I forget people’s birthdays–I don’t send cards or anything. I remember my husband, daughter, and our parents. I mean, I put the other relatives’ birthdays on my calendar but I don’t send a card. Sometimes Jane gets a card, because her birthday is early in January. But after that I stop.
When we got married my husband handed me the list of birthdates. Of course it has expanded exponentially. I think he assumes that cards are going out to his family. For the past 24+ years.
Anyway, it’s actually skipping the friends’ birthdays that is making me feel guilty. I just realized that yesterday was Jennie’s birthday. I did nothing. It is worthless to be belated, because it isn’t that I was busy, it’s that I just didn’t do it.
I have missed so many I’m not sure what to do. I feel I need to start taking people to lunch on the birthdays, etc.
I guess the crux of the matter is that I don’t get what the big deal is about having a birthday.
Are you good at remembering your friends’ birthdays?
Maybe this is just because my birthday is in mid-December. The parties are already going on, candy and treats are everywhere. Often the office party or the womens’ group party or the Christmas concert ends up being on my birthday. All my life I have gotten one present that is “your birthday-Christmas present” which of course is not as good as getting two presents. Also, it is often Christmas-related.
As an adult I know this is just life. Get over it.
Any suggestions on how I can honor my friends’ birthdays after skipping so many over the years?
