Long story short, I’m a 37 year old man on a business trip and I’m hanging out in the hotel bar on a Sat night. So some 20-something douchebag at the bar tells me to “go somewhere else” because apparently he thinks I’m breaking up his little group with my presence. Well, I politely tell him that I’m just trying to get a drink at the bar and I’m not interested in hitting on his little girlfriends (although they appear to be interested in me), however this particular dickhead seems intent on starting an altercation. Anyhow, one thing leads to another and next thing I know, I basically perform this meneuver where I place my scotch down on the bar with one hand while shove him across the room with the other.
Now the main reason I put my drink down is because at that point, I was pretty much committed to getting into an actual fistfight and felt I would need both fists. Turns out this guy was all talk and just stands there making snide comments so I make a point of talking to the girls in his group (who are now even more interested in me) just long enough to give him the opportunity to retaliate if he so desires. Of course, he does not.
At that point, I tell these girls I am not interested in getting arrested or kicked out of the hotel for kicking their douchebag friend’s ass and seek to excuse myself. Not too quickly though. Decorum dictates that if you shove someone that initates a physical altercation and you should linger around long enough for them to respond if they so desire. Again, he does not.
So after excusing myself, I adjourn to the other bar in the hotel. Another girl starts hitting on me and I basically had to flat out shut her down (I am in a serious relationship and do not wish to cheat, even though I could clearly get away with it).
Basically the moral of this story is:
Not putting up with some dickhead’s shit actually feels pretty good
Chicks seem to dig a guy who kicks ass.
Even though I feel I dealt with the situation with just the right amount of restraint (ie not being this loser to a bloody pulp), I’m still really pissed off about the whole thing and it’s taking me forever to go to bed.
I really feel too old for this shit (but not too old to kick some punkasses ass, jerkoff!)
I’m really more of a lover than a fighter…but I’m a fighter too so don’t think I won’t beat the crap out of you. Especially if I choose not to be a “lover” for a few weeks because I don’t feel like cheating on my girlfriend with some skanky barfly.
Turning down sex doesn’t feel that great, but IMHO, it does feel a lot better than cheating.
And you apparently can’t manage to even use a smiley.
And, as far as I can tell, he didn’t kick anyone’s ass. He just physically pushed someone out of the way of bothering him. While I’m not a fan of violence, I think at least that should be acceptable. You want to act like an asshole, you can get treated like one.
I think the point kidneyfailure was making was basically “And why are you telling us this, besides as an indirect way of declaring yourself to be a no-shit-taking awesome dude who can get all the hot chicks he want but chooses not to because he doesn’t cheat on his partner? Because if that’s the reason, you really shouldn’t have bothered because all it does is make you sound like a complete wanker.”
Something unusual and exciting happened and he wanted to vent. You guys are pissed at him because he didn’t act like the milquetoast spineless losers you undoubtedly would have acted like in the same situation.
Why don’t msmith537 and Rand Rover whip 'em out so we can see who has the bigger dick. (“Has” not “is” because there’s no doubt in my mind who’d win that contest.)
Look, I have no real dog in this fight (my intention was purely to provide a translation of something that appeared to have been misinterpreted), but I will say that the OP’s retelling of events could have been accomplished just as easily without appearing to brag.
Some guy started some shit, the OP wisely ended it quickly and walked away. No problems there, interesting story. We didn’t need the “And there were all these women who wanted to give me sex but I said no, even though I’m awesome” vibe.
No-one is criticising the OP’s involvement or course of action of events, just the retelling of them.
Or it could be that the young ladies were actually put off by the OP, and the younger guy was not out of line asking the OP to back off. Maybe he didn’t fight the OP because he hadn’t been looking for a fight.
I think that’s pretty much it. That sort of stuff really puts me in a foul mood for the rest of the night.
Also, in all fairness, I never said the girls were “hot”. Just sort of regular.
He might not have been looking for one, but he was certainly doing his best to make sure one found him.
There wasn’t anything to “back off from”. If you are going to stand in a group front of a crowded bar, you have to expect that people are occassionally going to use the bar. And if someone is in your way, there is a polite way to ask them if they can move. If the guy had said nothing, I would have grabbed a beer and been on my way in a matter of minutes.
He made a point of trying to look like a big man in front of his group and did it in the most obnoxious way possible. And then he proceded to press the issue until he got a response.
And quite frankly, he was actually pretty lucky that I’m a fairly restrained guy. He could have just as easily found himself punched in the face or worse pulling that sort of shit on the wrong person.
ANd in fact the girls unknowingly made the situation worse because they stepped in, started talking to me and telling their idiot friend I “wasn’t in the way”. Which I’m sure just made me even more in his way from his point of view.
I only wish I could have heard the bartender’s POV. I’m sure both sides would have come off sounding studly.
And at the risk of sounding age-ist, the OP is 37 years old, in a committed relationship, & representing his company’s image on business in that town, right?
Doesn’t anyone else think he ought to grow up and stop hanging around in bars brawling on his off time?
Oh, hell, this whole thread is probably a whoosh anyway. nm.
Contrary to public popular opinion, many men do not like being bothered by assholes in bars, threatened with violence in bars, being hit on by women they have no interest in banging, or being required to instigate a little violence of their own to be left the hell alone.
If you are that kinda guy, IMO that was perfectly pittable night with a cast of pittable characters.
Interesting coincidence here, because I was tending bar last night and there was this expense-account lounge lizard there showing off to a bunch of girlies about half his age, until some young punk kid with the girls gets up in his business about it. The middle-aged guy shoved him and pulled this “You wanna piece of me?” face at him, but you could tell the kid’s heart wasn’t in it - let’s face it, the guy was old enough to be his dad - so he backed down and slunk off. Then one of the girls starts hitting on Mr Expense Account, which turned out to be worth a couple of alco-pops for her at any rate, and after he belatedly remembered he had a wife or a girlfriend tucked away somewhere and crept off, it turned out that she was so hot for it I got myself a free blow job and so some good came of it after all.
Just how much did he provoke you before pushed him? You say “One thing led to another”, which doesn’t help. Was he in your face? What did he say exactly?
