Yup, thats it. That’s the whole question right there folks. But of course we can embellish: Do you know if your partner masturbates? Does it bother you? If so, why? Is it worse when pornography is involved? If so, why? Would you let your partner know if you masturbated? Would he/she mind?
And, of course, anything else related that you can come up with. Depending on the response in the thread, I might share my own opinion and what brought the question to mind… 
If masturbation is cheating, then every American man involved in a realtionship is a cheater.
As Phil Donahue once said, “99% of men in America masturbate and the other 1% are lying”.
I know that it is not so prevalent among women. My wife doesn’t masturbate, but she says it is a matter of choice for her, and that she just doesn’t feel comfortable doing it. I maintain that this is her Catholic education manifesting itself in her subconcious and that she should overcome it and give masturbation a shot, but she doesn’t do it and probably never will. If she did, though, it wouldn’t bother me in the slightest unless she were forgoing sex with me to indulge in a raging affair with her vibrator. She knows darn well that I masturbate and she doesn’t care.
My wife caught me rubn’ one off in the shower one day; she couldn’t stop laughing for a week. And to make it even worse she made it a point to tell all her friends! Jeesh! Its a good thing I don’t embarrass easily.
One of her favorite jokes now is whenever it starts to rain she’ll ask me if I’m gettn’ horny. What she doesn’t realize is that I’m always in horn mode.
convo to my son about jackn’ off
son: Am I a dork if I masturbate?
Me: Son your not a dork if you masturbate; But you are a dork if you get caught masturbating!
btw I don’t think my wife would dig it too much if she caught me rubn’ one off to a rag mag.
Ha ha ha ha ha ha.
No it is not. At least, it better not be. I know that my husband er, partakes, on a regular basis and it doesn’t bug me. He doesn’t use porn. I don’t think it would bother me if he did. We joke about it all the time, so he certainly isn’t hiding the practice.
Now, a caveat. If you and you partner are having sexual problems, and one or both of you are using solo, secret masturbation as a method of getting off so you don’t have to deal with the problems at hand… well, it’s not cheating, but I think you’re doing a disservice to your partner and your relationship.
Good god no! Well, you probably knew that about me already, didn’t you…
I masturbate, with or without porn, so does my SO. We talk about it, laugh about it, and things are just hunky dory. Now the fun part really begins when you masturbate together. With or without porn…
Oh, and please share, Twilight. Or I’ll bug you about it in class on Monday…
Of course not. Anyone who thinks it is is insane, IMO.
Masturbation isn’t cheating with or without porn. Masturbation to me, is like priming the pump. The only time I got a little miffed was when I found out the hubby had used my really good 18 dollar for a 4 oz jar of hair conditioner as a shower lube. I bought him a bottle of Suave for subsequent showers.
[sub]I keep trying to catch him doing it. I think it would be funny and sexy at the same time. He has let me watch, at my request and I learned a lot about speed and pressure he likes from it, too.[/sub]
I don’t think he minds that I occasionally indulge in a little vibrator or finger walking myself. He seems to like watching when I let him. Which makes it a little more exciting for me as I am a bit of an exhibitionist.
Oh for heavens sake, of course it’s not. Given that he will occasionally go away for months at a time at the behest of the government, we would both be in big trouble if it was.
And when he’s home, we find mutual sessions occasionally to be extremely fun!
“99% of men in America masturbate and the other 1% are lying”.
Well, I don’t agree with that. First of all, physically some can’t & second, some don’t know how to.
Yes, if you are masturbating someone besides your partner that would not be fair to your partner.
Dumbass, it’s a joke.
Interesting. I’m glad to find myself among like-minded and open-minded people such as yourselves
One of the resons that promted the question in the first place was a few posts I saw scattered here and there on the boards, indicating a wholly different take to the situation than what we have seen so far. I was rather looking forward to hearing their side of the coin, too.
Mayhaps they’ll still show up, or did we scare them off? 
If masturbating is cheating, then I should probably contact an attorney…right…about…
[sub]Kidding. Sheesh.[/sub]
Linkety link?
It’s important to realize that regular sexual intercourse is not always enough for a woman to have an orgasm. I mean, more power to you if it is, but it’s not always for me. Of course, it’s wonderful for other reasons, but sometimes you just really, really want to have an orgasm. Masturbation almost always works, so why not? If someone asked me not to because they considered it cheating, I would reconsider the relationship. Lying to someone I love isn’t an option, but forgoing self-love isn’t either.
I would never consider it cheating if my SO did it. More power to him.
It may not be cheating but according to Sister Joachim, my childhood Catechism teacher, it’s mass murder. Every little sperm that goes to its’ demise (just so you can have a few moments pleasure) represents one potential human life. So that’s it, case closed. Everytime you toss one off, you’re killing millions of people. Hope you’re happy.
This is IMHO and protocol applies; it’s ‘debate lite’. WHAT’s said is fair game; personal speculation or aspersion about WHO, the speaker, belongs elsewhere.
As hard as it is, remember nothing is more pitilessly self-revealing than what people post. No matter how tempting–or deserved–your words reflect on NO ONE but you.
Keep it clean, on topic and appropriate, m’kay?
Veb etc. for IMHO
Of course it isn’t.
So, if I do it, it’s mass murder, but if she does it, it isn’t? How grossly unfair. She doesn’t even want to…
[sub]Have I said too much?[/sub]
Wait. Even if you’re trying to get pregnant, millions die for the one who succeeds. How speaks Sister Joachim on that?
Whenever possible. You?
Why would it be cheating?
Fortunately for me, my current lover is as insatiable as I am, so there is no need to masturbate, or energy for that matter. She is a true nymphomaniac! Woohoo!
But if we were unable to be together all the time, then why not? It is most certainly a whole lot better than the alternative of looking for someone else to fil the gap.
Also, sometimes it just seems that if I do not, than something very bad is going to happen. Ever here of blue balls? Well, it is real, and it hurts.
IMHO, in or out of a relationship, if you don’t masturbate, there’s something wrong with ya.
I am not married, but don’t think masturbation is cheating. You are not having sex with anyone, so how is it cheating?