The strangest thing happened to me this morning. I (a gay guy) was walking from my parking garage to my place of employment at about 7:30am this morning. I normally like to get to work a bit early so I’ll have time to sit out in the outdoor area (weather permitting) in front of my office, writing in my journal, catching up on emails, etc. A rather nice looking Mexican guy, about 40 years old, came up to me and handed me a take-out menu to a nearby deli that had just opened up. He was dressed in cargo shorts, t-shirt and looked very clean and well-groomed. So, I took the menu and said “thank-you”. Then, he started speaking to me in relatively good English. He said he was from Mexico and had been in the USA for about a year. He also said that he had been working at this deli for a few months and they were trying to get more business, hence his early morning menu distribution. He went on to say that I looked familiar to him and he asked where I lived, and I gave him a general idea as to what part of town I lived in. Periodically, during the conversation, he’d give a menu from his stack to a passerby, but he always came back to me to continue the conversation.
Then, the weird part happened. We chatted for a few minutes and he noticed my name tag, which was clipped to my belt loop, slightly to the left and a bit down from my belt buckle. He said, 'oh, you work here", and reached out to grab my ID badge to get a closer look. But, as he was holding my ID badge, he caressed my naughty bits with the same hand that was holding my ID. It wasn’t an innocent graze of my dick, but a very bold, extended rub. I was a bit shocked at how forward he was. I was standing up at the time and started to back up a bit to get away from him. Then, he put his hand on my shoulder and said, 'do you like massages?" and before I could say anything, he started to massage my shoulders. I told him that I felt a bit weird about this whole conversation and his actions and excused myself. But, he kept trying to engage me in a conversation while I was walking away and said, 'I’m just looking for a friend to practice my English with, hope I didn’t offend you…you are very attractive". I’m no prude, I lived in San Francisco for a number of years and was active in the gay community, but I live in a very conservative city now and his actions were a bit odd to me. At the time, I didn’t feel “violated”, but after it was all over, I did feel a bit used. I think this guy was either a sexual predator or slightly mentally “off”, or a mixture of the two.
Except for the general pre-conversation, this all happened within a period of about 30 seconds, and it all seems a blur now. What really scared me was that this guy seemed normal at first, was good-looking and seemed harmless. Another thing that frightens me is that I would have definitely considered a hook up had the situation (and his “too bold actions”) been different, i.e. a gay bar or something.
And to make matters worse, as I was walking away, he said, “Can I come back to see you again on Monday?”. Jeez, the things that happen to me…
As for the possiblity that he might try again on Monday, is pepper spay legal where you are? Some jerks are put off by just seeing hooked on someone’s belt loop or keyring.