Quote Blazing Saddles to him. If he gets offended, say, “Not a movie buff, then?”
Regards,
Shodan
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Maybe a simple “excuse me” might be better. “Hey girl” sounds like you’re trawling for hookers to me, no matter how you intend it.
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So what if I am? Don’t judge me! 
I’ve never actually heard of this as being a problem before… shrug Still, thanks, you may have saved me a slap in the face, or worse yet, not getting those digits!
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Quote Blazing Saddles to him. If he gets offended, say, “Not a movie buff, then?”
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“They said you was hung!”
I am amused, by the way, that one of the Google ads on this page reads, “Obama seeks women voters.” I can see it now:
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I am amused, by the way, that one of the Google ads on this page reads, “Obama seeks women voters.” I can see it now:
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All right, now come down here and clean my monitor… 
post 18 is correct. you are not under any obligation to speak to anyone you don’t know or are not introduced to. (you are not under obligation then either, as you may have good reason to cut them direct.)
of course, giving chapter and verse of miss manners’ isn’t ness. as well, 'cause then you would be talking to him. and he should know that anyway.
you did the best thing just walking on. he will believe what he wants to whether you spoke to him or not. in his mind anyone who doesn’t fall upon him and do all manner of salacious things is just crazy or a racist, 'cause it could’t be him. right…!!!
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“They said you was hung!”
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“And they was right!”
(Sorry; I couldn’t resist.) 
[QUOTE=RedRosesForMe]
Do you do it to get their attention before a legitimate question, or just to hit on them? If someone said “Hey girl, do you know how to get to Treaure Island?” I might not have a problem with it, although I do sort of have a problem being addressed as girl, sweetie, or those sorts of familiar terms.
But I swear I’m not easily offended! 
I get hit on a lot when I’m out and about, not because I’m the shit, but it does seem to be primarily men of color (I’m working on getting rid of this ghetto booty). I usually don’t get offended by it, depending on my mood and the method of hitting on, my reaction can be anywhere from a smile and feeling flattered, to downright annoyance.
I just thought it was funny that he accused me of not talking to black people.
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I’ve had a few guys I’ve known say this can be a tactic used to get a girl to talk to you. Not this EXACT thing, but something insulting to get the girl to start talking to “prove” that what you said was wrong.
I can’t for the life of me remember what strange radio guy was giving this out as advice, but that’s what it reminds me of. It’s a lame example, but something like "That bag looks expensive, but I’ll bet it’s fake, huh? to get the girl to defend herself. This starts a conversation that hopefully he can turn around.
Of course, my example is lame because if a guy said that to a girl she might think him gay.
I was accused of being racist because I wouldn’t allow an African American door-to-door solicitor in my house. As a single woman, I don’t let anyone I don’t know in my house - black, white, male, female, etc. (Altho I have been known to take in stray dogs.) Needless to say, I didn’t contribute to his cause either.
Just to put another slant on it, I’ve been accused of being racist after refusing to give money to black panhandlers; the fact is, I don’t give money to panhandlers of any color. It’s just a way of trying to induce guilt to further their own agenda; it’s barely short of extortion in my view.
You should have called him “boy” to see what would happen…
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Trying to draw a line between racism and sexual attraction is ridiculous. After all, if not being attracted to black people makes you racist, it would follow that being attracted to black people means you’re not racist. So I guess all those slaveowners who had sex with their slaves weren’t actually racist, but just pretending. :dubious:
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I suspect that had more to do with power and availability than attraction.
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I suspect that had more to do with power and availability than attraction.
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I suspect you’re right.
I had to ask a bloke to leave a cinema I was working at.
His response was “You’re doing this because I’m black are’nt you?”
“No I’m doing this because haven’t actually bothered buying a ticket and sneaked in through a fire exit.”
"You wait !the Race relations Board are going to hear all about this say goodbye to your job arsehole,you’re going to regret this "and so on.
Maybe from then on I was supposed to turn a blind eye to any minority blaggers for fear of all the hassle I would receive but I never did.
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Needless to say, I didn’t contribute to his cause either.
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Lemme guess – from the Nation of Islam, right?
Seems to be a common tactic among panhandlers, one came up to me yesterday and asked me if I was cool with black people, I responded yeah, but I’m not cool with beggars.
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What th’–?
Call me Emily Post if you must, but no woman in any public place is obliged to respond to an address from a man she does not know.
Any problem the man had with your silence is his problem, not yours.
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No woman, no man and no child, either, for that matter. This man was simply attempting to manipulate you into responding to him, and using that opening to expand on the interaction. You have no duty to respond to anyone you do not wish to, except maybe the cops, and there is a limit to that, as well.
Good grief, I’m sorry this happened to you. As a black man myself, I feel badly that anyone would use that line to get your attention. Its cheap, its wrong and its silly. In essence he was denying you respect he claimed to desire. I mean how could it be other than racism that you didnt respond? He didn’t think you might have had any other feelings or reasons for not swooning immediately. Geez.
You shouldn’t feel badly or worry about it at all.
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I’m always curious as to what those guys are actually trying to accomplish. They aren’t really trying to pick up girls, right? Because the strategy seems to be aimed at the opposite effect. Is it some sort of thing they do to impress other males with their virility and general manliness? Are they trying to assert their manliness to women by insulting them? What is it?
I think we need an anthropological study here.
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Yes, the approach is very effective for picking up a certain type of girl. The type of girl who would go off with an ethnic dude because he is driving a tricked out Honda Civic with the custom stereo. Basically hood rats, white trash skanks, prostitutes, drunk community college girls on Spring Break, etc.
I don’t know what kind of girl goes off with a black dude driving a golf cart who’s name isn’t Tiger Woods.
I don’t know about that, I certianly wouldn’t turn down Taye Diggs or Blair Underwood for cruising around in a golf cart. I would, however, turn them down if their pick up line was, “Hey, girl! You talk to black guys?”