I had a boss once and he was upset and when I asked him what was up, he said that he and some friends were working on a computer and they came across some porn online, so they decided to look at it and his wife came in and caught them.
He is an MIS person and knows everything about computers so, whether it was as accidental as he claims, I don’t know
But anyway he said his wife got all miffed and was upset that he was looking. Evidently her rule was, “If I’m good enough then why do you need to look”
So I was just wondering what is the “rule” you have when it comes to porn and your significant other.
I am interested in marrieds and defactos rather than just casual dating type of relationships, past or present.
My wife isn’t into it but she knows that during some of my insomnia nights I surf & spank. She doesn’t care as long as I clear the history & cookies so the kids don’t get bombarded unexpectedly.
Don’t care at all. I don’t think porn poses a threat at all, because porn can’t be your emotional companion or steal your heart away from me. (Unless you’re a porn addict. Then maybe we have a problem.) In my last relationship we were both really open about our taste in porn/erotica and would often send each other favorite pictures and stories. I think it made our relationship a lot of fun.
We both look at porn - often together, but on our own, too. Fortunately, we have similar tastes, so looking alone when the other one isn’t around often results in, “hey honey, I found this great site the other day!”
First, married male. My wife doesn’t really care at all if I look at porn. Hell, she looks at worse sites than I do!
Second: Neither your boss, nor any of his friends could find their way to the “back” button? They all were so caught unawares by this naked girl on the screen that it was simply impossible for them to get out of her wanton clutches? Look, if you’re going to voluntarily relay a story about watching online porn then man up and SAY you were looking at online porn. Don’t insult the ingelligence of your listener.
Married woman. I don’t care if my husband looks - in fact, I know he does, and he’s talked about it as well - and vice versa. As long as he’s not spending a lot of money on it or getting viruses on his computer, that’s no big deal.
I know my husband does it. I don’t care - I do it sometimes, too, so telling him not to would be extremely hypocritical. I’d be happy to watch it with him, too.
I read and watch it though my tastes are pretty narrow, though not specific (I’m not always sure what I’m looking for but I know when I find it. And I risk totally killing my boner on the way there if I come across too many fake moans/breasts). We have no restrictions for one another, and I really don’t understand them unless you have had experience with someone who was addicted to porn or who opts to jerk off to it instead of having sex with you – then it becomes somewhat understandable.
I am slowly learning what the SO likes as we watch stuff, mostly foreign retro movies, together. Watching with someone often makes anything offensive or laughable that much worse. I’m not sure I’d want to know everything he watches and likes, as I know from personal experience that it doesn’t always match up with what you like and want from a real partner, and that sometimes a particular scene or kink is a one-off thing that you feel ooky about after and never revisit. Still, I wouldn’t be thrilled to find him really into boring '90s plastic-pigtailed oral/vaginal/anal/cumshot porn, if only because it’s so pathetically mediocre.
ETA The boss should ask his wife if they can read porn together or listen to it online, if she’s into that sort of thing.
I look at porn online quite frequently. My wife knows, but doesn’t enjoy it, so she doesn’t look at any.
The understanding behind it is basically this: I’d prefer to have sex with her about five or six times a day, but she feels that’s excessive (weird, right?)…so that’s where the porn comes in, and that’s why she tolerates it. She’s not really a fan of porn, online or not.
Well this guy is the MIS head of a huge company so he knows what he’s doing. He was probably showing his friends how to “download things” not legally. He’s Indian (born in the USA) his wife is Indian (but she was born in India) so maybe it was a cuture thing were the women didn’t care for it.
I know he looks at porn and I don’t care. It’s funny to catch him - “By the way, when I got home and opened up Safari, it was still open to a porn page! Don’t forget to close them all when you’re done whackin’ off!”
Heh - the other day I was typing something into the address line, and some porn site autofilled for me - I looked at Jim and said, “What the hell have I been surfing?” and his response was, “I don’t think I want to know.”
I don’t care if he looks at porn, and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t care if I do.
That’s a real possibility for me. My partner did some porn years ago, when he was in college and needed the money. I know it’s out there, and it kind of bothers me, but not too much.
And there’s no self-contradiction when these individuals simultaneously impose “If I don’t feel the need for sex, then you have no need for sex,” because it’s not about sex, it’s about control.
I know he looks at porn, I do too, we don’t much together, but probably should.
I get mad when he doesn’t sufficiently remove links and history etc on the computer, because we have kids who use his computer sometimes and he should know better - it happens rarely but still. If it was just us using the computers though I wouldn’t care.
