HeyHomie you mentioned that the gun was a family heirloom, and in another post you mentioned that there was family around. Use the daycare as an excuse if you have to, but get the gun over to the other family members.
Does your wife like looking after the kids? Perhaps a different stay at home job, that doesn’t require interacting with children, could be arranged. One has been mentioned on this thread, but I know there are others out there. If she is doing something else that is a better fit, her mental state may start to improve.
Regarding some sort of job for you, can you give us a rough idea of your background? Assuming you agree that Step 1 is fixing the finances, the Dope mind may be able to help you with suggestions for you as well.
I highly recommend you read Spice Weasel’s post and the linked materials. She is a font of wisdom in these matters and more information is always helpful when you’re trying to make sense of things.
Please come back with updates. I’d love to hear how you’re doing.
HeyHomie, have you ever tried temp work? A lot of businesses hire temps when they have a big wad of something repetitive, like filing or data entry, to do, something that’s going to be over when it’s finished and that doesn’t require a lot of interaction. And even if it’s not a great fit, it’s temporary.
Also, raventhief is right that there are other work at home opportunities. Sadly, I don’t know how to find them, but I had an aunt that made decent money tying flies (for fishing).
Today I will be driving to a nearby town and applying at Pizza Hut, they always have a “Now Hiring Drivers” sign up. I’ve delivered pizza before- easy money.
I’ve also found a website that aggregates about 200 legitimate work-from-home opportunities. I’m going to be focusing on data entry and tutoring English to foreigners.
In the mean time I’m going to try to figure out what to do with my gun. I agree that it doesn’t need to be in this house. BUT, selling it would be a yuge faux pas, as it’s an heirloom and, you know, family drama. I think I’ll ask Mrs. Homie to put it somewhere where I won’t find it while I’m out & about.
I’ve also made an appointment with my therapist. I’m going to take him up on his offer to set me up with a psychiatrist. Clearly my issues are beyond my primary care doc’s ability to treat, and I obviously need more & better medicine.
I want to thank all of you for your kind vibes and kind words. Just talking about this has made a yuge difference.
Just wanted to add my congrats as well. And also my admiration of how you responded to this thread. You took its advice to heart instead of getting all angry and defensive about it like many others would have. That takes a lot of character and maturity. Well done!
Which does not necessarily mean medication, but yeah, sometimes a fresh perspective is what… well, what the doctor ordered (sorry, the pun was compulsory).
I found me a psychologist last year to help me clean up some crap from the corners of my mind and she was great, I hope your next head-healer is as good.
Sometimes just making one little move, taking one positive baby step can be the start of greater things. That tiny thing can break a logjam, get you on the road to positivity, and allow other good things to come on down.
Don’t stop. It doesn’t have to be a gigantic leap. Just one little thing. Followed as soon as possible by another little thing. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Wishing you and yours better outcomes on everything in 2018.
your humble TubaDiva
(who sometimes falls in the ditch her ownself)
As someone who struggled with what I didn’t know was clinical depression for most of my life until a visit to hospital in '14, I can do no more than recommend Spice Weasel’s post. (I had to read Viktor Frankl at university too. It may have been a little premature for me, but now I think I will reread it.)
I am so encouraged to read your update, HeyHomie. Good luck. We are all pulling for you.
We are approved for food stamps. I know that going on government assistance is nothing to be proud of, but the program was intended for people like me who are going through rough patches. Hopefully I won’t need them long. In the mean time, my diet will be more varied that rice & beans.
