I am the luckiest man

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I must be. I’m sitting here typing because my wife and I had a fight a few hours ago. She said I was too agressive and sometimes abusive.

I got pouty and went to my computer to play some music. I do that when I am pouty. Apparently my wife knows this.

So I play a few songs off my list, starting with thrash metal, I do that when I am grouchy. Then I taper down to crap like America, no not really, maybe Crosby Stills and Nash. Whatever, emo stuff.

I turn around and who is lying naked in the bed behind me? Al Frankin, no seriously it is my wife. I figure she snuck in between Stevie Nicks and Elton John (his early stuff).

Me, being the husbandly guy I am, quietly lays beside her and softly stroke her face. She gently wakes and says "Hello Evil, how long did it take you to notice me?)

I am Honest and tell her I saw her when I played Southern Cross and went for a drink.

Turns out she has been there, quietly waiting, since Metallica, Enter Sandman. Hmm the grouchy stuff. And I didn’t even see her.

We made up, me feeling like a heel, her explaining that she would like it if I drank less.

So I sit here, staring at her jet black hair that has remarkably few grey hairs, despite her age, listening to her snore like a drunken sailor and counting my blessings.

May all of you feel this blessed in the new year.

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I’m glad you are feeling better.

You descriptions of you evening sounds familiar to me.

My husband quit drinking 3 years ago. He didn’t go to AA or couseling or any fancy stuff like that, he just quit (after we had another fight).

We’ve been together for 15-17 years and I was at a point where I was seriously considering leaving him (and taking the children). His drinking crept up on us in little increments over the years and I was tired of tip-toeing around his moods. Sometimes when he drank he was happy and expansive, more often, he was moody and broody. Oddly, he liked to fool around after having a few even though he didin’t seem to get much out of it and I found him stinky.

I can say that my life and the lives of the kids is much, much happier now. DH has told me several times that he is much happier, too. Most important for me (the kids, too) is that I don’t have to worry about what mood I’ll find him in now. Whatever mood it is, I know it’s real and not alcohol manufactured, and he’s generally happy and even keeled.

I never drank much…perhaps a drink or two, two or three times a year. I am happy to give that up if it makes DH uncomfortable.

Perhaps you guys might like to give drinking a break and see if you, too, like how it feels.