See post #2.
Things like start drama…
Give yourself a Tabasco enema.
That’s not gonna help, I’m serious about this!
I said, what do you do that’s WORTHY of attention? “starting drama” sounds more like you’re a self-centered brat and that’s not something people want to pay attention to.
Eventually your family and what friends you do have will get tired of that bullshit and you’ll see less and less of them. maybe that will be incentive to change.
Or you could move to southern California. Attention whores are a dime a dozen there.
Electric Shock perhaps?
Gee, you sound so committed. Since you won’t share what’s going to soon be taking up your time, why not try just hanging out with some people who’s maturity and character your respect?
Remember you’re not there to show off your skills at being immature, the exact opposite, in fact. Now, emulate their behaviour.
If you’re 20 yrs old and can’t stop yourself from being a drama queen, (which I don’t believe for one minute. You’ve just convinced yourself it proves you’re clever, as an exercise/stimulation for poor little bored you! What a crock. In life you are not your intentions, “I was just bored!”, you are your actions, and your actions reveal you to be an asshole!), you should seek out a therapist.
You are now, as a young person, just raw material and quite malleable. Couple more years, exercising your drama queen muscles, and the die will be somewhat cast, change will be much, much harder to achieve. That’s all you’ll be, though I’m sure you’ll be outstanding at it, dare I say even gifted?
Sigh.
The above post was what we call ‘facetious’. Everything about the thread screams “tedious attention whore” and there was never any doubt you would tell us all about it.
Look, if you really think this is an issue in your life, I do have a civil recommendation. Start paying attention to other people.
Do something incredibly interesting that causes people to pay attention to you without the drama. Spend a year backpacking across the globe so you are always the fascinating foreigner wherever you go and when you come back you will have at least a couple years worth of story telling out of that. Write a decent book and arrange to set yourself up on a speaking tour once it is published. Start a charity or invent a new product of some kind or something. Just be interesting and I promise you will get all the attention you could ever want.
I actually thought you were being sort of light-hearted and funny in your OP, not serious.
You’re probably not going to get a whole lot of help on this (or an, probably) message board. Seriously, if it’s something that really bothers you, there are steps you can take to simply stop doing whatever it is, specifically, that makes you an “attention whore.” Seeing a counselor could be one of those steps…CBT can be a very effective approach for changing behaviour.
If you’re over 16, you’re selfish and spoiled and in need of some real drama in your life, something that takes you beyond yourself. Go volunteer at a homeless shelter to see what real hardship is.
If you’re under 16, you’re a teenager, you’ll grow out of it.
She’s 20.
Someone who constantly craves attention, and creates drama whenever she feels she is being ignored, wouldn’t be a very good volunteer in most instances. No volunteer organization (or those that have needs needing to be met) is likely to benefit much from someone who’s potentially disruptive or themselves needy.
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Well color me 10 shades of shocked!! :eek:
Opal Jr., is that you?
Oh, it’ll cause a little drama, I assure you!
Are you currently in school? If so, what kind of program? Consider taking more/more challenging classes, which will require you to focus on studying and class work, and suck up the time you would otherwise have free for drama-creation.
slm2955, good on you for realising you have a problem.
You could start by trying to diagnose yourself. Ask someone who knows you well for advice. My best bet is that “drama queening” can mean you have an histerionic personality disorder, a borderline personality disorder, or a narcissistic personality disorder. The latter two can’t be self diagnosed, because people with those typically lack self-insight, but histrionics usually can see themselves somewhat more clearly and are more eager to seek help. My money (and I’m a psychologist) is that you will be an histrionic.
If you are, the next step is reading up about it. Check out the links in the wikipedia article, and check out Amazon. Knowledge is always useful for self-insight.