This is somebody that haven’t seen or heard from in 5 years, but we had a torridly hot relationship while it lasted…and I opened the mailbox yesterday to find a letter from her in a MARYLAND DEPARTMENT CORRECTIONS envelope.
The letter itself is pretty banal, how-are-you-doing type of sentiment.
On a whim, I looked her up on the Maryland Judicary website and it looks like she received a two-year sentence for burglary, theft over 1,000 dollars, and drug possession. All the charges stem from June of this year.
She evidently hit the skids sometime after our relationship ended. We were both into drugs, but I quit and she most likely didn’t.
What do you guys think, should I send her some commissary money or something? She’s a very small and delicate girl and I think she’s gonna get eaten alive in jail. Of course, my common sense is telling me to have nothing to do with this situation, but I can’t help feeling pity for her. My biggest fear is that if I correspond with her or send her money, she’ll show up on my doorstep once she gets out, and that’s the last thing I want, hot sex or no.
Might check to see if you can put a little something in her commissary account anonymously. That way you’ve done a nice thing without exposing yourself to ex-con visits.
Go out to your car. Slam the driver’s side door on your genitals until the urge to have any kind of contact with this woman passes. Repeat as necessary.
One of my wife’s former students is serving a life sentence. He never had much family, and locked on to my wife as a mother figure. She knows how important she is to him, but she constantly tries to keep the relationship arms-length. A few letters during the year, taking his phone calls every couple of months, that sort of thing.
If you don’t want her back in your life, stay away. If you let her back into your life, that’s where she’s going to be.
I just can’t imagine being afraid some hot cutie I knew is going to show up wanting sex, I’d love to have your problem. I mean if she did show it does not mean you are obligated to marry or anything you know. I can see avoiding this if you yourself are now married as some women have silly reservations about helping other out in this kind of situation, but just consider it charity work you could really feel good about.
But make sure you have a fight first. Bonus points if her name is Mulva. Make sure to say Heelllloooooooo for me.
But seriously. If you think you could do a little something WITHOUT her finding out its you, I would be inclined to. If she’s not so much a bad person as a decent person that did something stupid, I think a little kindness might be in order.
Said hot cutie is in prison for drug-related crime, apparently. When your personal shit starts disappearing because she is selling it to feed her habit and her scabby drug-addict friends start coming around (and stealing your shit) and her dealer starts leaning on you for the money she owes, you’ll cry yourself to sleep at night wishing you’d slammed that car door on your dick.
