I am no beauty but I was decent looking and well shaped when I was young. I found it extremely off putting that the only interest most male people had in me was whether or not they could get me in bed. I was intelligent, active in a popular hobby, into music etc etc but all the guys wanted to talk about was sex. I cannot even imagine what it must be like to be a beautiful girl with a hot body and have the world only interested in one, fleeting part of you.
I agree with whoever said it gets better as you get older, or rather as the men start maturing and finding out they have a brain on the tops of their heads. I know its hard but just ignore the crap for now and look to the future.
You should stop reading cites like the one you linked us to, OP. The stuff in there would make any woman get a complex. Attractiveness comes in many forms, and so does the feminine body.
If you don’t take the OP’s word for her looks, why even bother posting in the thread? Her body type and shape sound attractive, sure. But there’s nothing that says she can’t still have an unattractive face. My cousin’s wife has a very nice body, she works out and takes care of herself. She’s unfailingly nice, polite, and intelligent. But she still looks like someone smacked her face with an ugly stick about 7 times. You can’t pretend this doesn’t affect a woman’s prospects in life.
I have found it’s true that the more I like someone, the more attractive they become to me. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t still going to be judged as unattractive by passers-by and acquaintances. Here (possibly NSFW depending on safe-search) is a google image search for “butterface,” which for the people who’ve never heard the term means: a woman that is attractive everywhere but 'er face. It’s not an uncommon combination.
Those of you asking for pictures: what are you going to say if Can’t Recall does post one and actually is ugly?
While it’s certainly possible she’s a decent looking woman who’s just too down on herself, there are people in this world who are generally reckoned to be unattractive. She might very well be one of them. If so, I doubt it’s going to make her feel better to know that strangers on the Internet are making fun of her photos. And if you think no one would do that, you haven’t been on the Internet very long.
This is so true; when you get to know people and you like them and like talking to them, their attractiveness either becomes completely moot, or you become more attracted to them.
I worked with a guy once who was a plain old jerk; some girls were telling me that they were jealous of me for working with that god, and my reaction was, “Seriously? You think this guy is attractive? You need to get to know him, and find out how shallow and useless he is.” Conversely, another guy I worked with was probably, empirically speaking, a 4 or 5, but I was tremendously attracted to him because he was just so much fun to be around.
Do you think you need to lose weight at 5’7" and 130 lbs?
If you do think you should lose weight, do some introspection because it’s not healthy. You have a BMI of 20.4, which is at the lower end. If* your thighs are thick, it’s not because of excess weight.
What have you done to lose weight in the past? Have you ever skipped meals voluntarily? Have you taken substances to eat less? How about vomiting?
I agree, you need a better class of friends and dating pool as well. (ETA: I think anyone would be insecure about her body who had your friends!)
My suggestion: scientists and engineers. Totally skewed male/female ratio your way, and the smart ones will go for intelligence and character over big-boobed hotness every time. I can attest to this because I work with a bunch of (male) scientists and engineers, and our holiday party is filled with perfectly nice, pleasant, intelligent, interesting, and for the most part really average-to-under-average-looking wives. (There are a couple of exceptions, of course, but those tend to be the hot guys who spend all their spare time working out, etc., or else the grunts who aren’t as smart.)
I have no idea if my husband prefers small breasts, and I sure as heck am not going to ask, but he certainly seems to like mine fine. I was a 32A before having a kid (now 34B).
ETA: I’m 5’6" and about 125 pounds. I could actually stand to lose a couple to be at my ideal weight (though I think my figure is fine) so I see what the OP is talking about.
Well, as long as you’re “free” in around 10-15 years, I know someone who will be looking for a serious relationship. (I’m soooo just kidding, but I couldn’t resist the opening.)
The same reason you posted in the thread - to give an opinion. Maybe the rules have changed but it used to be against them to pit yourself. The OP should have been posted in MPSIMS, imo. To post post it here seems like attention-whoring.
And this from the OP:
“I know beautiful people didn’t choose to be born beautiful, I just hate that society puts them in a pedestal to the detriment of the ugly population.”
I don’t think I’ve been around long enough to know that there used to be a rule against pitting oneself. I can see the rationale. But if there isn’t one now, who gives a shit?
It’s one thing to give an opinion. It’s another thing entirely to question the entire premise of the OP because she has good measurements. Size is only one measure of attractiveness. Humans tend to judge attractiveness with a *strong *emphasis on facial features. And people who say a nice person with a nice body can’t still have an ugly face are tiresome idiots. Sure, it’s possible (maybe even probable) that over time she will become more attractive to the people she knows. But if she has objectively unattractive features, she may well still be treated fairly shittily by strangers and society as a whole.
I’m an ok looking guy. Not bad but nothing to write home about, but I snagged a wife that is way too pretty for me. Seriously, multiple people have said, “Wow, you’re wife is way too pretty for you.”
You know how I did it? I am fucking charming as hell. Funny, witty, smart, and just plain charming.
You ain’t kidding. Figure 17 on that site purports to show two examples of “obese” women with large breasts. Obese? Are you fucking kidding?! They may not be thin or skinny, but they are nowhere even approaching obese.
That site is apparently authored by some schmuck who needs an excuse to look at (or advertise for?) lots of porn sites on the internet. (Complete with references and links to said pay-for-porn sites.)
(I’m soooo just kidding, but I couldn’t resist the opening.)