Exactly. Even if he got noticed by his wealth, maybe it turns out that she actually likes him. I have a feeling that a lot of the old guys like to fool themselves with this one.
I’m hearing the song “Lyin’ Eyes” playing in the background of this thread.
“Boy toy”.
This. And the second wife is younger. By contrary the first wife is commonly called the Practice wife.
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“Starter wife” is the term I’ve heard.
And I don’t think a trophy wife has to supplant a starter wife.
Basically, in broad terms, a trophy wife is a woman a man marries or dates for pretty much the sole purpose of enhancing his social status. Much like an actual trophy, she is expected to be shiny, coveted by others and quiet. Although it usually works both ways as the reason she is with him is because her own status or standard of living is increased.
Typically there is a very obvious disparity in terms of attractiveness, age, socioeconomic class or status.
I should note that a marriage of equals is not really a trophy wife situation. Jenny McCarthy was not Jim Carrey’s trophy wife (or girlfriend…I forget if they were married) because she is famous and successful in her own right (and she has a lot of personality). Some anonymous Playboy bunny would, however, be typically considered a trophy.
A trophy wife is a wife that other guys want to bang. The point is to make other guys envious. Also, it’s more fun to bang a young, hot wife than an old, fat one, but mostly the “trophy” aspect is about making other guys jealous. It’s s status symbol like a hot car.
Hmmm. Are boy toys still boy toys after marriage? Inquiring minds want to know.
From Quranic texts on the promise of nymphs in paradise and the Greco-roman warrior prize from which the original author may have coined the term, we can get some help in order to eliminate the derogatory attachment to the true meaning of TROPHY WIFE.
I do understand that people, both men and women, may want an object to show off. Even when both partners or couple are same age, an element of prestige is often involved in pairing. It is socially desirable in most cultures to have a partner everyone will agree is ‘‘a prize’’ for whatever exploits. For example when a man has the Governor’s daughter, the Princess or the Heiress, Beauty Queen, etc by his side.
The same may be reasonably supposed for women, as we notice when an employee becomes the love choice of the business owner and boss. In some situations, a student feels special dating her lecturer or professor. With these said, I will specifically cite the etymology of TROPHY and the deviated meaning of the term TROPHY WIFE when it came into use not too long ago. It is unfortunate to see it lose other semantic values.
My “little” understanding after reading on the subject, both here and elsewhere, is that it has come to unjustly suffer abuse. A trophy wife may reasonably refer to a gorgeous younger wife ‘deserved’ after a very difficult or painful past. After all, a trophy is a merit. We do show trophies all right, but they are for keeps.
Whilst it may be true that some men would simply want to have attention, or could get beautiful, younger wives because of their wealth, we should not forget how strong love binds and blinds. When you deeply love someone, age, race, money and looks become irrelevant. Sometimes, it is the younger woman who falls in love with a more matured and caring older man. In my experience, the younger wife didn’t know if I owned a bicycle. Disappointed with age-mates, she fell for a decisive man who said “I’m not looking for a girlfriend. I want a wife.”
Then there was another big thing - she thought I was old enough to be married. Yes, I had been married before but not any longer. When you compare the credibility issues, I guess she was right in falling for me, instead of a younger guy who would lie about his numerous flames. Hey, at an age nicely graced with touches of grey, gosh I look sooooo presentable in Ermenegildo Zegna and Ferre armor, ready to battle any intruders. So, if you ever see a pretty young woman in love with an older man, know he has a big sense of humor and could be an intellectual genius in the many ways.
"Leslie and I have an amazing relationship and it’s very physical, he still pushes all my buttons. People say ‘oh but he’s so much older than you’ and you know what, I’m the one having to push him away. We have so much in common, we both love soup and snow peas, we love the outdoors, and talking and… not talking. We could not talk or talk forever and still find things to not talk about. "
I knew a woman who believed that she was supplanted by a Trophy Wife.
The Trophy Wife is a younger woman that replaces your older, now grown less sexy (and more used to you) original wife. She’s younger and sexier, is more enraptured by you (becauswe you’re new, to her) and you get the thrill of sdhowing her things and trying new things with her (that your Starter Wife might not want to do). And she’s “Trophy” because your peers – those other older guys, still ewith their original older wives, get to see you struttin’ with this new younger woman.
Getting rid of your older wife and obtaining a TRiophy Wife says sweveral things simultaneously:
1.) You have the will to do this, even though people might be hurt, so you are ca real People Manager
2.) You have the clout to obtain the divorce and make it stick
3.) You have the ability to charm and marry a new wife
4.) You have the charm/machismo/sexinesws/money to charm a Hot Woman into being your wife.
The thing that really struck the woman I know is that she said of the TRophy Wife “She reminded me of a younger me.” Both physically and in personality. Her ex-husband was rewarding himself with a younger her. There wasn’t anything essentially wrong with her, except that she was older and less attractive.
All I know is young Thai bargirls positively swoon over fat, old, balding Western men. Or so the girls tell me.
Thus the line “he traded her in for a younger model”, or even (I suspect, originally) “a newer model”; it isn’t model as in thin woman who struts on a catwalk, but as in cars.
Guys. You’re over thinking it.
What is a “trophy”? It’s a shiny object of little inherent value that a person keeps around to demonstrate some sort of achievement. In this case, that “object” is a very attractive woman and that “achievement” is being successful enough to attract someone that pretty and superficial.
They “exist” because, from what I have observed, a lot of extremely successful men are driven by deep feelings of inadequacy and narcisssism. They are not looking for a companion or “life partner” or anything like that. Their wife is basically another accessory like their Mercedes, their Rolex or their house in the Hamptons they can compare against their peers.
Also, it doesn’t have to be a second wife, although it often is.
I thought a trophy wife was a young woman who looks like John Heisman.
Several people have illustrated this correctly. It’s not about being cool, it’s about ending up with a highly desireable wife because of your achievements (mainly the accumulation of power and money). And don’t fret ladies, the term ‘trophy husband’ is getting more use these days.
Is the question about the term “trophy” itself? If so, I don’t think of it as meaning something that a man gets necessarily to show off to others but rather a “prize” that he has earned for being a winner.
Same difference IMHO.
I think the litmus test for a trophy wife is:
“Would she be with him if he didn’t have his fame/wealth?”
I consider a lot of professional atheletes to have trophy wives. Kyle Busch anyone? Jay Cutler?
On its own, no, but in combination with wife, yes. There’s no reason for a special term for a hot wife you won over if you aren’t flaunting that win.
I don’t think so. He might value the young, attractive woman for having those very qualities for himself to enjoy, not just because others will see them. To me it implies the idea: I have finally reached a stage in my life in which people (in this case, a desirable woman) are willing to give me what I want.