I can’t carry a grudge. No, this isn’t a declaration of some amazing moral fiber in my being, it’s a simple statement–no, COMPLAINT–of fact. The thing is, I can try to hold a grudge. But I have such a craptacular memory for names that I literally forget who I am supposed to be mad at and you know? THAT REALLY PISSES ME OFF!
Oh, or sometimes I can remember who but I end up forgetting why which is almost worse, because I have a vague sense of dislike/distrust/unease about a person but can’t remember what caused it.
Me too - and the worst part is when you run into someone that is carrying a mutual grudge with you, and you KNOW you shouldn’t be nice, and they’re downright hostile, and you can’t remember exactly why.
Or, worse, you run into someone who’s acting cool to you and you don’t know why and wonder if you two had a fight but you don’t remember but s/he obviously does. This has happened to me. I just asked, “Look, are you mad at me?” “YES.” “Why?” “YOU KNOW WHY.” But I didn’t, and by the time I convinced the person I didn’t, the person was mad that I didn’t remember the fight. :dubious: