I just don’t. No matter how hard I try to, I just don’t.
Two extremely important loved ones died the same week. If you want to be really picky about it, my sister’s dog died that week too. I wasn’t as close to him, but it still hurts.
I have the best husband in the world, but he plays in a band. They had a gig on Friday night. He didn’t want to go but he had to so to you who thought he abandoned me when I was totally losing it, that’s just not true.
I’m still not thinking very clearly and burst out in tears frequently but I just realized I better link to the thread I started Friday so y’all know what I’m talking about.
I got some warm hugs, but also got an extremely painful memory brought to the surface. Some people really know how to respond when they are needed.
Thank you very much for being there when I needed you.
I wasn’t going to come back to the SDMB, but I got so many wonderful emails and several of them telling me not to let a few people keep me away. After discussing it with Rico I hesitantly am opening this thread.
I need lots of warm, snuggy hugs right now, but no matter how bad I feel, I always have plenty of snuggy hugs to share. So, here is your neverending supply of warm, snuggy bear hugs from the dolphin to be redeemed whenever and however often you need/want them.
cadolphin, I’m sorry about your losses. It does seem to me that some people don’t appriciate what the loss of a loved pet can be like. I still have guilt over my cat. I lost her 5 years ago and miss her like mad.
Kathy, I got to the other thread after it had been locked, but I wanted to find a way to give you a {{{{{hug}}}}} and let you know that I was thinking about you. It sounds like it’s been a really horrible few weeks for you, and I am so sorry. If you ever need to chat, please feel free to drop me an email. I know how difficult it is to lose a pet that’s a member of the family.
And a few weeks ago, you responded to a thread of mine about my depressed kitty - I went out of town and had planned to reply to the thread when I got back, but it completely slipped my mind. You gave me some good advice about my baby, and I’ve applied some of that advice that you and others gave me - and Emmy is doing beautifully. We caught her sneaking downstairs Saturday night to visit with us. So I wanted to thank you for that - even in your time of sorrow, you took the time to give me advice, and I appreciate that. I really hope that your grief will subside a bit and give you some relief. You deserve it.
I was really shocked and angered that some people chose that time and place to express their “opinions” instead of simply offering support (or shutting the hell up). No matter how strong our “opinions” may be, sometimes, being “right” is a whole hellofa lot less important than being kind. Or at least it should be. [sub][sup](and it turned out some people were absolutely wrong, didn’t it.)[/sup][/sub] Veb was right on the money and I was glad to see when I got up the next morning that she’d closed that thread. Veb Rocks!
We had a terribly busy weekend, as it turns out, but I will make some time to call you this week. Perhaps we can set aside some time to share a real hug. In the meantime…
{{{cadolphin}}}
You take care of yourself, hon. It’ll all be ok, I promise.
When I lost my favorite cat Michaelmouse, I mourned and wept for a month.
Hang in there, girl. It’s such a hard thing for our pets’ lives to be so much shorter than ours. But there are other animals (and people!) out there that we can help – don’t forget that, when the time is right for you!
Very best wishes, and much sympathy and good thoughts going your way…
cadolphin, lots of hugs! And lots of respect for the love you give your critters. I’ve always had cats – and in recent years have also added dogs – and I have to admit that losing a beloved pet is almost as painful as losing a person, especially because we NEVER have enough time with them.
We adopted a wonderful golden retriever and lost her to cancer less than three years later, and even now, a year and a half after she’s gone, I miss her every day. There’s nothing like our furbabies!
Don’t let the nasties chase you out. There are nasties EVERYWHERE. Two days after 9/11, when everyone was reeling with collective national grief anyway, my dearest friend in the whole world was killed in an automobile accident, and a few sickos elsewhere on line took the opportunity to go for the jugular when I tried to express my grief. I think the internet gives the really cowardly, sick, antisocial, vicious people a place to hide and give vent to their Inner Bastard. They win if you let them chase you out. They should NEVER win!
I lost my golden retriever, Snoopy, this past August due to liver cancer. She was beyond a best friend to me; she was my sister. Had it not been for our eleven and a half years together, I would have grown up to be an extremely timid and withdrawn adult.
I wish I had seen that thread sooner, and I certainly hope you haven’t had to endure that kind of reaction to the loss of your pets in the offline world. Grief over the loss of a loved one can’t be tempered just because that loved one happens to have a nice coat of fur and walks around on four feet.
I’m glad you’re back too, cadolphin, and I’m very pleased to see all the support and kindness you’ve received from caring, considerate people.
Letting yourself feel your emotions fromm time to time is a natural thing. You’ll be okay. And no, death is never easy for any of us. You are not alone in that.
cadolphin, my condolences on your recent losses. I don’t think we’ve been introduced yet, but I read the other thread in its entirety. I’m really sorry you had to deal with that, I guess some people don’t do compassion very well. I suppose one or more of those people may have lost children of their own. I’ve never lost a child, but I do have one–a daughter–and two dogs as well. We’re all part of the family and they’re all my children. So at least one of those posters was wrong–some parents do refer to their pets as children, even if they do fully comprehend the difference. Love is love and pain is pain, why would anyone concern themselves with the appropriateness of another person’s grief? (that’s rhetorical )
Anyway, like I said, sorry for your loss and I’ll add that I hope you feel better soon.
I know that you must really feel awful. I’m so sorry for your loss. But I admire your courage in coming back. There are lots of big shoulders here. (((cadolphin)))
