A local businessman has been engaged for around a year now and recently broke off his engagement a few weeks ago. The reason is that his fiance with whom life had been fabulous to that point re sex, life, love etc. more or less stated that she expected her Christmas present to be a diamond tennis bracelet since that is what he got his ex-wife. She knows because it’s a small, local upper/upper-middle class social set. He’s been divorced about 10 years).
At first he laughed at her and thought she was joking, but he rapidly discovered she was as serious as a heart attack and a breakup fight ensued. He’s a bright, hardworking guy with a fairly successful company, but he’s quite average looks wise, and she’s a few notches up on the looks ladder vs him. He’s in his mid 40’s and she’s a bit younger, but not more than 5-6 years.
He’s decided to move on, but after hearing the story I had to ask myself if she was really wrong in being aggrieved. In most of these scenarios there’s usually a tacit quid pro quo where the trophy woman, in exchange for fabbo sex and arm candy presence etc., usually expects to be rewarded on some level (often materially) for these services. If she is not then he is (on some level) breaking the deal.
Her specific metric was that he should treat her no worse than he treated his ex wife back in the day who got a big, spangly tennis bracelet as an engagement Christmas present. His laughing at her expectation of this was a dire insult.
Was she wrong to demand diamonds?