Ya know Louis, I have wonder the same thing since my wife was raised Catholic as well and still considers herself one.
Unless I get some other people to confirm I am going to consider you the exception that proves the rule. My experience has been that the first two months are no indication as the newness of the relationship overides everything else. However, past that period people want sex proportional to their natural sex drive. I have also seen that people tend to wank proportionally to their natural sex drive.
So, those that don’t masturbate may be interested or in love with you, they may want to get close to you, but whether this is sex or backgammon is less important. For people who are horny enough masturbate a lot, then when in a relationship they think, “I get to have sex with someone I love, how great is that?”
Some people don’t masturbate becuase of a conservative background or religious beliefs. I have found that if those mores/beliefs are enough to still their hand then they are enough to chill the bedroom.
As to the thought that the girlfriends could be lying about not masturbating, it is possible but I think unlikely. Some were completely a-religious and without any big sexual hang ups as well as being in an evironment where it would have been considered a positive thing. While possible they were lying I don’t see a reason why they would.
Don’t you mean “appliance”? 
I believe the use of an “accomplice” pretty much takes us out of the realm of masturbation, don’t you think??? 
A duck :eek: ?
That’s just sick.
One possibie reason why someone wouldn’t masturbate is sexual abuse. It’s certainly possible that someone who was abused could develop a psychological connection between that and any sort of sexual touching there, which would make masturbation unappealing, if not outright painful.
Sorry if I brought down the otherwise-jovial nature of the thread. Carry on.
To also kill the jovial nature of the thread, I’ve been on antidepressants since before puberty. Needless to say, now that I’m 19, I can say I’ve never masturbated, whether or not had any idea what a normal sex drive is. And the chances of me going off this particular antidepressant any time soon is very slim - I’ve been stable on it for over 8 years. You’re tearing these suckers out of my cold, dead hands.
Sadly, looking at the rest of the thread, I don’t see myself aquiring a boyfriend any time soon.
This is probably more than I’ll ever care to talk about on SDMB. . . but I was in college, and had already lost my virginity, before I tried the five-fingered fugue. My mental and physical health were just fine, thanks.
Ok I just want to say, I’m a total slut (because really, I never get tired of saying that…) but there was a very long time (well over 12, Bippy) when I didn’t masturbate. It just didn’t work for me. Took a lot of actual sex and…various other life experiences…to get to where I figured it out.
And I don’t mean just “not to orgasm” I mean “no particular pleasure of any kind”.
I have since realized what I was missing.
But I could see a woman going her whole life never getting to that. So no, the “church lady” may not be lying (poor thing).
Guys on the other hand…(heh heh…I said “hand”)
Not that it’s any of your business, but I am with CanvasShoes --some of us are not into it.
That doesn’t mean we’re frigid, had coercive parents, have been abused, or even “indoctrinated” by the church of your choice. It means my own touch doesn’t arouse me. Let’s put it this way–can you tickle yourself? Me either. I er- like the element of the unkown in terms of pressure, hand temp, fill in the blank.
Now, if I were to watch a movie that aroused me (nope, not porn; porn is boring to me)–and then attempted to masturbate–that might lead to something. With a willing partner close by-why would I bother?
I also can and do orgasm in my sleep (look, Ma-no hands!). I do not consider myself abnormal in the least.
I do find the continual attempts to categorize folks who don’t match preconceived notions rather tiresome, though.
Why?
Over 12? Guys, maybe, since they have erections that draw their attention there, but I didn’t even realize that girls could masturbate until I was in high school. No one ever mentioned it before then, though jokes about boys jerking off were commonplace. Masturbation seems a lot more obvious for boys than girls.
My darling Marcie has been on antidepressants for at least the last nine years. Other than the diminished libido which goes with advancing age, we continue to enjoy each other. Point being, don’t take it for granted that you are out of the race, as it were.
When my darling Marcie and I became intimate, I had been celibate for six years. While I didn’t completely stop masturbating, the frequency dropped to maybe three times per year. My celibacy derived from an almost paranoid fear of AIDS and a total fear of intimacy. An emotionally devastating divorce played a big role, too. The diminished sex drive derived from my being profoundly depressed and adicted to prescription pain pills and alcohol.
Cretans do not masturbate.
I am a Cretan.
I am not masturbating at this very moment.
Your head may now proceed to explode. 
If you mean “why” as in “why would you have enticing photos of yourself in such undesirable positions?” the answer is “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” If you mean “why” as in “why would you offer to send such photos to another doper?” the answer is “because I’m a sharing person.” But if you mean, as I suspect, “why” as in “why would you post this/evoke this image in my brain?” the answer is “because I’m a sick person, I guess.”
I have not masturbated or had an orgasm in 10 years, and I never will again, so I think I could truthfully say “I don’t masturbate” and not lie.
:eek: …wow, none of these posts depressed me up until now.
Does anybody else think the last post was a bit cryptic? 
Didn’t mean to depress you, just having a small pity-party (but not in my pants). One of the many joys of paralysis.