Just read the Unauthorized Erection thread and came accross a claim that watching porn is cheating on one’s SO. Actually it was a quote supporting an out-of-touch female writer who ranks lowly IMHO, however let’s not digress.
I replied on the subject but I feel my 2am brain didn’t get my point accross so I thought I’d give my 3am brain a turn and try to head off any on-going argument on the subject.
In fact, I’ll try to have the whole argument now and save repeated posting.
dpr: So can someone explain to me exactly how viewing porn can be considered cheating?
CMP: Well… you’re WATCHING another person having sex
IW: No, it’s because they’re THINKING about having sex with another person
dpr: Okay - apart from the fact that they’re THINKING rather than HAVING - what’s wrong with thinking about different sex?
IW: Well they’re being unfaithful to their partner.
dpr: by having a fantasy about someone else?
CMP: Exactly!
IW: yes
dpr: so having a fantasy about someone else is cheating?
CMP: yes
dpr: even if it’s not a realistic fantasy
IW: if you’re thinking about it you must want it to happen
*dpr leaves THAT line alone tho’ he disagrees with it strongly *
CMP: You’re thinking about someone else so therefore you’re cheating
dpr: so it’s the thought that counts huh?
CMP nods
dpr: so if CMP watches a porn video CMP then he’d be cheating on his girlfriend?
IW: yes
dpr: so if you read a romance novel IW then you’re cheating on your boyfriend?
IW: What? No!!
IW: Romance novels aren’t anything like porn!!
CMP: You mean the raunchy romance novels?
dpr: them too but not just them.
CMP: You’re being stupid
dpr: Romance novels inspire a response in women. They give them what they crave (just as porn gives men what they think about and want).
IW: You can’t compare two people having sex to a love story
dpr: Why not? Generally speaking, one is a man’s dream and the other is a woman’s dream. And usually neither is very realistic in mainstream production
CMP: You make all us men sound like sex-starved animals. I’m not like that.
CMP is now know as GWPSTGW in dpr’s mind
dpr: attractive women don’t turn you on or at least catch your eye
GWPSTGW: well yes but I’m not watching them have sex
dpr: perhaps not but you’re finding them attractive and probably thinking about some sort of interaction with them. Even if you just admire a fully clothed woman in the street you’re cheating by your definition
IW: Reading a romance novel doesn’t make me want to cheat on my boyfriend
dpr: But it conjures up lovely images and scenarios that are enjoyable doesn’t it?
IW: yes
dpr: so you’re thinking about being swept off your feet in a romantic location by some dark stranger?
IW: But it’s not real life
dpr pulls quote: {IW: if you’re thinking about it you must want it to happen}
dpr: and anyway: porn is real life???
at this point IW goes off in a sulk knowing I’m wrong while GWPSTGW will rant about my obvious bastardom and “objectification of the female form” and lack of respect for the fairer, gentler sex and I will probably end up questioning his masculinity either directly or indirectly (probably both).
Call out the thought police already.
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