I can’t beleive we are only 4 days into the avstinance thing and I already broke the fast. I was talking to my bay last night(he is so much more affectionate when he isn’t gettin’ any!!!) and somehow I became very nervous and frettful aboout the upcoming marraige on Aug5. I started crying for no reason. We went out and ‘stress-smoked’ and discussed the doubts I was having, Why he wasn’t having any doubts, etc. I told him strait out that 6 weeks s too long and, while I don’t want to go sex-crazy, I still need that intamacy and such occasionally. Then we went back inside and nature took its course.
Isn’t that sad… Only 4 days in and I broke him down. And with my tears no less!!! I told him that the last 2 weeks we will definitly abstain but I couldn’t deal with the stress of plannin’ this damn wedding. (I wish we would just run off to Vegas.) Unless he wanted psycho bitch on his hands, it wouldn’t be wise.
It’s okay. Planning a wedding can be very stressful. (I’ve never been married but helped my brother plan his.) That fact that you made it four days isn’t so bad. Look at it this way. YOU MADE IT FOR 4 WHOLE DAYS!!! Congratulations. And good luck with everything.
** tubagirl, ** planning a wedding can turn even the most gentle, sweet, normal person into a raging bitch. Trust me. I did it 6 months ago. (Got married that is. No, of course * I * didn’t turn into a bitch.)
If you need any help, advice, suggestions, stories, or just to scream at someone who’s “been there” drop me a line. Good luck!
Sexuality is normal. Don’t beat yourself up over this. Actually if you can go 6 weeks without sex after having been intimate in the past, I would say there is something wrong with the relationship.
I never did believe abstinance was good for you anyway. Make a deal with him not to boink each other for 2 days before your wedding night and the two of you ought to have built up plenty of sexual “charge” for a heapin’ helpin’ of humpin’.
Tubagirl, be happy! You got you some! I’m always happy after I get laid.
I could go to bed with a 4’8", 314 lb woman, zits cover 67% of her body, 8 teeth in her whole head, and a better beard than Al Borland from Home Improvement and there’d still be a part of me that’s happy cuz I got laid. Of course no one would ever have to know of the incident, and I would deny it if word ever got out, but at the time I’d still be a little happy.
Yes I know, I’m a pig.
The above incident never happened, btw, just something I made up to illustrate my point.
Really it never happened.
Honestly, I don’t care what you heard, it’s not true!
The two most stressful things that a couple can go through are 1) planning a wedding; and 2) building a house. The pressures are just tremendous.
Don’t let “falling off the wagon” upset you. This is one of those really odd times that failure is its own form of success. The self-imposed frustration (still a mystery) was replaced with love, affection, caring, and (hopefully) some pretty killer sex.
So you see, things could certainly be a whole lot worse!
P.S. If you two insist on carrying through with this semi-exile, just remember that my offer still holds. I’m only 4 hours away. (Is fiance a doper?)
SouthernStyle
Sealemon: I’ll get back to you as soon as I can think of something snappy to say. My official reason is that I’ve been working 12 hrs a day all week while averaging 4 hrs sleep a night, so my mind isn’t at peak capacity.
(Is fiance a doper?)