Featherlou,
In all seriousness, if you “give up” you are opening up the real possibility that you will go so far in debt that you will not ever get out… or at the very least declare bankruptcy and then you’re fucked for years. Not good. especially since you’ve tried so hard by having a small wedding and watching your bills.
I do not have all the answers but please, consider that very carefully.
I’m really sorry to hear about your problems, featherlou. I posted my own bitter story about my financial problems a little over a year ago. I finally got myself into a situation where I could be unemployed for an extended period of time and I wouldn’t be homeless. Of course, subsiding and having a decent lifestyle are two different things. I also need some dental work done and I have no clue how I’m going to afford it.
I kinda gave up like erl did, and it improved my stress levels. It didn’t fill in my cavities though.
I really hope it gets better for you.
::Heavy sigh:: Since I seem to be physically incapable of blowing huge wads of cash, my giving up will most likely be only symbolic. Jim and I will keep plugging along, just like we’ve always done, but maybe our expectations won’t be as high as they used to be. Remember way back when when you graduated high school, and you expected to get a good job and buy all sorts of nice things for yourself, and live happily ever after? Well, reality keeps on setting in. I have no expectations of ever being rich; my goal is to get comfortable enough so that we can actually have a vacation every year, and still pay the bills and buy food other than Kraft Dinner. Sometimes being an adult just sucks.