Jealous husband/boyfriend comes home and sees freshly mowed lawn.
Asks wife/girlfriend who did it. She says she doesn’t know.
He talks to neighbors thinking they might have done it. Told it was some guy they never saw before.
Fun ensues! :smack: :smack: :smack:
There was nothing “nice” about what you did.
What would have been nice would have been to say, “hey, I have some free time this Saturday, I’d be happy to take care of your lawn.” Then if she said yes, asked her directly for her address.
Instead:
You took away her freedom of choice. Her lawn. Her decision. She may have appreciated help, but an offer would have left her the option of declining.
You altered her property without her permission. She didn’t agree to have her grass mowed and had no opportunity to tell you if there was anything you needed to know before you did it.
You trespassed. This is a crime. You weren’t invited. You weren’t there for legitimate business purposes. You weren’t just running into her yard for a second to retrieve an errant ball. An unmowed lawn does not constitute an emergency. And you certainly weren’t there by accident.
You invaded her privacy. She never told you her last name or where she lived. The fact that you were able to obtain that information anyway doesn’t mean she wanted you to have it. She has no choice about appearing in the tax records, and the purpose of those tax records is not to give you a way to bypass a woman’s right to choose who she wants to have over to her home.
You already knew that looking for peoples’ personal information in tax records is over the line, and you chose to do it anyway. Even worse, you chose to ACT on that knowledge and show up at this poor woman’s house. How on earth did you think this was okay?
Green Bean said it very well. What’s scary is that some people in this thread don’t understand this, and even defend what the OP did. NOPE. It was wrong and if the woman finds out about it, she’ll be uncomfortable (or worse). Maybe even to the point of changing gyms.
Excellent post, Green Bean.
But do you drop by that person’s house?
OP: If you’re free any time soon… wanna come over and mow our lawn? We don’t have to know who you are.
I don’t think a person’s name and address is information that is all that private. I’m sure anyone on here could find my name and address with very little effort. We (used) to have books that published this information along with phone numbers.
If your purpose in finding out that information is to come over and mow my grass, then more power to you. Hedges also need trimmed.
Do I really have to point out that the fact that you’re INVITING him makes the situation entirely different?
And right or wrong, a man with a big buff husband to protect him is a lot less vulnerable than a presumably single woman.
She should report him to the management so that HE would have to change. And he should be grateful if she doesn’t pursue it further.
But sadly it’s all too likely she won’t “want to make trouble,” especially after the OP makes her feel guilty about being upset.
And we used to have the option of getting an unlisted number.
All the men saying crap like this need to shut the fuck up and consider this from a woman’s perspective. He did this to a woman, not a man. THINK before you post. Jesus.
Or, due to circumstances, you haven’t been able to do that chore.
So you hire a contractor to come over and do it. He arrives and finds that what you hired him to do has already been done, so now you have to pay him for doing nothing, and in addition you look like an idiot.
Similar thing happened to me.
But yeah, other than that, what Green Bean said.
Seriously.
And here was her response. At least 6 times.
Oh boy, you sure showed us!
In big letters, no less. .
Dude, you got lucky. Pray that she doesn’t rethink it.
Please answer this question: why didn’t you just offer?
Because I wanted to surprise her. Someone will come up with a negative comment on that, I’m sure.
And, yeah, I may have gotten lucky. Lesson learned.
Doesn’t change the facts that Green Bean and others have posted about taking away her choice, altering her property, trespassing, invasion of privacy, et. al.
Keep on doing you “good deeds” and “not stalking” and we’ll be waiting for your post about getting punched in the face or worse!:rolleyes:
Even better, don’t post about what you’re doing as the overwhelming response and even your own request to delete this thread points to your knowing it’s wrong!
Interesting. 87.5% of current respondents, knowing only LiveFree’s side of events indicate that they would be weirded out. One might assume that his version of things would be more complimentary toward him, and yet. . That is an overwhelmingly negative response.
But! Gymlady was effusive in her gratitude (6 times, huh?)
OK, so I have a song for this as well.
Clearly this event happened.
I don’t get anything when I click the link. Could you describe what it says?
Probably would have been more lopsided if everyone read his other threads (“I’m not a stalker” and “Changing a tire on a locked car…Alarm question”) before voting!