I’m gonna have to over-share a bit on this thread, just because I have a lot of crap on my mind and maybe if I let it out, it won’t overwhelm me quite so much. Not really seeking advice to “solve” any particular issue, just looking for commiseration I guess.
Weather in Iowa sucks ass in a big way. Got 1-2 feet of snow on all the ground, plus numerous piles well over 4 feet. We just got an ice storm, so now everything is covered with .5-1 inches of snow. Its gonna rain on Saturday, with the potential for flooding. Its supposed to snow on Sunday/Monday and again on Wednesday. Fuck I am so tired of crappy weather. And winter isn’t even half over.
My job is in Mergers and Acquisitions, but the trick is that I work for a company that has no interest in doing any mergers or acquisitions. Sounds like my boss will likely be given 6 months to find another position in the company, but I don’t know what will happen to me. I won’t get definitive answers until February. But in the meantime, I literally have no work to do. But face time is still important.
Husband did something really stupid last year :mad: and is without a job and without unemployment. We are on the way to bankruptcy. (All our fault - not trying to blame anybody else, so please do not come here to be judgmental or tell me how smart you are for not having cc debt. Although I still do want to give Citibank a big “fuck you” for doubling and then raising interest rates yet again (which pushed us over the edge) after they got theirs from the US govt.) I will be reaffirming the debt on the house, cause we’ve been remodeling it for 8 years (added a second story) and no fucking way I am letting go of it now that its close to done. But the mtg is an ARM, and I sure the fuck can’t refinance now, since the value isn’t there. And I sure as fuck won’t be able to refinance for several years, if I file bk.
I won’t even get started on all the political/religious and popular culture crap that I get crabby about. This thread would never end.
Fuck - what the hell happened?? I am obviously witnessing a massive change in the way things are compared to how they used to be, but I just don’t see how anything good could come out of these changes for the average person. I played by the rules, but now they changed the fucking game. My “best friend” (second to my husband) is no good to talk to, hence me coming here. Where hopefully someone can show me some bright spot so that my weekend doesn’t get wasted with me crying in the corner.
Thanks for trying gang green but I have numerous times woken up flailing limbs and pushing my dog out of bed and yelling “spiders”. Not clicking that link. But you totally made me smile!
So I was walking down the street and this guy asks me, ‘Hey! Do you want some porn?’ and I say ‘Corn?’ and he says ‘No. Porn.’ and I say, ‘Oh, but I like corn.’ so he says, ‘Well this porn has corn in it.’ And I say ‘really?’ and he says ‘yes!’ so I buy it. And I took it home and I watched that porn from begining to end but I didn’t see any corn in it at all so I said ‘Aw shucks!’ and then I said, ‘Wait! You shuck corn! Maybe that’s what he meant!’ and now whenever I see porn I was always think of corn. The end.
I’m honestly not trying to be “judgmental” or telling you how “smart” I am, but if you do whatever you have to do to get your financial affairs in order and live debt free (other than a reasonable mortgage), well … it’s like having the weight of the world being lifted off your shoulders and everything else won’t affect you as much. Sometimes you have to make hard financial decisions over things you don’t want to let go of, like an ARM mortgage and remodeling that isn’t needed to keep the house up to code.
I’ve been broke, jobless, seriously ill, almost out on the street, you name it, years ago. I never thought I had financial issues. In most ways I didn’t, but after everything was over with and I was back on my feet, I realized that there were ways I could have handled my money differently before everything happened so I could have ridden out the storm much better.
Do you know who Dave Ramsey is? He has a heavy Christian slant, but his financial advice is sound. It can seem a little harsh, but it works. Giving up things you don’t absolutely need and things that you want or feel entitled to but you really can’t afford when it comes right down to it is taking care of yourself, not punishing yourself. It may not feel that way when you start off, but you will get your financial life in order and you won’t dream of having it any other way when you are done.
otternell, sorry to hear about your problems. Been there, done that. Actually still there and getting it done to me on a regular basis. Here’s a littlepick me up.
Of course , you should stop being so negativeand keep things in perspective.
That surprise kitten video might just be the most squee-able on teh whole interwebs! And Monty Python is always a blast!
Thanks Slypork and everyone! You have all really helped me get my head on straight.
I’m usually fairly optimistic, but for the last few months its just been hard to be my usual self. It definitely doesn’t help that with no work to do, I have 8 hours a day to fixate on my problems, which always makes them look that much bigger than they are.
Oh well, my probs are small thankfully and thanks to all for “listening” and trying to make me smile!
Thanks guys - you really have been helping! I guess I just needed something to make me smile.