less likely to let something slide that I would often just ignore. So, if my husband says something jerkish or forgets to do something he agreed to do, I’m a lot less likely to let it slide if I’m PMSing. One could make the argument that it just stops me being too accommodating.
The only time I’ve acted like a jerk during PMS has been times when PMS occurred at the same time as periods of extreme stress, where I felt like shit and at the same time I was under a ton of pressure. I think most people get kind of pissy in that situation, though.
For me it’s more like RAGE rage rage justified rage, and then the realization that I am being irrational. So, I apologize and then 90% of the time I start to cry and talk about what a jerk I am and how no one should have to put up with me. Minutes later, it can be RAGE rage rage justified rage again.
I’m not sure what to make of this. Are you implying that people who care about you cannot tell when you are upset or are you saying you don’t get upset or something entirely different?
When I’m moody I’m not unpleasant, exactly - I don’t lash out on people or anything (usually) - but anyone who knows me will know that I’m not happy. This will effect them because they care about me.
I don’t really have mood swings either. I’m just lucky. I tend to be a little more weepy (as it tearing up at cheesy commercials and crying babies) coming up to my period, but it’s not a big deal and I keep it to myself. I don’t get irritable at all, and it’s not bad enough that I break down crying. I don’t think my SO notices.
My mom and dad fought terribly… one week per month. She never would admit it meant anything that it was always the week before her period that she was a raving bitch, though. My dad knew and tried to avoid her/keep her calm, but it didn’t work.
I do not have mood swings that are tied to menstruation (I have also never had a menstrual cramp). Like all humans, including men (!), I can be in a bad mood at times. However, these are not “swings” (they don’t suddenly arise or suddenly depart) and they do not occur on a schedule.
Both my husband and I can be very crabby when we are hungry. It’s something we have in common.
The worst is when it’s your boss being a bitch. You can’t do a damn thing!
I understand that sometimes you just can’t help snapping, but it behooves people to realize the aspect of their behavior and do something about it. Too many times I’ve seen women use it as an excuse to be bitches! And that just makes us look bad.
I do get weepy when it comes to that time of the month, and it’s particularly hard when my dad is bothering me too much at that time, because nothing stresses me more than family.
I suppose I’m equivocating on ‘mood swing’ and ‘bad mood’.
My wife gets crabby when hungry, as do a lot of people. I don’t. I mention this because I’ve had some discussions with friends about it and it’s always been something I’ve wondered about (my thoughts are when I was younger, I’d diet very poorly and would basically starve myself, so I’m kind of curious if that effected my ability to not be crabby about it).
Both MsWhatsit and I have expressed that we don’t think it’s carte blanche at all. I try very, very hard to be reasonable, and I apologize when I do lose it. It’s not like I’m a raging bitch and then say, “Well, it’s PMS. deal with it, husband and kids.” It should also be noted that I am deeply, deeply miserable when I have PMS and not at all as though I’m enjoying the bitchitude.
I dunno. Those of you who can ensure that your bad moods never affect the people around you are just wired differently, I guess.
I am not subject to mood swings. Like any human, I can certainly be made to feel bad/mad/sad about a situation or something that’s happened to me, but it’s not as a result of some random hormonal thing. And it’s not right to take your negative feelings out on an innocent party, regardless. I don’t believe anyone should just get a pass on that.
My wife is in womanopause. I play racketball 4 times a week. Sometimes, I am sore and tired, but I go.
Get in a car with her and she opens a window. it could be cold as hell for me. But my comfort is not part of the equation. The window stays open.
If she turns the air on , it freezes me. Too bad, suffer.
My wife also has PMS. Permanent Menstrual Syndrome.
Is she just grumpy or lashing out and saying hateful things? If it’s just that she’s in a bad mood, you probably need to give her space. But if she’s lashing out and saying hurtful things, then you should talk with her when she’s calm to address that. She may not really remember the things she said. If that’s the case, it may be a good idea to record her outbursts so she can hear them later. Most cell phones can do voice recordings or get a digital recorder.
You’re probably not going to get her to be in a good mood during PMS. But hopefully you can get her to redirect her rage so that it’s not personally directed at you
